How many divorced mother

Chrissy - posted on 01/17/2011

Don't loose hope Marcella! It will work out in the end, you know that as well as I do :) Keep your heads up and keep doing what your doing.

Marcella - posted on 01/06/2011

AMEN!!! The battle continues though I am now an Assistant manager and my husband works part time at the same place and it is STILL not enough loosing all HOPE!!

Tessa - posted on 01/03/2011

You are deffs not the only one hunni! Since I was legally old enough to work I have been working! When I became pregnant at 17 I was still at KFC, about half way through the pregnancy I began a traineeship with QH and havent looked back since! I only had two months off work (almost!) when Lily was born and that is my ONLY regret - when it comes to work anyway! Her father is from a family of dole bludgers and thats just what he is too, it didnt take me long to leave him, too long still though! I want my daughter to know what I know, nothing you have is yours if its from a government handout, you need to work hard for what you want in life as nothing comes free. I want her to be able to grow up and be able to support herself without having to rely on a man to look after her. It will be great when she grows up, she will see mummy working hard, being able to take her on nice holidays, buy her nice things, have a full fridge and cupboard all the time ect, while daddy sits at home playing computer games, in his shit box dept. of housing house. It wont take her long to see which life is better!

Nichole - posted on 12/11/2010

Children need to be able to see a parent carry on, succeed, and to be strong, and that will show them not only coping skills but also the commitment you have for THEM. So you are an AWESOME hard working mother...good JOB!!!

Marcella - posted on 12/09/2010

You are so right I had to actually say that they could not take my pay into consideration for a child support adjustment I refuse to help pay child support so my husbands ex wife can sit on her butt at home and not work, there are jobs out there if you just look for them I mean I found two within three months of each other

Sarah - posted on 12/09/2010

I agree that there are a lot of moms AND dads out there that refuse to work and milk the system. My ex husband had a friend who was third generation welfare momma and I just about bit her head off when she said the government wasn't going to give her HER money this month because she wasn't working yet. I turned around and said "You mean they won't give you MY money this month." At the time I only had one kid. I am now up to four (pregnant with my fifth) and have a step son. I still work and manage to be involved in the kids schooling and outside activites. It's a want to do all these things and a privilege, but a lot of people don't see it like that.. But a lot of those people in my experience aren't really parents, they are just egg and sperm donors.

Marcella - posted on 11/23/2010

Thanks Amy I dont know but it is an ongoing battle with us and I guess those of us that work are expected to pay for the moms that refuse to work and live off welfare and live in goverment housing

Amy - posted on 11/23/2010

How does that person think you are to take care of your kids if you are a stay at home mom. If you work out of your home maybe. Or you have an ex that pays you enough to meet all the needs of you and your kids. But most of the time I dont think that happens. Good Luck.

Marcella - posted on 11/22/2010

Thank you all for your replies I just had to ask because was told that a divorced mom "needs" to stay home and take care of he children. Wanted some input thanks all

Amy - posted on 11/22/2010

I am divorced and a mother of 3, (18, 16 & 10) I work a full time job, help with my oldest Boy Scout Troop, A member of the band boosters. Now we are starting basketball season and I will be there to watch my son and daughter play. I couldnt make it if I didnt work. My kids know I work hard to keep a roof over their head and food on the table and have funds for their activities. Dad's child support is a drop in the bucket on what it takes to raise 3 kids. My kids have learned that these last couple years to appreciate what we have and if you want some things one has to work hard to get them. Good Luck.

Carmen - posted on 11/12/2010

You definately are not the only divorced mother that did that. I worked, went to school myself, seen their schooling, along with every single doctors appointment which they had alot of and I had two kids. I think that working shows the kids responsibility and values that may not be even instilled in their father. I am engaged to be married to a hard working man and I am glad to be able to finish my schooling so that I can get a good job also.

Chrissy - posted on 09/24/2010

Your right, there are alot of people who are on SS and shouldn't be on it. They come up with any excuse to NOT take care of them selves or their kids so they milk the system.....I believe it's just laziness, but thats my opinion. I know that there are some special cases to it, but not everyone who is on it is disabled.......

Marcella - posted on 09/23/2010

Thanks Chrissy I too worked two jobs and did PTA, daughter was in high school band, softball,and ran track, then my son who is totally blind which made it twice as hard and he was a wrestler, ran track and feild in Boy Scouts, and was on a Teen United Nations and I too found time for each one of them what is wrong with today's society? Now I really should not be working because of health issues and should be on disability but it is sad someone who deserves it who has worked her whole life and don't mind working can not get any help but people who are depressed or other things that is not really a reason to not work can get disability where I and any other taxpayer has to pay.

Chrissy - posted on 09/23/2010

My mom did all the above.....she maintained all the bills, worked 3 jobs, tried to keep up with our schooling, and still found time to spend with myself and my brothers 1 on 1 at least once a week! I worked 2 jobs to support my kids when no one else would, but when I got hurt I had to quit :( I am now looking for work because I can't stand doing nothing all day with my kids in school LOL