Brook - posted on 06/27/2011 ( 7 moms have responded )
The father of my son, who is now 13, has all of a sudden decided he wants to give up his rights just so he won't have to pay child support anymore. He has been paying off and on for 12 years. When we originally went to court, I agreed to a lower amount than I could've gotten and also agreed to pay for my son's health insurance myself. We recently went back to court because the father wanted more visitation time, essentially 50/50, and to pay no child support, which did not work out in his favor. I did agree to more time, but not that much, and I also agreed to lower the child support, and the judge stuck with what I had agreed to. His father has 2 other sons which he does not pay child support on because they do the 50/50 split and he basically buys everything they need anyway. I will be the first to agree that those children are better off with him, but mine is not. The father says he doesn't like having to pay to see his son. However, he is currently $7000 behind, but he hasn't missed one single weekend or even a day that he was supposed to have. He admitted to my husband that the only reason he wanted more visitation is because he thought he wouldn't have to pay anymore. And, he spent no telling how much on an attorney when he could have just paid that toward what he already owed. What's even worse is that he convinced my son that he needed to be over there more so that he could say it was all about what my son wanted. He never gives him money for anything extra. I buy all the clothes, shoes, etc. that he keeps at his dad's house. I pay for everything school or sports related. He didn't even give him spending money to take on a church trip even though he had been at his house all the time prior to the trip and was supposed to go back there after the trip. I am really amazed that he wants to give up all rights just so he doesn't have to pay child support anymore. I really think he thought if he threatened that, I would just say he doesn't have to pay. Wrong! Has anyone else gone through this? Any advice would be great!