Help my 3year old almost 4 will not use the potty.

Kristy - posted on 01/29/2010 ( 64 moms have responded )

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Douse any one have a suggestion. I have tried every thing other then spanking.

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Sarah - posted on 02/01/2010

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I read a lot of these because I'm struggling myself with my son who will be four in May and refuses to toilet train. With respect, it doesn't help to boast that 'you' toilet trained your kids at 18months. In fact, most paediatricians will agree on average they are ready at 24 months and you shouldn't try before then. Kirsty, the latest advice I am following is from my GP to NOT toilet train and he will do it when he's ready. He's not being naughty (I don't believe adults should hurt their children ie spanking), he's just not ready like 40% of all 3 year olds. You can't MAKE them. In the meantime know you are not alone and it will happen! FYI, I have an older son who is toilet trained, not relevant how old he was either!

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The best potty training resource I've seen is a book by Elizabeth Pantley called "The No Cry Potty Training Solution". I picked it up figuring anything that doesn't involve tears must be good! Every child is different, methods that are successful for one doesn't always work for another. I found lots of useful advice in this book for a wide range of issues, including a quiz that will clearly indicate if your child is ready or not. If they're not ready, it's just not going to happen. Be patient, look up the book at your library and remember that everyone gets out of diapers eventually. Good luck!

Contezza - posted on 02/19/2010

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You need to first check for the signs of readiness and not for a specific age for your child to be potty-trained. My son is already 3 years and 4 mos. but he still wears his nappy at night. I know he is ready to be trained and I'm having a lot of patience in doing that. Familiarize your child with the potty and how it's used by showing her how you go to the bathroom. Pick a time for toilet training when he is most willing to cooperate. Don't push too hard just because you're too determined to do away with diapers, irritated by other people's comments or pressured that your child's about to enter preschool. Try to practice it during bath time when he is taking a shower. Ask him to pee and if he can do it by command, you're off to a good start. After a few times, gradually move him to the toilet seat or potty.

Leila - posted on 02/05/2010

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Generally I don't interfere with people's believe in childrearing methods but I can't shut up in this case: I hope no one will seriously believe in Amanda Philip's advice to use corporal punishment as a potty training method! To make a mental imprint in a child that pain in the buttocks and poo are linked together is nothing else than asking for trouble in the future. It sounds really perverse, I felt sick when I read it. Learning to go to the potty should have nothing to do with fear.

Krystal - posted on 02/03/2010

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Good, don't use spanking that won't work. I made a sticker chart for my older daughter and separated the boxes so that 7 stickers would fit in one box. At the end of the week, I would count the number of boxes for that week and that was the number of little dollar toys she got to pick out. Pee was one sticker, poop was two stickers. Then I would mark the end of those boxes and start another box. By doing this she was trained in one week, and it was around 18 months old. My other advice is: DON'T USE PULL-UPS FOR POTTY TRAINING!!!!!!! They have the absorbency of a diaper so the kid won't feel wet. Wal-Mart sells a package of three thickly lined underwear, that is still cloth and still regular underwear, so they can feel the wet. The only difference is that there's more cloth so that if there is an accident it's not quite so messy. I hope this helps.

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Vickie - posted on 02/20/2010

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I have read a lot of these, because my daughter turned 3 in Nov and she isn't trained yet either. We have been trying, and a couple of days ago, we got her to go on the potty almost everytime. She had 3 days with only a couple of accidents, and today she did fine in the morning, even went once without being asked to go, but after that, she had 3 accidents and didn't even care that her pants were wet. I ran out of underwear, so she is back in a diaper for the night, but I am just thinking if we try everyday and just keep making her sit on the potty every hr, or close to it, then one day she will figure it out, and be potty trained. Hopefully

Cindy - posted on 02/19/2010

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I tried m&m's and they worked for awhile with my little girl, then she went back to using her panties. Then I made a chart and placed it above the toilet and gave disney princess stickers when she went and it worked. She was 2 almost 3.

Marsha - posted on 02/19/2010

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....and for the record, my daughter is in preschool and they accept children who are not potty trained. So if your child isn't potty trained by the time he/she goes to preschool, it is okay, only the fee will be a bit higher...

