Am I going to put my three year old b/g twins in therapy....

Sarah - posted on 07/20/2010 ( 23 moms have responded )

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My son loves to get into be with his sister. They sleep but I just do not want to do any damage pshycologically by letting them sleep in the same bed. They have seperate rooms and quit sleeping in the same crib at about 8 mths and seperated rooms around a year. What to do I have thought I would just move his bed back in her room and use his room as a playroom.

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Sarh - posted on 08/13/2010

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I don't see anything wrong w/this! They are only 3 yrs old, now if they were like 10 that would be a different story. If that is where he is comfortable then leave them, they were your womb together, in the same crib together, thats actually a good thing that they still want to sleep in the same room... means they have a strong bond!

Jamie - posted on 08/10/2010

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You should think about when they were in utero. They were together, they have a special bond that we will never understand. It is nothing to be upset or concerned with. He will eventually want his own space. At this age, I would not worry. GO PLAYROOM!!!

Elisabeth - posted on 08/05/2010

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I think it is sad that people think there is something wrong with siblings wanting to sleep together.

My kids are 17, 12 and 4 and there are still times that they might share beds.

The two eldest are boys and until a year or so ago they mostly did sleep together. And now my 4 year old daughter loves to sleep with her 12 year old brother. I leave it up to the kids - if the 17 year old says he doesn't want his younger brother sleeping with him then they don't ... and if the 12 year old says he doesn't want his little sister sleeping with him then she doesn't. And then there are some nights I just say no because they stay up too late talking and giggling.

And some times the 12 year old and 4 year old want to sleep in my bed (can't blame them in winter, its a water bed and heated, lol) ... so long as everybody gets a good nights sleep I can't see the harm.

Yvonne - posted on 07/29/2010

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ah dont be woryin bout it or dont mind busybodies who try to make an issue out of it for ye
i shared a room wit me brother and till i was around 6 then moved in and shared wit me 2 lil sisters and i really missed me brother in d night times cos we used stay awake chattin and plannin wat we could play d next day or talkin bout d day just gone.......and now we are in our twenties we still hav really close bond to talk bout anything
u are doin a great job no harm is bein done!

Becky - posted on 07/28/2010

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My 4 and 8 year old share a room right now (hard to explain living issue) They had their own bed's, but my youngest would always jump in with her oldesst sister. It got to the point where we just left it as is. There will be a time when they'll want their own beds. At times, my oldest wishes she had her bed back. But, I've noticed, the few times her sister wasn't in the bed with her, she didn't sleep as well.

Leila - posted on 07/26/2010

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Do what you feel is right, they are your little ones, whats the harm at this age before you know it they will be teenagers and at eachothers throats do what you feel is best not what society says you should do! xxxx

Sarah - posted on 07/26/2010

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I don't make a big deal of it I still bathe them together so gender is not an issue in our house. My son has babies and my daughter has trucks. So it is not a gender thing it is more an issue of my daughter does not like him in her bed . She does not mind him in the room but not in her bed. She does not say anything when he gets in bed but she coplains about it in the morning after he does it

Rebecca - posted on 07/26/2010

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i don't see anything wrong with them sleeping together if that's what they want... eventually they will get to big for a sharing a bed to be comfortable and stop doing it naturally. so why worry?

i shared a room with brothers until i was 12 or so. never had a problem with it. you should not make a big thing of gender with such small children!

Sarah - posted on 07/25/2010

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They have been seperated since 6 months just recently has he wanted to be in there last night he stayed in his bed all night but he was exhausted

Melissa - posted on 07/25/2010

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they will be fine. Relax! thye are twins and have the need to be close to one another. if you seperate them beofre they are ready that may cause more harm then good. dont worry about what others think or say. do whatever you think is right. people will always have a comment or an opinion. at the end of the day you need to do what is best for you and your kids. GOOD LUCK !!

Sarah - posted on 07/24/2010

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well moving the bed helped bu he still got up in the night to find her bed. Which he had not done sleeping on the trundle beside her

Rhonda - posted on 07/23/2010

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Well, I wish you all the luck in the world. I hope this helps with the sleeping and that your son stops having night terrors. Good luck. My husband wanted to split up my twins too but I said no. He may think your crazy but your not it is a good idea... Take care

Sarah - posted on 07/23/2010

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The only reason I seperated them at such a young age was that my son had night terrors as an infant/toddler and he would wake his sister and we were putting her in the pack and play in the office so we just made it a room again. I moved his bed today and when they are ready to split they can. My husband thought I was crazy but whatever. He stays in his bed this way and out of mine and his night terrors are few and far between and I think she could sleep through them now

Rhonda - posted on 07/23/2010

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My boy/girl twins are almost 4 years old and they still sleep in the same room. They do not want to be separated. I think this is fine for now. When they get a little older we will definitely separate them but for now they get upset when one wakes up and the other one is already up. So, we think keeping them together for now is the best. Maybe it would be better to put them back in the same room and maybe he will stay in his bed. Not sure just an idea...

Sarah - posted on 07/23/2010

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I am sure the realization will come soon that his sisters room is painted pink and purple and his is red and Blue so he may want to go back sooner than I think

Sherri - posted on 07/22/2010

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My friends twins still sleep in the same room they are also boy and girl and they are going to be 6 in November. Let them be. Anyone who has a problem with it needs to mind their beeswax!!!

Sheryl - posted on 07/22/2010

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Oh, please. Let them be kids and stay together. Many twins, even fraternal are really close. At 3 they are still innocent little babies. You will know when they are ready to be separated. As soon as one wants all boy stuff in his room and the other all pink it will sort out on it's own. Do what you feel is right and enjoy those babies! =)

Sarah - posted on 07/21/2010

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I popped up the trundle and I think if it goes well for a few nights I will move his bed

Carisa - posted on 07/21/2010

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Eventually they will start to want privacy and will stop. My sisters b/g twins shared a room until they were 3 or 4. When the boy moved in with their older brother, the girl was really lonely. I wouldn't worry about it.

Sarah - posted on 07/21/2010

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Thanks guys I have been getting advice from people that I should stop it and quick. She has a trundle in her room so I may start there before I move his bed.

Sarah - posted on 07/21/2010

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There is nothing wrong with that that at all, they have spent alot of time together close :o)
If he is moving into her bedroom quite often you might as well move his crip he obviously enjoys her company and is comforted with her close by.
Personily i think it is very important to give kids there individuality so well done! and i bet they would love a play room!

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