Amanda - posted on 09/03/2010 ( 9 moms have responded )
Okay, so we decided to try to be nice to his ex-wife for the sake of the kids. We thought that by cowtailing to her every whim we were showing the kids how to act around bullies. Yeah right. When we found out that abuse was going on in her house it was too late to do anything. Child Protective Services said that even though there was abuse going on the best thing would be for us to not persue visitation because my step-kids would abuse their younger siblings. They went on to say that the ex-wife has the children so scared of her that CPS can't take the kids away from her until they get the courage to speak against their mother despite the physical abuse she was doing to them.
Well, when she found out about this SHE stopped the visitations herself, and when she found out I was expecting our third child, she decided she wanted another child as well. Then, when it came close to the time for me to deliver, she wanted to be in the delivery room with me. Now, she wants my permission for her to have sex with my husband so that she can have another child since her new husband is infertile.
I'm sorry, but being nice to her was the only way my husband could even TALK to his kids, and for a solid year she would let him see them once a month for an hour. It wasn't until the past week she's decided to let him see them longer than an hour, and only if me and the baby show up with him.
I know that the kids wouldn't lie about abuse going on in her home, and CPS knows that it's coming from her and not us because our children aren't doing what her kids are doing (they are acting out sex scenes, pretending to roll weed joints to smoke and hitting each other with whatever they can get their hands on) and yet she's trying to say that they were telling her that WE were the ones doing this stuff to them. The woman's crazy! I know there are good birth mothers out there, because I'm one of them, but please, someone tell me that I'm not alone in thinking that maybe we shouldn't have tried to be nice to this psycho!