Tiffany - posted on 06/27/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )
I am having some trouble with my four yr old daughter. My husband and I separated for a year and he ended up taking her with him and I was devastated. I was homeless and couldn't gain custody, just visitation and he was very selfish with her. I hardly saw her in that year when she was two years old. I worked a lot and bounced from place to place trying to get settled until he moved out of state and I had to follow in order to see my daughter. It was a tough year for me. Thank goodness that new state had my parents in it so I stayed with them and got a job. We ended up getting back together six months later even after all the hurt and suffering he put me through I pushed it aside for the sake of my child. Unfortunately we seem to have grown apart now.
My daughter loves her daddy tons more it seems. She fawns over him and asks him for everything, and even other people like his parents and mine she ignores me unless we are alone, then she barely bugs me for anything and won't talk to me if I go in her room to play or read to her. She always tells me she doesn't like me or love me, she doesn't listen and if I tell her to not do something in front of daddy or my relatives she will go running to one of them and glare at me. Her being gone from me for that year seems to have severed that link that we used to have and I'm sad and a bit depressed and don't know how to get that back. I'm fairly sure that when she lived with him and his parents they used to talk about me badly in front of her also,( they still do they don't like me much). Is there gonna be a way to get that back? Or am I just going to have to work with what I have now and just keep attempting to bond with her the way I have now?