Marsha - posted on 02/17/2010

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I think this is one of the difficult things we have to do. Our daughter is 3 and a half, and she is mostly potty trained. We have completely stopped using diapers. So sometimes she has accidents in her pants.
We tried a potty chair, a toilet seat for her that goes on the big people's toilet, we tried stickers, candies, asking if she wants undies or diaper each day, punishment - everything. I think they will do it when they want. We can only guide them. However, my one friend said that you don't usually meet an adult who isn't potty trained, so you know that eventually they will be, so why stress over it? :)

Daniella - posted on 02/16/2010

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My son will be 4 next month and just FINALLY potty trained. I waited til he was ready. He asked for underwear and that was all she wrote. I saw that I was stressing him out by forcing the issue on previous attempts.

Crystina - posted on 02/16/2010

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What I did with my daughter was a made a potty chart and made it fun. She loves to go potty cuz she knows the treats she gets at the end of each week. And after a couple days of no accidents then i put on her big girl panties and she loves them. she thinks she is a big girl and prances around in them. hope this was helpful

Sarah - posted on 02/15/2010

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Hello, I was just recently going through the same thing with my 3 1/2 year old daughter. I made a sticker chart, so everytime she went pee she got a sticker on the top portion and a sticker on the bottom portion when she went poop on the potty. It worked okay, but nothing consistent. I tried giving her a stick of gum too, that worked okay. And than on Superbowl Sunday something just clicked. We were at a friend's house and she ran up to me and said, "I have to go potty!" So she went in the bathroom and went poop and pee! My husband and I were so surprised and excited! I have never pushed her, because I was told that it would just make it miserable for the both of us. So my advice would truly be to not push it overboard, but mention it every once in a while. We also told my daughter that we would get her a puppy when she was fully potty-trained and that was a huge incentive to her. Of course, we really wanted a dog ourselves, so it worked out well for everyone! Good luck and don't get too concerned, it will come.

Gem - posted on 02/15/2010

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hi,my little girl would not use the potty at first, i found the best thing that worked was pants with her favourate cartoon and stickers. also when she had a accident in her pants, i would not make a fuss just changed her and say nothing. this seemed to work for her. i would also put her on the toilet when she woke in the morning and after meals and drinks. hope this helps

Rebecca - posted on 02/14/2010

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My son was 3.5 before he started using the potty. There was a lot of pressure on me from my mother in law who would tell me to sit him on the potty every hour or so, but my son has the attention span of... well, of a 3 year old. We had had our second child, and I was still healing, so I could not stand there waiting for him. He would literally take 40 minutes to do a wee if I tried. We'd both end up in tears and it just isn't worth it.

What we did:

We used a potty and then a smaller seat that fits over the big seat on the toilet. He alsohad a step that he could use by himself.

He got to pick out his favourite undies from the shop, and we used a sticker chart and tried like mad to get him to go. Honestly though, it was a new teacher at Day Care who saw that he was in diapers and yet had undies in his bag. She just went "Right, you're a big boy, you can wear undies now." And that was it.

He turned 4 in January, and still has troubles. If he gets involved in the afternoon, he still wets his pants, and he still wears a night diaper that is full of wee in the morning. We're hoping to have him out of night diapers by the end of the year, but I'm taking it one day at a time.

What I suggest:
Wait a month or so before you try again, but in the mean time, read him books on toilet training, get all the stuff to go with it - the potty, the seat, the rewards, the special undies. Have a chat and (try) to figure out why. If he's just not ready yet, maybe wait a bit longer.

Does he have a favourite male relative/friend who would help out? See if they'll come over and leave the door open whilst going to the loo. They could tell your son in basic terms (you know all that water I drank? Well, my body got the good stuff out, and now the rest goes wee wee wee into the toilet) why and what is happening and show him all the little steps - close the lid, flush the button, wash your hands with soap, dry your hands - everything. And then just go about the rest of the visit as normal.

Good luck - and don't stress too much. Society - in particuial the older generation - can put a lot of pressure on us to have our kids doing this or that by a certian age, and toilet training seems to be the main one. Take care, and if it's stressing you (this coming from the person who would be in tears trying to get her son to go!) then stop. Take a break from it - a week, a month - however long you need. And if he happens to be ready in the mean time, break out the rewards if he goes!

