Heather - posted on 04/01/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )
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I have two little boys and my ex-husband is terminating his parental rights. I am remarried and my husband wants to adopt them. They ask about him all the time and want to see him. I doesn't help that we are six hours apart. Their bio father still calls about once a week but doesn't want to see them. How do I explain this to them in the easiest possible way or do I just wait for them to ask? They are 6 and 3.
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Valerie - posted on 04/14/2010
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With gentleness and honesty...explain that sometimes things just don't work out and that their daddy is doing what he feels is best...if at all posssible make this situation open-ended for them to reunite some day...as he will probably live to regret this decision...my son did a similar thing years ago...i paid for the adoption and we made it as open as possible...he is slowly working his way back into his son's life...i have always been a part of his son's life...the adoptive father has been very supportive of my son and the gift he received in being able to father my grandson...what will make this go the best is being there to listen and their new father being a caring and understanding father...all the best
Ellen - posted on 04/03/2010
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You should go to a child psychologist or a school counselor for the best possible way to handle this. I personally would wait until they asked and then tell them the truth, that their daddy moved away and agreed to let your husband be their daddy because he thinks that is what is best for them. When they get older and have more questions, you can then tell them that their father gave up his right to be their father.
Melinda - posted on 04/02/2010
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Kids are incredibly adaptable and understanding little creatures. When they ask to see him, just tell them to ask him when he calls...let him explain it to them. And if he won't just tell them that Dad lives along way away and can't see them and thats why he calls or something like that.
I think you should get your new partner to take the kids out and tell them that he would really love to be their proper Daddy because he loves them so much and ask is it ok with them
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