How do i get my 2.9 yr old to sleep alone in her bed?
Barbara - posted on 09/27/2009
As long as it's a toddler bed and not a crib, I stayed with them until they fell asleep for a few days in a row when they wake up in they're own bed they will start to develope the confidence they need to feel safe in their own bed,they get it eventually but don't get to upset they all grow at their own pace.
Kirsten - posted on 09/27/2009
I have a 3 and a half year old and a 7 month old. My 3 year old cut out her naps about a year or more ago.. This can be frustrating for the mom as we need a break to and they do get tired but i have learned to deal with this and embrace it . She noe gets up at about 8 am and goes to bed at 8pm almost to the dot ontime. She has a show at 7 in bed and 3 stories at 730 then is pretty much out like a light after that. IF we are out driving around 4 she may fall asleep but otherwise doesnt nap; children will cut them out themsleves as they reach age 2 to 4. so if your child doesnt want to go down dont push for it as it will only make you more tired and frustrated. Just go with the flow.
As for the morning feeding my 7 month old has a bottle at 730pm then doesnt wake up for one till usally 7am . So i giver her that feeding then she has lunch at 12pm. You can really cut out the feeding as of yet as ur child is still very young she will do it on her own most likely. The best thing to do is offer it less and comfort her in other ways like change her bum... play with her to see if u think she is really hungry or just wants a comfort. i hope this helps
Amy - posted on 09/27/2009
It really is a game of tough love. The best way is to make it very special for her to be in her own bed. Maybe even try a special nightlight or lamp with a warm blue toned bulb. Allow her to be the one to turn it on, and turn off the big light; like it is such a privilege for her. Of course after you have your moments of quality time with her, and you put her down, she will most likely cry for you, or beg you to stay... stay. The best thing for you to do at this point even though it is killing you, is just to leave. Do the 15 minute rule, allow her to cry if this is the case (even scream) if it persists past 15 minutes (which most likely it will not), then go back into her reassuring her that everything is ok, & calm her down. DO NOT EVER TAKE HER BACK OUT OF THE CRIB OR BED! Also, try to have very little conversation with her; as this will arouse her. If it is too hard for you to leave the room and do the 15 minute rule at first, we also did where we would not engage in conversation, and sit close to her bedroom door, reassuring her we were there, but never talking to her, until she drifted. After, a while this ended and now we just put her in and leave. Good luck to you!
Lisa - posted on 09/26/2009
I had a DR. give me this advice. You put her/him to bed and pat them, sing, whatever you normally would do and then you leave the room. Yes they will cry. You set a time limit (I started with 2 min.) After time is up you go back into their room and put them back to bed, the real kicker: DONT PICK HIM/HER UP!!! Just take them by the hand and put them back into bed. Then again pat their back and leave the room, this time double the time limit. Continue doing this and they will eventually realize that you do come back if they really need you. If they end up in your bed take them back to their own. This process honestly only took both of my girls 3 days to understand and now they stay in their own beds and are asleep in a shorter time too.
You just have to keep putting her in the bed every night. You may have to wait until she falls asleep them put her in her bed. If she wakes at night take her back to her room & lay with her until she goes back to sleep. Make her feel good to sleep alone. Get her a stuff animal or doll to sleep with.
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