Amanda - posted on 11/10/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )
Hey I'm 24 and have 4 children ages 7,4 almost 3, and almost 2. My 2 oldest have just recently began seeing their biological father a few weeks ago after not seeing him for almost 2 years regularly, and my 2 youngest see their father, my ex-husband every other weekend almost religiously. My fiance has been with me and my children since my youngest was about 3months old. He loves them like they were his own children, and he doesn't have any children. My oldest calls him daddy all the time, and now all 3 of my daughters do the same. They all say they have 2 dads! It's cute and I'm glad they all get along! My question I've been wondering is that if my fiance should ever discipline my children or if I should be the only one doing so. My ex-husband says that he is grateful my fiances around, because his daughters need a positive male role model around since he's in the military and is gettin ready to be deployed. He has respect for my fiance and says that he considers my fiance their "step-father" already even though we aren't married yet. My oldest 2 childrens father however is the opposite. We have never really seen eye to eye and I have zero respect for him because of the drama and hell he's put my children through by not being consistant with seeing them. He hasn't yet earned his role as their father and he seems to think that my fiance shouldn't be called dad by our kids because he's not anything to them. My fiance is extremley hesitant on doing any form of discipline. If one of my children are acting up or doing something that they aren't supposed to be doing he'll come and get me. I would like for him to feel equal since he spends just as much time as I do with my children, and I feel he has been here long enough and has earned a place in our family. Any suggestions on making this easier for all of us?!