Almost 5 year old is peeing his pants daily lately...Help!!

Chantel - posted on 12/22/2010 ( 13 moms have responded )

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He has been totally potty trained since 3.5 or so.
He has done great for many months, always running to the potty to go when he got "that feeling". He hasn't had any bed wetting accidents at all in probably a year and he's good about going as soon as he wakes up. At preschool (only 3 hours in the morning) he doesn't have any accidents and goes during potty time there. But at home in the past month or two, he is peeing his pants during the day. Sometimes he only partly pees and then runs to the bathroom. Sometimes he full-on wets himself. I took the soft approach at first just talking with him about it and trying to remind him to go more often. (Didn't want to give him "issues" about going potty) But it is getting reallllly frustrating lately because we know he KNOWS how not to and that he should not pee in his pants. When we talk with him about it (in a non confrontational way) he just says that he is too busy playing and that he doesn't want to stop playing to go potty. When we see him "dancing" we remind him to go potty and he insists he doesn't have to. We of course explain that he MUST stop playing to go pee and that it is part of life and it is not appropriate for a big boy like him to be peeing his pants.But he keeps doing it.
So a couple days ago we started taking away his favorite computer game. If he pees his pants, he can't play his computer game that night. It has been 3 nights, and he wants his game pretty bad, but he still keeps peeing himself.

I just don't know what is the right way to deal with all of this.
Any advice or experience with this?? I don't know if it's right to use any type of punishment or not with potty stuff. At the same time, it is obvious he is just being lazy about going potty.

UG! Help!

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H.J - posted on 12/29/2010

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Don't ask him to go to the toilet tell him if he is doing the dance. "Time to go to the toilet". Remind him by stopping the play for the time being. Taking away his toys will just make him anxious and have the opposite to the desired effect. Take control and tell him if he cant go on his own then the grown ups are going to have to treat him like a baby who needs reminding. Pretty soon especially when his peers are around he won't want them to hear you ask!

Brandi - posted on 09/20/2013

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my almost 5 year old has been potty trained for over 2 years and she started peeing her pants often. after i had enough i took her to the doctors and she had a UTI.

Jeanine - posted on 04/13/2011

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My daughter is 4.5 years old and I went through this too. I just had to keep reminding her. I could see that she was just forgetting to go because she didn't want to stop playing. She was being lazy. If she said she didn't have to go I asked to just go and check and if you do, you do and if you don't you don't. I would just remind her every now and then. She had an "accident" at school and I had to come bring a change of clothes for her. That seemed to do the trick. She was embarrassed that it happened at school. So far, so good. No more accidents.

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Nannette - posted on 04/11/2011

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i have one twin that only poops at night when he's asleep. i have found some info on it, called holding it in.encopresis.he has started doing this with pee too.he wears the pullups at night and like clockwork, first thing in the morning, a load to clean up.
he says he doesn't want to wear pullups, but i've told him he has to try and poop before bedtime.
he had a period during Feb.when he was extremely constipated and had to be on laxatives and fiber,etc.
I bought a book 'It Hurts When I Poop' that he likes.It's about a boy that holds his poop in.Still not having much luck,though.

Raychel - posted on 04/08/2011

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I too put Talon back in diapers. He didn't like it at all. I just explained that if he is going to be messing his pants then we need to have him wear one.

Jennifer - posted on 03/29/2011

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My son is going to be 5 in july and he started going in his pants all of a sudden too.... all we had to do was put on a diaper again and told him well if you want to continue going in your pants like a baby, then you'll have to wear diapers like one! He didn't like it and hasn't gone in his pants since lol. I might have only got lucky cause he has a baby sister and doesn't want to be a baby like her and wear diapers! lol

Ashley - posted on 03/29/2011

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I am having issues getting my four year old potty trained. The doctor told me to put his little potty seat in the living room where his toys and the tv are. use the room he uses most so that when he is watching tv or playing with his toys its impossible to "forget". This is really working on my child. It's always in sight so always in mind. Encourage him to go on his regular big potty of course but having the little one in the living room or wherever will work too.

Cherie - posted on 03/19/2011

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We are having the exact same issue with my 5 yr old son, except I honestly don't think that he knows when he has to go. I will make him stand in front of the potty and nothing happens and then 10 minutes later he has wet his pants. Very frustrating! We have taken him to the doctor...negative urine and blood samples (fyi - very uncommon for a boy to have a bladder infection, by the way - the urethra is far too long and it's highly unlikely that's the problem).

Misty - posted on 01/11/2011

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First check what is going on around you and with your family. Make sure there is no extra stress such as someone in your family starting a new job. That will sometimes make a child stop using the potty. Second when he has an accident be very understanding and tell him I'm sorry you can't make it to the bathroom but you need to clean up your mess. Have him take his dirty laundry and put it in the washer. Clean up puddles left on the floor. He might not do it to your standards but you can help a little. This helped my son to stop pooping on the floor and my daughter to stop wetting the bed. They don't like to have to clean up their messes. And yes take him in to have him checked for a bladder infection. When my daughter who was fully potty trained started having accidents we found out she had a bladder infection and once we started the meds she stopped peeing on the floor. Good Luck!!

Kelly - posted on 01/06/2011

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I am having the same problem with my almost 5 year old, except it is with pooping his pants, not so much the peeing part. I have started taking away whatever he was playing with at the time he was too lazy to go to the bathroom. If at the time he pooped it was a video game or a toy, he loses it. It hasn't seemed to help much, he just gets really upset about losing it and then goes on to something else and poops his pants again. I will be watching other replies closely as I am going out of my mind about this too. He starts kindergarten this fall and I'm just so worried he is going to be the kid who gets made fun of for always pooping in his pants.

Carisa - posted on 01/03/2011

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Since he is already trained and he seems to just not want to take the time, I don't think it is unreasonable to punish him. You might try making him stop playing with whatever he is doing when he pees and sit him in time out.

Tracey - posted on 12/31/2010

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I used the sticker process w/ my daughter and that seemed to help also he may have a blatter infection call the dr and have a checkup w/ that... that just might be the case... thats all... good luck and the stickers may help or may not....

Roseann - posted on 12/23/2010

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it seems like right now you are doin good with takin his fav stuff away if he wants it back he will start goin to the potty so keep doin that and dont give in!! also tell him if he keeps doin it then you will have to treat him like a baby and have potty tgime where he will have to sit there until he goes, take him to the bathroom every couple of hours, i know that is time cusoming for you but its better then him peein in his pants. also you may want to see if there is any other reasons why he is doin this that hes not talkin to you about. i hope this helps good luck.

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