Brittany - posted on 11/24/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )
So a little background- my son has been with me since he was about 2yrs old (he is now 6) and he has known me as mommy ever since then. At first he said he had two mommies (as his bio mom is still in the picture- she has him every other weekend) but now that she has remarried and he refers to new husband as step dad he has begun referring to her as step mom. In general he never speaks of her and if he does he mentions her by name (he does call her mommy when he is with her) but recently he has referred to his other house as his step mom's house. I'm not quite sure as to how to handle this. It has always been my opinion that I should stay out of her business and stay out of the relationship my son and her share, but I am thinking that maybe this time I should butt in. Since I am the one that does all the mom stuff with him (school, doctors, sports, etc...) I never felt threatened by him calling her mom since I know me and him share a very special bond and I would actually prefer him calling her mommy if at least it meant keeping the peace, but I'm worried though if I bring this up with her it will just start a fight or that she will get it in his head that I'm not his real mommy. I want things to stay peaceful for the sake of my son and I want him to know that he has two mommies that love him very much but I don't think I should be the one to discuss how he calls her with him. Should I just let this go and wait to see if he will stop and return to call her mom or should I discuss this with bio mom????