Caroline - posted on 04/20/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )
He has been "punishing" me for taking him to court for back child support, so for the last 7 weeks he hasn't tried to contact or see the boys (4 and 8 yrs old) at all. I sent him two text messages during this time - both times I wrote "let me know when you'd like to see the boys this week" and he did not respond. I feel like the boys are just getting over the heart break of not seeing their Dad over the last two months (during which time he didn't give a rat's patoot about how they felt). He did something similar two years ago when he went 3 weeks without contacting them. I honestly don't think he's good for the kids at all - he's so damn selfish and they deserve way better. But I don't want to cause further damage by keeping them away from him either. I just want to protect them from going through this heart break every time he decides to disappear. I work hard to find strong male role models for my kids - family members, friends through church, scouts, etc (and I'd love to find a good man to be their step Dad!) Even if their Father is in their life, they need good men to model themselves after.... So, do I allow their Dad to slip back in? I'd appreciate any feedback!