Missy - posted on 02/14/2010

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Hi Kristy,

I'm right there with you! My son is 3-1/2 year old, too. He'll use the potty to go pee, but refuses to go #2 in there. He knows and understands when his diaper is wet or messy, but simply does not care about it. He will not ask to go potty or to have his diaper changed. He's got the understanding, communication, and mechanics down cold but we cannot get any further than this, either.

I've tried incentives (M&M's or stickers), competition with his younger brother, explaining these are simple expectations, and also outright bribery. Nothing has worked.

If anyone has any ideas, we'd love to hear them!

Jillian - posted on 02/13/2010

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my son was potty trained 24months i found putting table tennis balls in aer toliet worked great he loved tryin to shout his wee at the balls and when u flush the balls stay as then wont flush down we still have the balls in are toliet over a yr now :)

Crystal - posted on 02/12/2010

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I had a hard time potty training my daughter too. She was just over three and I knew she could do it but bribing her didnt work and the mention of going potty resulted in screaming. SOmeone had told me to let her wet her panties and make her wear them. I thought the idea was good however I didnt really want her walking around my house with pee pants...yuck. So when she had an accident one day I told her taht because she didnt use the potty she had to wear wet panties. I used the thick training panties and put warm water on them. She had to wear them. She hated it and cried and wanted me to hold her...i told her that she had yucky panites on and I wouldnt hold her. After about 20 minutes I told her she can take them off by herself and sit on the potty, then she can have dry panties. A minute later without saying anything she went over, took her wet panties off and went potty when she sat down. For a few days she was going potty and if she refused I would jsut threaten to get the wet panties out. She would run to the potty. We have had about 5 accidents in the two months since then. She did great. Good luck!

Maryann - posted on 02/12/2010

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I have recently been in that position myself....the cold water out of the bath hose worked with my son...i only had to do it twice...i was getting desperate, cause he was due to start 4yr old kindy in two weeks at the time i did it after spending almost 6mths trying to get him done, he's still in pull up at night, but having more dry ones than wet now :). my 2yr old girl on the other hand decided, well if he has to do it for school, i want to too, only she is both night and day trained...they do it in their own time. my eldest had just turned 4 (she's a dec bub) and just got up on her birthday, asked for her nickers (which i had been desperately trying to get her into everyday) and never looked back, was dry day and night straight up...hang in there and just keep up the encouragement. x

Cheryl - posted on 02/11/2010

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cleaning up accidents with cold water worked quick for my kiddo, we also told him only big boys could play video games, which helped.

Sheila - posted on 02/11/2010

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If child is a boy, have daddy take him to the bathroom whenever he goes. If Daddy is not available but say Grandpa or an Uncle is, have them do it. It is kinda hard to teach a boy how to potty. My husband tells my son to "make bubbles" with his pee or if Daddy went first, he would tell our son to "move Daddy's potty". I've also been told the Cheerios thing, but haven't tried it myself. Also squirt some dish soap into the toilet, to help make the bubbles. Also, my mom was telling me that her parents were told that sometimes boys get too tired and don't feel the trigger that tells them that they need to go, hence bed wetting.

If you have a girl, get her a potty seat and put it in your bathroom for her to go with you when you need to go. Kids learn most things by example. Another trick to try with girls is to let them run around the house with nothing on under their dress. She will feel the potty running down her leg, and will decide that she doesn't like it. The girl tips are all given to me by friends, and my mom, as my girls aren't ready to be potty trained yet. Whatever you do, be consistent.

Another thing that I did with my son was set a timer for 15 - 20 minutes. Everytime that timer goes off, stop what you are doing, and take the child to the potty. This will help you remember to take them, and will also get a routine going. Once child has that down spread the time out to say... 30 minutes, then 45, and so on until the child is either going on his own, and just calling you to help wipe, or at least telling you that they need to go potty. Good luck!

Gretchen - posted on 02/11/2010

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M&Ms really work - my daughter was changed in less then 6 months. She would get an M&M every time she went potty. I had more of a problem with her peeing in the potty she instantly took to not pooping in her pants.
Everytime she went in the potty she received an M&M and we would do a "happy dance". If she went a whole week without peeing in her pullup she got to go pick out a book or atoy - mostly books.

