Heart Broken over Daughter's Calls....What do I do?

Rebecca - posted on 06/12/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

My daughter just turned 7 and due to an incident that happened a few summers ago she can only spend two weeks at a time with her father. How ever she is to spend a total of 6 weeks thru out the summer. It's the same old game every year since we split and divorced. He says he has no money to do anything with her, makes promises and does not keep them, has remarried and has step kids and to my amazement they have nice things but destroy my daughters things that are at his house. We started off with the problem of her not being able to call me when she wanted so I bought her a cell phone to take with her and she calls me daily and sometimes several times a day. Here is my problem. I talk it up making it sound fun and exciting that she is going to get to see her daddy and she gets excited to go but then a few hours of being there or maybe a day later the calls start. Hello....mommy I want you to come and get me. I don't like it here and they are mean to me (talking about her step-sibs). They are calling me names and hitting and kicking me. I ask if they were diciplined for their actions and sometimes they are and sometimes they are not. She also says that her father does not spend time with her and that she wants to come home and never go back. I try to calm her down and explain that her daddy works long hours and that he will spend time with her when he gets home but she says no even when he gets home he just sits in front of the tv or computer and does not spend time with her. I have talked with him and he just blows up and yells and cusses at me. Everything is my fault and I baby her and give her everything. I try to explain that I don't baby her I spend time with her and that is what she would like for him to do as well but he does not understand that. She is terrified of him and will not tell him anything because he yells alot...one reason we split up. When I talk to him he cusses and complains about his step-kids in which makes me wonder what he says about our daughter. He has been violent in the past when his current wife left him after an argument. My daughter seen that anger and is afraid that he would be that way towards her if she spoke up for herself. She was also in the room while he threatened me over the phone because I was taking him back to court for non-payment of child support. We have done some therapy but it didn't help...what do I do now?