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Michelle - posted on 01/13/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )

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For all you that have read past post I don't have a good relationship with my sons father and his GF but the last few months we have all gotting along.. To the point where she talks to me and I will drop Trenton off to her.. they came to my sons surgery and we all sat in the waiting room and had a convo and all went well.. I even talked to her when she came back to see Trenton when he came out.
We live in a small town and my mom works with his sister in law so everyone knows everyone.. anyways my mom tells my sister that she heard from someone that knows his sister in law that he was taking me back to court bc I have letting him have more days with him. I mean we live 4 blocks away so its not like he wouldn't see him anyways. Then all of a sudden after three years or more his mom calls me and whats Trenton.. I let him go... then the aunt ( which she hasn't called) I don't mind his family getting to see Trenton when he doesn't have him.. Im scared that hes gonna take me back to court. He says he isn't bc I called and asked but with the past that we have had I don't know if hes telling the truth or just saying he isn't.
I have fought to hard to keep my son and I don't want to mess that up but I don't want to keep him from Trenton.. What should I do?

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Christina - posted on 01/15/2011

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If he takes you back to court, you have a leg to stand on. You are allowing him a good relationship and he is trying to take your son from you. Courts don't like that.

Michelle - posted on 01/14/2011

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We do have a court order and i have full custody with him just having visitations. I do write everything down. Have done that for the past three and half years. When I take it to court I always get get told they can't use it so I have no clue. I'm scared of losing my son! He's been with me since birth and if he does take me to court and they do let him have him part time I will die. As for Trenton that would be hard on him he hasn't known anything else.
I mean I love the fact his family want Trenton I'm just scared.

Lacy - posted on 01/14/2011

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My question is do you have a court order? I have two children from my ex husband and I can relate to what your going through... We are both remarried now and still have times when we talk or dont talk but just figh and I have learned that If you tell the other person your battle plan you dont have the advantage. This being said if he was thinking about taking you to court I dout he would tell you, but he would tell someone and not a whole lot of people know how to keep quiet so I would kinda read into what others are saying, dont go and question him because then he knows you know what his "so called" plan is. Just do what I do.... keep a notebook of everything involving your ex. Example: I let (childs name) go visit (ex name or ex family member's name) on this date for this long. write down every text/ voicemail from him, even the small things. Im doing this and you know what I went to court a month ago and I used a text message to my advantage And since I had the date/time/ and message the judge asked if he really said that and there wasnt really anything my ex could say. :) If your being a good mother I dont see a court taking your child from you.

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