what u do when tells your kids not listen to u

Chrissy - posted on 10/12/2010

OMG I had that happen to me with my kids......their dad told them that they didn't need to listen to my bf or me, they came home and was acting up and they told me that, I went off!! I called their dad and told him that he is NOT to tell them ANYTHING like that ever again, that they need to listen to me and my bf when told to do something. There is NO reason why a parent would tell the child to NOT listen to the other parent, NO EXCEPTIONS!!! He got on the phone with them, told them he was wrong and that they needed to listen to us. It hurts the children in the long run for one parent to say or do something like that to the other parent, because when the kids grow up and see how that parent acted and talked about the other, they just might turn on that parent.

Be - posted on 04/18/2010

You need to talk to him. If he teaches the kids to be that way to you, what are the chances they will do the same thing to him in the future. He is teaching them the wrong values and it will backfire....maybe not now...but in the future.

Valerie - posted on 04/15/2010

let them know that they do have to listen to you and follow your rules when they are with you. let them know that you are there to keep them safe and help them to learn and grow...think about what the consequences will be when they they test the rules and follow through...make the consequences logical, keep your cool but be firm...all the best

Marcy - posted on 03/28/2010

My ex husband does the exact same thing! He bad mouths me to my kids and said that they don't have to listen to a thing I say... It makes for a miserable time, I write down what all they say when I know its coming from the ex. I have talked to him and said if he doesn't stop that I WILL make sure it does by takin him back to court like Nancy said in her reply.. Also, you have to stand your ground and show them that when they are with you they have to and will listen to you by being consitant. The ex either doesn't care or doesn't think about how he is hurting the kids by saying and doing that.. it just confuses them! Good luck with your situation

Nancy - posted on 03/26/2010

I think I would go irrate!! I would def talk to him, if that didn't work I think I would write everything the kids tell me down. Don't hound them for answers though they will resent you over that, but if you can get them to just open up and talk it will come out. Then I would take him back to court to see what they could do about that. Never should he tell them something like that!