Darlene - posted on 05/02/2009 ( 80 moms have responded )
My 13 yr old daughter does not like to go to her dads on his weekends. If she says no she wants to stay home he starts with the guilt trip to make her feel bad...it works. She then gives in and goes only to stop his bickering at her. When she gets there he lectures her about responsibility and how the decisions she makes can affect the rest of her life. all this because she does not want to be at his house. She is uncomfortable being there as his g/f is always lecturing her about how she does not appreciate anything she has and that she is anti-social (her dad tells her that too), she is bored there and he says he has no money to do anything with her so they have to stay at home. She is sometimes upset after she gets home from his house. She wants to come home but is afraid to tell him for he will be angry with her. She has been seeking counselling and I did confront him about it, of course the blame as always is on me and how I am trying to keep her away from him. He did tell her that he has changed and things at home have changed,.....well that lasted for a week. He is back to lecturing her again.
I do not know what to do. She is old enough to make that decision of going or not and me talking to him is of no use.. It all comes down to her standing up to him.
do divorced moms have the same problem with boys or is this because our child is a girl. :) confused.