Candace - posted on 07/14/2011 ( 2 moms have responded )
Hi everyone. This is my first time posting to the group but will admit that I have really gotten a lot out of the conersations and posts that I have been reading.
Anyway, I have a 8 1/2 and 6 yo. They have physically seen their father a combined total of 13 days since April 2008. He is a soldier and has been deployed during that time frame but even when he was not deployed, chose not to take any of his visitation "unless I agreed that he didnt have to pay child support". The times that he did see the kids (4th of Jly 2008, Christmas 2008 and Christmas 2009), it was at my home. My oldest (son) has ADHD which he was diagnosed with in May of 2008 so my ex really has no idea what that entails or how to deal/cope with it.
My ex apparently got married in April of this year to a woman that my kids do not know exists. I had asked him if she knew that our son had ADHD and he said "No. But she'll just have to deal with it. I told him that our son needs medication daily and he said "Not when he's at my house. I'll just let him do whatever he wants to do." He said that he wanted to have the kids for a couple weeks this summer. They have never been to Texas (where he lives). In fact, he has never really had an address to provide me, let alone lived in the same place for more than 6 months since he has been stationed there.
I know that there really isnt a question in here. I suppose I am just really wanting some advise or support on the issue. I don't know anyone else going through anything like this.