Sarah - posted on 02/12/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )
Hi everybody, I am new to this group. I just spilt up with my daughter's father. We have been together for seven years and our little girl is 21 months old. This has been a long time coming, over a year actually. It is so heartbreaking because we had been together so long and he was my best friend. It was to the point that I didn't even want to be around him, I hated fighting in front of my daughter. We finally decided it was over and had been for a long time.
Part of this happened a year ago when he began an emotional relationship with a coworker when we were having problems. We had tried counseling and it didn't help. I tried, maybe not hard enough, but I did try to move on and I just couldn't trust him. He moved out tonight, and ironically today would have been our seven-year anniversary.
He is a great father to my girl and we are going to be sharing custody of her. This is going to be really hard for me b/c I have never spent a night away from her and I am with her basically all the time, except when I am at work. This is a really hard and confusing time for me. I know it is going to be really hard on my daughter, too. She doesn't understand yet. After her bath, she said "Where daddy? I go get him." As if he were in the other room.
I am just looking for any advice from anyone in a similar situation. A lot of single moms seem to not have the dad around. Well, that is not the case for me. I need some advice on being single and still sharing parenthood. Thank you!