Naralie - posted on 02/11/2010

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Are u still putting diapers on him? Maybe like he sees that he is refusing the pottyso u put the diaper he won't want to ever use it. I know its annoying when they wet there undies but try to be patient and keep him in underwear even though he screams or shouts! Its uncomfortable to have wet or pooped undies so they they will eventually not want it there and decide to use the potty!!! I started showing my kids the potty when they were 1 year and 9monthes! Just showing and talking to them about it not actually putting them on it! When they turned 2 years old then I started! My first son would poop around the house cause sometimes I would let him roam free of undies and without a diaper around the house but I was constent and would take snacks that he loved away and say illl thats yucky! when he did use it would give him the snacks treat him extra special and clap and say yay!!!!! He was potty trained when he was 2yrs and 9monthes ! My second son is a clean freak when he would poop on his underwear he would freak out so he decided to poop in the potty he was potty trained by 2 1/2! My daughter gave me a harder time as in actually sitting on the potty! sometimes I had to sit with her on the toilet so she could see that the potty was fine she would cry for her diaper and have tantrums but I would say there is no diapers and they dont have anymore in the store she had her accidents but got it down by 2 yrs and 4 monthes give and take some accidents now that she is 3 nad 1/2 but its because she holds it for to long and right before she goes to the bathroom she pees on herself!

Carolyn - posted on 02/11/2010

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My daughter just turned 3 and still isnt potty trained. She just started to want to try it and she used her potty 3 times today! please never spank your child for not potty training right. They will do it when they are ready

Dana - posted on 02/10/2010

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Please do not spank your child; this would just make it worse. Similarly with anger or getting upset at him/her. I'm guessing it's a boy? I have three boys and all were about 3-1/2 when they were potty-trained and my oldest still has to use Goodnights diapers. Eventually your child will get it. How many five year olds do you know that won't use the potty? :) If your child's not ready for one reason or other, it's not going to happen right now. In a few months, it might.

That being said, here are some motivation/fun suggestions: If your child is a boy, put cheerios in the potty and have him aim at them :) You can also turn the pee various colors by adding food dye afterwards. Show him/her the food dye and tell them your turn their pee a new color if they go potty :) Bribe him/her with a trip to their favorite store or place to go. Find a toy s/he likes and tell him you'll get that toy for him if he pees in the potty after x amount of times using the potty. What we did with two of our sons was to put a lego in a jar every time he pooped in the potty and told them once it was full we'd take them to legoland (you could do the same for the store). It worked like a charm with our oldest especially. Once he saw a lego in the jar, he understood what we were doing and never went potty elsewhere again. Then off to Legoland we went! :)

Good luck!!!

Rhonda - posted on 02/10/2010

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Kristy, the worst thing you can do is punish your child for not using the potty-you'll only scare him away worse. You may think I am weird, but my husband and I bought a book on potty training and it says to throw a "Potty party." You get some books and dvds on potty training and an anatomically correct doll with a potty (make your own potty if need be) so your son can train his doll to use the potty. Spray apple juice into the potty so it looks like the doll went. Then when the doll is trained ask your son if he is ready to try it. Make a cake for his party and promise a gift-big or small. We promised to take my son to Chuck E Cheese. Good luck and please remember to always reward never punish during potty training.

Venessa - posted on 02/10/2010

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I used to throw a dead fly in the toilet and tell my son to aim for it. Do you think he has the concept but just refuses? Or is he havin trouble getting it? If you think he is doin it to be defiant, I suppose there isnt a whole lot you can do. My dad woulda made me wear my wet pants on my head if I were doing it on purpose, but he was extreme like that. Good luck.

Nancy - posted on 02/10/2010

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Every child is different and I think that they have to make up their own mind before you can make any headway. My son has food allergies and is limited on candy he can have so we didn't go with that. We did stickers. I kept an old calender in the bathroom and if he pee pee'd in the potty he got one sticker, if he poo poo'd he got 3 stickers. I also had some really fun books (Tad's learning farm) that I kept in the bathroom and the only time he could look at them was if he was on the potty. He absolutely refused to even use the potty until after he turned 3!--but he was completely potty trained by 31/2 putting reg underwear on him didn't work because he would just pee in it, then take it off. The stickers worked better than anything else for us. Good luck!

