I hate every other weekend! Any one else?!

Amanda - posted on 11/14/2010 ( 10 moms have responded )

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I have 4 children, and 2 are by an ex and we were both young and things didn't work out. My 2 youngest are by my ex husband and after we were pretty much forced to get married things didn't work past a year. He was there for my youngest daughters birth but than left, and he sees the girls every other weeknd, and the older 2 have just started seeing their dad every other weekend after not seeing him for a yr. They all 4 go the same weeknd and me and my fiance who has no children are left kidless!! It's hard going from a house ful to nothing but us and the dogs!! Anyone else have to go through this? And how do you make things easier?! I hate hearing about their weekends and how much fun they had, it breaks my heart that someone else comes before me...but I smile and listen like a good mommy!!

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Pat - posted on 01/02/2011

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hi amanda i was like that,i left my ex and my son use to go and see his dad,some times i use to wake up early on the day he went i had to keep myself busy all day i was ok cause my son didnt stay over night.i use to look to see what time it was and count the hours i was byside my self with worry and then other times i would be ok,and seemed some times i would woory for nothing,but my son always knew i love him,try and enjoy time for urself i know it will be hard good luck if u want to talk either here or on facebook pat xx

Dawn - posted on 11/21/2010

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I seem to be the only one answering this that doesn't have a significant other to fill the time that my daughter is with her dad. I absolutely hate every other weekend. I am alone and sad every weekend that she is with her dad. The only thing i can tell you is to put on some sad music, cry for an hour or two, then use the time to do the things you cant get done with the kids around. Clean the house, shave your legs, SLEEP!

Brittany - posted on 11/16/2010

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Amanda hang in there. My son sees his bio mom every other weekend and yes the house feels very empty when he's gone. Instead of being sad about it all weekend, though, me and my husband try to see this as our own time to nourish our relationship. It is very healthy, and necessary, to still have date nights and have a relationship with your partner that is outside of being parents. As much as I miss my son I try to see the positive in this; when he comes home he's that much more appreciative for everything I do for him :)

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Christina - posted on 01/01/2011

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Make time for yourself. My attitude is always that we chose to make babies with these men and although we might hate them now, our children are innocent and deserve to have both parents ALL the time. My oldest goes to see his dad every other weekend, and whenever else his dad wants! I live 15mins away from him and his dad knows he can call me for extra time whenever he feels like, and he does it often. Crap, Jaydn's stepmom will call me for extra time because she wants to take him out and I let her. My younger three don't have the option of seeing my ex-husband unsupervised and it has been a long time since they have seen their dad. I feel bad for them because they watch my oldest go to his dad's and they see my stepson go to his moms, but they go nowhere.

Michelle - posted on 12/31/2010

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It is hard in the beginning but now you and your partner can do things like go out on a date night with no kids. Bad things can have a silver lining. What you are going through is part of the process and having a date night could be good for your current relationship

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Every other weekend and I have a love/hate relationship. I hate being alone with no one around. I love the free time though, I can totally lose myself in the book I'm working on, or I can finish the project that's too hard for her to help me with.

Ebonirayne - posted on 12/15/2010

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Well, as the non custodial parent, all I can say is I hate every other weekend because its not enough time with my kids. They are here for a couple of days and I am complete and just so happy and then they go home and my house is empty for 12 days...I was a full time mommy and my children were my world. They still are, buts its hard not having them everyday, for the everyday things like bath and dinner and homework. I get them more than every other weekend thankfully. My ex-husband is very open and lets me get them as much as I can...but in answer to your question, I do hate JUST having every other weekend and not every day.

Danielle - posted on 11/19/2010

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Amanda I know it is hard when the kids are all gone but this perfect couple time. Take up a hobby together and work on your relationship together. Also don't be sad that the kids are having a good time, be happy. At least you know they are enjoying themselves and they aren't sad and miserable when they are gone. I would rather my kids have a good time at their other parents than have to fight with them to go.

Lauren - posted on 11/18/2010

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I know how you feel, but I like the weekends when my son is with his bio dad. It gives me time to study (i'm a full time student) as well as alone time with my fiance. There are times when I miss my son and the house is empty and I'm all alone, but it gets easier.

Chrissy - posted on 11/14/2010

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Amanda, I know it's hard to deal with now, but seriously, I enjoy the weekends that my kids are at their dad's. We have my 3 daughter's full time and my bf's son every other weekends, (we have the weekends set up where all the kids are together on those weekends), but how much I miss them and they miss me, this is "my" time to be me and not worry about who is doing what to whomever.....do you understand? I am so used to waiting on the kids, to hear the arguments day in and day out, but it's nice to have a whole day with none of it....I know it breaks your heart to hear how much fun they had with them but think of how much more it would break your heart to hear that they didn't have fun and weren't treated right.....I hope this helps you!

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