Leanna - posted on 08/13/2009 ( 10 moms have responded )
Ok so here it is. My ex-husband is a pastor. Think he could be honest and trustworthy, wouldn't you? Well I guess even they can be ignorant! See our marriage was failing misserably and he knew it. I had been praying about it and so when he asked me for a seperation I took it as a sign that I was allowed to find happiness elsewhere. We had tried marriage counciling but when the Dr told him that he had to start paying attention, he felt he was being blamed and couldn't take it.
Anyhow, I left when asked. And yes I met another man and rather quickly. I met him on the internet first and in person a couple weeks later.
So now my ex decides he is going to brainwash my kids into believing that i was having an affair with this man that lived 250 miles away from me. The funny thing is, when I wasn't with my ex I was either with church members or my youngest daughter who still lived with us.
Anyway. My 2 youngest were so brainwashed against me by him that they wanted nothing to do with me at first. Then 4 months later my baby girl got into some trouble with the law and realized that she needed me for moral support. I ran to her.
I had never tried getting my children to believe in me. My baby girl was the one that told me that her dad had brainwashed her. And I believe it. Well my son still wants nothing to do with me. His father and I have both since remarried and I just dont get why my son wont tell me how I can fix things.
I dont know what I did to hurt him and I tell him all the time that I love him. He has blocked me from his emails and myspace and facebook. I text him and I dont even know if he reads them. It kills me. I dont know how to fix it. I have a friend who didnt talk to her dad for 10 years because she believed he left her mom for his current wife. I just hope it dont take that long!
It has almost been a year anbd I just crumble when I think about him and how much I miss him. I am so thankful for my new husband. He has so much support for me. He gives me encouragement all the time and tells me that one day my son will come around and he too will realize his father was wrong. But I dont know when that will happen or if I can even count on it happening at all.
Anybody got any suggestions. I just really want things to be right with my son. I dont know what I can do.