Melissa - posted on 05/28/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )
My 11-year old daughter doesn't want to go to her dad's house anymore on their every other weekend visits. It's not court ordered because he is not her biological father but he has been in her life since she was a month old so no matter what he is her dad. He and I had a son together, and when we divorced, we came up with every other weekend schedule (if he lived closer it would be more). She gets really bored because all him and my son do is play video games and they don't go anywhere or do anything. They stay in his tiny little apartment the whole weekend with the exception of walking to his martial arts gym and watching him teach his class or workout. He has no car to drive anywhere. It's also too far for me to give them rides anywhere because I do all the taking and picking up. The last month she has had extra dance classes on Saturdays to prepare for an upcoming recital, so it hasn't really come up too much, but she always whines "do I have to go"? I know she loves him and misses him, but what can I do? I don't want to force her to go, but at the same time I don't think she should miss out on seeing her dad just because she gets bored. She tried to tell me that he "yells at her" well she's at that age where she thinks everyone is yelling at her (moody) so I didn't buy that. I got her to admit it's just because she is super bored over there. I can completely understand her side of things, but at the same time, I want to do whats right and I don't want her and her dad's relationship to suffer. What should I do?