Elizabeth - posted on 02/10/2010

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My son just turned 4, and has been potty trained for about a year. I started with him at about 2 1/2, by just sitting him on the potty. I originally used pull ups, until I discovered they were just like diapers. I then bought the thick cotton underwear, and the plastic underwear to go over them. They worked like magic. That's what I recommend.

Amber - posted on 02/09/2010

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throw all pull ups/ diapers away. use strictly underwear. When they have an accident you make them clean it up. i did this with my daughter and it took 4 long days of her having accidents but by the forth day she was fully potty trained! good luck :)

Liz - posted on 02/09/2010

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We used a sticker chart, to start with it was very slow, so I cleared a whole weekend to get the ball rolling......... i had 20 pairs of knickers to hand, when she got up in the morning, i took her nappy off an put her in a pair of knickers, i kept asking if she needed the potty every 20 minutes or so and about 15-20 minutes after she had anything to drink. After she had used the potty, she got a sticker to put on her chart, if she managed a certain amount of stickers, she would get a magazine as a treat, yes we had quite a few accidents over the weekend, and at nursery for about a week, but then it died down alot, I had previously tried her in pull ups instead of knickers, but they were too much like nappies so it was pure lazyness. She had a pull up on to start with on journeys in the car then changed into knickers once she arrived, then that stopped after about a month. She still has pull ups on of a night time, but we are gearing up to tackle that soon. It didn't take too long to potty train, and because she is at nursery during the day she didn't actually use the potty for too long before she wanted to use the toilet like a 'big girl', it takes alot of perciverance and be prepared for quite a few accidents over a few days, but it definitely paid off. good luck

Jessica - posted on 02/09/2010

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I trained my boyfriends son. He would not potty train for his mom and he was going to be 4 and i was tired of changing adult looking poo. So i began telling him he would get a cool sticker or small surprise everytime he went potty and i also put a couple of cheerios in the toilet (target practice) so it would be fun for him. There really isnt any trick to making it fun when they have to do number 2 though. I hope this helps.

Sharde - posted on 02/09/2010

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I gave my son a treat whenever he had did something in the potty. I also gave my my son a sticker with his favorite carttoon animal on it and when ever he did something in the potty he got to pick out a sticker. As soon he turnd 3 he was in his Big Boys underwear with his favorite carttoon animal on the back. Make sure your cild picks out which one they wants to wear cause my son does, let them have that control.

Jo Anne - posted on 02/08/2010

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my son started to potty train just this week.and hes 3yrs and 6months old now.A little encouragement with story telling helped. But never push him.!
Now i'm proud to say that at last we did it!!!!

Pattie - posted on 02/07/2010

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Amanda Phillips wrote: "i had to spank her everytime she did it in her pants and put her on the potty then a start putting her there every hour an half. like clock work and you have to keep it up."



I find this unbelievable! Spanking your child for not potty training quickly enough (or at all for that matter) is ridiculous! It doesn't matter how old they are - it is never acceptable! Do you plan to spank your child every time they make a mistake or struggle when they're learning how to read or ride a bicycle? This is no different.



In my experience with my kids, the earlier you start training the better. Ditch the pull-ups and the diapers. Devote some uninterrupted time (at least 3-4 days). Prepare for lots of messes. I put our potty in the living room and had my kids sit there until they did their business. We watched movies, read books, did puzzles. Once he did his business he got a sticker and then we would do the same thing ever 1.5-2 hours. By day 3 he was trained.



Best of luck!

Joanne - posted on 02/07/2010

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My two boys were entirely different. The first was at kindy before he was was toilet trained. My second has responded well to 'bribery' at age three - 5 poos = 5 stickers = a Thomas train from ebay! Whatever works, but I wish I hadn't pressured my first, or myself, to conform to what you think other people must be doing/thinking etc. They do actually, with a little helpful guidance, do it when they are ready. That's what I've found. Goodluck.

Charlene - posted on 02/06/2010

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Hi Kristy,

I don't think spanking will do anything but make things worse. I have a little girl who just turned 3 and what has seemed to work best was when she was around other children her own age at daycare who were also going to the potty. At home, we tried to "mimic" what her daycare did by making a "sticker chart" and offering a reward after 20 stickers - one sticker for peeing and two for a poo. Sounds like bribery, I know, but as of the end of December, she is now consistantly telling us when she has to go to the potty. She is not yet in "big girl panties" but I am thrilled with her progress. Each child is different and no matter what you do they will be the ones to decide when they are ready to get out of diapers -at least that is my experience. Good Luck!!

