Joint custody

Tina - posted on 07/12/2009

If you live in oregon they only think of the mom, the say its a equal state when it comes to parenting and if the kids can live in either house, but they side with mom. And i hate to say this it should be either parent cause there are some good dads out there too, and some really bad mom's. California lets the kids choose at the age of 12 years old which house they want to live in.

Tina - posted on 07/12/2009

If you live in oregon they only think of the mom, the say its a equal state when it comes to parenting and if the kids can live in either house, but they side with mom. And i hate to say this it should be either parent cause there are some good dads out there too, and some really bad mom's. California lets the kids choose at the age of 12 years old which house they want to live in.

Tashia - posted on 07/07/2009

Yes they do. I dealt with divorce when i was a kid and i had that choice. Im not sure about different state laws but wi is that way. Usually contacting the courts or a lawyer. I had a guardian at lightam which is a person that speaks for a child in court. Sometimes they need substantial reasons why the child wants to live with the other parent. in my case i was being abused by my step dad. My dad tried getting me out of that for almost 10y until i could say for myself. I hope in your case it goes a lot easier.

Julie - posted on 07/07/2009

It depends on the state you live in. However, the court will take into consideration of what the child wants, but also why they want it. My Ex and I have joint custoday and it works out great.

Audrey - posted on 07/06/2009

I think it depends on the state & the laws there, but the court usually will take into consideration where the child wants to live, along with the best interests of the child. It's not always a given, I don't think, but it does make a difference, what the child wants. I'd recommend talking to an attorney to be sure. Lots of them will give free initial consultations, and the internet is a great source of information, just look up "child custody laws" and your state. Hope that helps & you're in my thoughts.