I am having problems with my ex mother in law.

Theresa - posted on 11/17/2008 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My ex husbands mother is telling my kids that i am mentally unstable, bad mouthing me to them. i really need some help with how to handle this.

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Allison - posted on 11/18/2008

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Then the only advice I can give you, is to love your children and show them that you care in the ways that count: calls, quality time, and just being there for them when you can. Make sure they understand that no matter what she says, it doesn't necessarily make it so. But be careful not to badmouth her, or they will feel like they have to defend her.

I speak from experience on this one as my in-laws are very similar in bad mouthing me. Luckily, I have custody because the court saw what a jerk my ex was. But he gets visitation, and my 5 year old is constantly told how I am the reason they don't get to see her anymore. Not a word is said about his cheating on me for a year and a half or his kicking not only me out, but dropping my daughter off with me so his GF could move in.

It's not about the truth at this point. It is about showing your kids thru action. And if you can do that, you will win in the end. Kids aren't dumb. Gullible for a little while, but they aren't able to be fooled forever.

Theresa - posted on 11/18/2008

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The kids are not in my custody, when i do talk to my ex about it, he just laughs it off and tell me that i should know what his mother is like.

Allison - posted on 11/18/2008

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Is there any chance you can cut her out of contact? If she is intentionally trying to damage your relationship with kids in your custody, then if it were my decision, that would be the last time she had the opportunity.

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