Tracy - posted on 02/06/2010

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My youngest daughter was the hardest to train out of 3kids She will be 4 in June and is now finally potty trained. When I first started she would not go near the potty. Would start screaming when you asked if she needed to go potty. I tried leaving her to see if she would go herself when she was ready and that didn't work. One day I was in my friends and she was potty training to. her mum had bought the twins a potty that sings and my we one like when it sung so i brought one hoping that it would work. But it didn't she just played with it . We went on holiday last July and there was no way that I was going to take a potty on holiday with me and I didn't want to keep putting pullups on her or having to carry half a dozen change of clothes so I decided to buy a toilet seat that you put on the toilet to take with use as it would be easy to carry about. I which I had thought of it before I had spent £35 on a singing potty as it worked. The problem was not the the potty training but the potty it's self she didn't feel secure on the potty but was happy to use the seat on the toilet. Kids are funny be patient she will get there

Julie - posted on 02/06/2010

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My youngest daughter was the hardest to train out of 3 kids, 1 boy. She was three in October and is finally potty trained. We took her to the store and let her pick out candy that she really wanted and told her if she went pee on the potty she would get one and if she went poo she would get two. I also had a potty and a potty seat that goes on the toilet and she would pick which one she want to use. Now she goes by herself and then comes and tells me what she did.

Jessie - posted on 02/05/2010

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I used the bare bottom method and it worked great! She was potty trained by the end of the week and has had very few set-backs. Sur an occasional accident, but I plan on using the same method with her little sister as soon as the weather breaks. If you want more info just let me know!

Earline - posted on 02/05/2010

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I totally understand what you are going through with the potty situation . my son who's six now almost went into age for in pull ups but we found a way for him to stop wearing them and get what he wantted in the process. my son is very intellegent so he knew what he wantted and how he wantted.but he couldn't get it so i as his mommy made a deal with him if you use the bathroom and not go on your self mommy will reward you with the things that you like. well in less than a month he was going to the bathroom and no longer using the potty nor pull up's. so you see you have to compromise with your lil one. try praising them when they go to use the bathroom . give them a lil push or reward them for trying . but let them know that they arent being rewarded for using the tolid but for being a big boy or girl and going

Sally - posted on 02/05/2010

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I did the potty chart and reward system and that worked a treat!! also you can get potty books that you can flush the loo too!!

Tammie - posted on 02/05/2010

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i did it by prasie n showing them that i go to toilet but only praise them for about 3 times dont get crossed if they have a accident as they can get very upset and refuse to use it i also let my child run around the house in the nude as can be a struggle to pull down pull ups or pants but they get there in the end just need patients

Suzette - posted on 02/05/2010

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My midwife told me not to worry that my son would not walk down the ile in a diaper and he didn't. stop changing so frequently they will soon dislike the feel of the mess. I used to pretend to be shocked there was poop in a diaper and make a big funny fuss, which sort of did the trick because after about 7 little dramas he stopped pooping and started to user the potty, the night nappy stayed on for ages up to near 4 years, looking back it doesn't matter a jot...more important that we dont emotionally damage our little ones. Good luck

Tammy - posted on 02/05/2010

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my daughter is 3-1/2 and one day she goes pee (not poop yet!) in the toilet and then the next, she refuses. i think they will go when they're ready.

i now give her 4 m&m's everytime she pees. i have the "special" peanut butter m&m's ready for her when she goes poop. but she still won't budge on that one!

Jenny - posted on 02/04/2010

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This may sound a little weird but I have 4 kids and I did it the same way with all of them. I let them run around naked as much as I could, I usually started at the beginning of the summer,so that I could see when they had to go. They also spent a lot of time outside. It was a lot of cleaning up spots at first but it worked. As soon as they started going I would put them on the pot. My boys still have trouble at night but the doctor says it normal for boys to wet at night longer than girls do.

