Angie - posted on 07/19/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )
Every 'gift' son is given by my x and the stepmum comes with a stipulation: 'to be shared' with his 3 stepsiblings as well as all the babysitting kids the stepmum watches (upto 13). The stepsiblings don't treat their own things with respect, and all have lost their stylus pens and broken their DS's and IPods and lost chargers, everything that goes there gets broken, is lost, or denied ever existed. Son has been very responsible with his things, and is a great sharer overall - but he's being forced to share his gifts with the others - punished if he doesn't, his IPod is taken away and given to a sibling, and even the underwear I send son in - is given to the stepbro to wear while son is made to wear the stepbro's too-small underwear. I get that sharing is a good thing, a prerequisite in large families, I endorse instilling sharing, so please don't get me wrong here - but being made to share with others knowing they will break/disrepect/mistreat his things - not allowd to put it away or even hide it - punished if he doesn't share a gift given to him? (They ech got their own IPods for Christmas).
I'm wondering what other mothers out there think about this.