A lying 5 year old

Elishia - posted on 03/05/2012

What finally got my son to stop lying, he's 5, was I told him we were going to do something he really wanted to do. (Go get ice cream, then go to zoo and stay in a motel with a swimming pool.) I told him when he got home from school we would do all that. He came home and was all excited and happy ready to go. After he 'packed a bag', I sat him down and told him I lied. He was so angry with me! I then explained to him that he felt the same way I feel when he lies to me. It's like once he experienced the anger he makes me feel lying he understood how it hurts other people when he lies. Worked for mine, hope it gives you a little help.

Gabriela - posted on 02/18/2012

Oh my! that's me! My son, who is also 5, is lying about everything. He tells me he gets bullied, the teacher says no such thing. He tells me the teacher punished him for something he didn't do and doesn't know why the teacher is saying so, and she says she saw him do it (pushed a boy and almost hurt a girl in the eyes with some crayons). He told me he had finished the food at school, the teacher told me he actually made a drama about it and ended up trhowing up. He told me he stood up for himself after being attack by a bully, but later told me he didn't. When asked about why he lies, he says he's not lying or that he doesn't know. Kids lie in order to avoid trouble, or to be liked, to feel loved, but it's still wrong. I told my son he doesn't need to lie to me because I love him, and that finding out he's been lying hurts me, and it's not right, because you loose the trust people has on you. But so far, he keeps doing it. I'm thinking about taking him to caunselling, and myself too. The fact that I don't lie to him seems to have no effect on the problem either.

Cynthia - posted on 01/31/2012

I wish I could tell you. My SD is the same way. She will lie about anything. Saturday I asked her if she went to the park with her mom. She told me no, then a minute later told my hubby yes, then when I brought it to her attention that she told me no, she said she was mistaken.