Sara K - posted on 02/04/2010

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Spanking is the worst thing to do. With all 4 of my boys I simply told them no more diapers and put them in underwear. Took a day or 2 to figure it out and they were trained. Lots of "do you need to potty?" and trying even when maybe can't. Hope it helps you! Sara

Michelle - posted on 02/04/2010

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i have a 3 year old boy and he was potty trained by the time he was two .. it was the weirdest way that it happened .. for a while i was trying pull ups but they didnt work and it was just a waste of money .. one night in the summer he fell asleep in the car and had his bathing suit on with nothing underneath and i didnt wwanna wake him up so i said to myself if he pees the bed ill just clean it all up in the morning .. and in the morning he wasnt wet and i stuck him on the toilet and ever since then it worked .. or you could get a toddler potty that sings when you go they get very excited about that and want to go so they can hear the music!! GOOD LUCK!

Alexandria - posted on 02/03/2010

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My son is going to be 4 in March and he is now fully potty trained, but it was not easy either. I thought he was NEVER going to be trained, everyone kept telling me that kids should be fully trained by the time they are about 2. I now know that this is not the case and every child is different. I never used treats with my son, i purchased a potty and let him pick out the stickers that he could decorate it with. I was told to just make him sit on it and he will go when he is ready, but this was not the case. He wanted to stand and pee just like his daddy and as soon as we let him do that he had the peeing down and did not have anymore accidents. I also did not use pull-ups other than at night or nap time cause i think they do feel alot like a diaper and dont make them feel like big kids. I bought he his favortie caracter underwear and we were set. Now pooping was a different story for my son as he did not know when he needed to go. We later found out that he is lactose intolerant and could not control his poops. We now use lactose free products and he is fine. I truely beleive that it will happen when the kid is ready and when that time comes they will let you know. Dont worry about it, your not a bad mum, cause if you were i would be to and so would so many more partents that struggle with the same issue. There is still time before our kids start school so i would not stress about it to much until then. Good luck, i wish you the best!!

Jenny - posted on 02/03/2010

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I don't believe children should ever be touched in anger. Hurting a child may help you in the short run but it damages the child in the long run and trust is lost. It may be harder for you to do it another way, too bad. Nobody ever said being a parent was easy. Sometimes it takes a lot of patience.

Jenny - posted on 02/03/2010

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Geez, spanking a kid for not using the potty? Way to give them a complex. I'm sorry, but my advice is, just relax! The more you push, the less likely it is she will want to use the potty. My daughter was a little more than 3 when she decided (for herself) that she wanted to wear panties, and then she did. No trauma, no accidents, happy family. My son is 3 1/2 and only uses the potty sometimes. I've told him he's ready when he thinks he is, but I'm not going to stress out about it. A wise woman once told me, "You can't control what goes in, and you can't control what comes out". Well, you CAN, but it's not healthy in the long run and the kid ends up with weird issues.

Heather - posted on 02/02/2010

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Do you know anyone that has a child the same age that is potty trained or a child that is slightly older? A lot of kids want to do what the other kid is doing so if your child follows the other one into the bathroom and see them doing it, most likely, your kid will want to try it too. Four of my kids potty trained themselves by following their sibling, cousin or friend into the bathroom. Just expect some playing in the sink, etc. I much rather clean up water from the sink than a dirty underwear.

Christin - posted on 02/02/2010

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well with my son he was like that and when he went to the potty in his pants i told him he had to go take a nap that is only when he pooped but when he peed i just said ok go get a nother pare of underwaer and he did not get a pice of cany

Jessica - posted on 02/02/2010

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My son will be 4 in March and has only been potty trained for little over a month. I had tried everything in the book to get him to go. I finally told him every time he peed his pants I was taking cartoons away and it worked. He was potty trained in about 2 days. His issue was he was just too lazy to want to be potty trained b/c it was easier to go in his pants and have mom/dad change him than to go in the potty. Now he says if he pees/poops his pants he doesn't get to watch cartoons and we tell him that's right

Brandy - posted on 02/02/2010

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Thats how my 3 year daughter was, she is going to be 4 in June. My mom just sat her on the potty and made her sit there until shw went. She cried but after she went she felt better. She goes on the potty now. She does poop yet on the potty but aleast she going pee.

Jennifer - posted on 02/02/2010

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The one thing that got my three year old (that just turned 3 in December) was to give him chocolate every time he pottied in the potty.....worked like a charm.

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