Genevieve - posted on 11/27/2008 ( 7 moms have responded )
My son is straight up difficult- manipulative and only 5. Everything is a struggle and a fight. I think he has Oppositional Defiant Disorder. I also think that his behavior is because of his desire to have power because he feels powerless due to being thrown in different directions due to a divorce. I don't know how to minimize his insecurities when I have no power over when he is with each parent since it's a ruling by the court. How do I minimize the effects the divorce has had on him? How do I show him that he is safe and that nothing bad is going to happen to him? How do I teach him that everything doesn't have to be a fight? Nothing works. I feel like I've tried it all and I'm exhausted from his constant fighting with me. It takes 20 minutes to get him to brush his teeth, for example, and I have to finally walk him to the bathroom and put the toothbrush in his mouth and brush. I know he knows how to do it b/c sometimes he WILL do it on his own. So, it's not like he doesn't know how to behave b/c I've seen him do it. He just doesn't want to do anything anyone asks him to do. Even asking him to wear certain clothes for church is a half hour fight.