I am having trouble with my kids not wanting to go to school, does anyone have any advise for me?

Katie - posted on 01/19/2010 ( 2 moms have responded )

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Especially my 5 year old, she really likes school but she won't get out in the car rider line, and when i take her in she won't go in with throwing herself on the ground kicking and screaming... It hurts me so bad, but i don't know what to do. THe school is very strict about just leaving them but it hurts so bad to leave her like that. I have tried everything i can think of please help...

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Debbie - posted on 01/19/2010

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I had this same problem with my 8 yr old son last year when his dad first left. He was in 1st grade. About a month after his dad left he started crying on the way to school begging me not to take him. It got so bad that he would throw up because he got himself so worked up over it. It killed me inside to see him so upset but if you give in once then they know that you will cave and let them stay home. I also had to literally drag him into his class kicking and screaming all the way. And then walk away as fast as I could leaving him with the teacher. His teacher would hold onto him while I left and then talk to him for awhile. It took him about a half hour but she said he would finally calm down and join the class. I know it helped a lot by me talking to the principal, counslor, teachers and anyone who worked with him during the day so that they would know what was going on. After talking to the teacher I found out there were 6 other kids in his class that were going through the same thing. She sat the 7 of them down during recess one day and told them that they were all going through the same thing. That if they needed to talk to someone that understood they could talk to each other. That really helped my son a lot knowing that he wasn't the only one! By lettting so many people know it gave him people who could go to if he just wanted to talk. I made sure to let him know that it was ok for him to tell them what was happening and how it made him feel. It took awhile but he can finally make it to school ok. He still has his days but very few now.

Karri - posted on 01/19/2010

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try making it a counting down game untill the next day off school, each day she goes she can put a place to go , or a game to play in a wish jar, when the holiday comes let her chose a wish but any day she does not go no wish can be added. make a plastic jar with stickers on to give her a focus for her good days, she will see her wishes grow and know going to school will make one come true :)

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