Heidi - posted on 02/13/2010 ( 16 moms have responded )
I have been divorced since this past summer, it has only been in the last two months that my children's father has decided to finally get his kids on his every other saturday from 9 a.m to 6 p.m. Which totals to be about 16 hrs a month that he gets them. He only calls then maybe if they are lucky once every three days... My problems is that he isn't following the time guidlines he is late by like three hours.... or he wants to drop them off earlier... I dont know until a half hour before that he is going to get them or not. the kids start worrying about three days prior wondering if he is coming or not. When I ask or try to pin him down for an answer I get the runaround... He was supposed to get them today, he never showed or called me or them to say if was or wasn't. The kids called him today and left messages and he has yet to return them.. he actually hasn't called them or talked to them in ten days..( he has gone as long as 5 months before) I don't know what to do.. do I let him "control" the time and the day so to speak so that at least my kids see there Dad.... or do I put my foot down and say.. Your day is every other Saturday and make him follow that... I don't want to come across like a b**ch but my kids are suffering greatly.. I don't mind making exceptions when things come up. and having to change the day or time when given ample notice but Iam not getting any notice .... and for crying out loud... its only 16 hrs a month... thats it....!!!! so I need some opinions.. and help!!! What do I do?? and if Iam being picky let me know.. I just don't want to go through the next 18 years at his beck and call..when its only convenient for him to get his children....