how do i get my three year old potty trained.

Susie - posted on 09/25/2009 ( 25 moms have responded )

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my first son was a walk in the park to get him potty trained. my second son is completely different, he is going on three next month and he will not use the potty for anything. we have tried every idea that my husband and i know of, but he still will not do it!

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Tamara - posted on 09/26/2009

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we did a reward system, for everytime he sat on the toliet he got a sticker. Everytime he washed hands he got a sticker. when he went potty he got to choose a marble to add to his collection. Then once he got the hang of things we had a chart on the bathroom wall, one for pee, one for poo, and one for wash hands/flush. Everytime he did one of those things he got to put a halloween sticker on the squares under each heading. This way he could see his progress, and learn what each word meant. It took 8 days in total to train him.

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Ashley - posted on 10/26/2009

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Theres a free potty training video at PULLSUPS.COM just send it to your adress. ..and when potty training switching back and forth between pull ups and diapers will confuse them so just make sure to stick with pulls and let your child know that there like underwear. : ) Dont get mad or frustrated with accidents and reward them even when they just try to go even though they dont. Good luck!

Jaqui - posted on 10/26/2009

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I know what you mean! I have 4 boys and like you said the first three were a walk in the park. but my little guy was three in July and wants nothing to do with the potty. HELP I'm so over the diapers.

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We have the same problem. My son is almost 3 and half. He only wees in the toilet, but refuses to poo. We have tried the chart system and have also bought him undies like his Daddy, but we are still struggling with him to go and poo. He just poos in his pants and then hides away. I've got to literrally drag him to the bathroom and show him what a mess his made, but he is just so stubborn! I am so frustrated at the moment, I really don't know what to do. Any other ideas would really help.

Michelle - posted on 10/25/2009

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Another suggestion i have is that there r disolvable targets that u can buy for boys to try to aim and pee on! Also I tried froot loops, was told to try cheerios but fruit loops r more colorful and he thought it was fun!

Michelle - posted on 10/25/2009

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I struggled with this as well! The average age for a boy to potty train is 37 months old(my pediatrician told me this) My son will b 4 in march and I was getting concerned, it gets to the point where u feel odd changing a 3 1/2 year olds diaper! About a month ago he just decided one day that he was ready and had 1 accident a day for 3 days and hasnt had an accident since then! My pediatrician said that she went through the same thing with her son but worse! About 2 months b 4 her son turned 4 she kept reminding him every day that on his 4th birthday thats meant he was a big boy and he cant wear diapers anymore! One his 4th b-day she got rid of the diapers and it was rough for a few days but he eventually got used to it! Now my 2 year old has half decided to potty train and tells us about half the time when she needs to go potty and even poops in the potty too, but she likes to go hide and take her diaper off and poop and pee wherever she wants too! My 6 year old potty trained herself at the age of 18 months! Each kid is different but I would just try to recognize the most common times they pee or poop in their diaper! We also went out and got my son the same kind of undies as his dad, and he has to wear the same ones that his dad wears everyday right down to the color! Good luck!

Shayna - posted on 10/24/2009

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My son who is shy of 3 is now fully potty-trained.. but it was no walk in the park. I was a little discouraged because I did so much research before I even started him out. People would say how difficult or easy it was, and set standards for ages... I was all over the map and frustrated with it before I even started it. I started by introducing him to the potty (obviously). I explained what pee & poop was, and would sit him on the potty often through-out the day. At first he was not having any of it, it was almost as if he was terrified of it. So I backed off, but still kept asking him many times a day if he would like to go potty.



After about a month, I turned to the roll of being a "big boy" he just LOVES hearing that he is a big boy. I told him big boy's pee on the potty & babies use diapers. He was then easing up towards it, but still wasn't in total favor yet. We did have some success with him peeing in the potty, but it was not on a regular basis. It was here and there only. After a month of doing that, I then just bought him underwear, and when he got up first thing in the morning I would put them on him & he would wear them all day. He knew then not to get lazy and he had to pee and poop in the potty. We had instant success when we did that, and it's been going perfect since then!



I think letting your child wear a diaper lets them get lazy & makes them forget about going to the potty. Put underwear on him and try that, also do the reward system. Put the "big boy" aspect in there and you will be on the road to success. Good luck.



Also I had to ad, when we first started out he would not pee or poop with his father and I watching him EVER. We would pretent not to pay attention to him and he would then go. Some kids also like using a toilet rather than a potty.

Gail - posted on 10/23/2009

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Some may not like a potty in their living room for a bit but we and friends of our have all been successful in the potty handy to sit them on frequently throughout the day. He should soon use it himself then make the transition to move it to the bathroom and eventually a potty ring for the big toilet. Hope i could help! Good luck!

Emma - posted on 10/22/2009

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i no all kids r difrent but with my boy just after he ternd 2 one morning i sead to him im not going to put a nappy on u agan on a day time even if u do wee and from the day i did that he never weed hes self at all im just haven a problem with night ones but no matter how menny times he wees dont put a nappy on cos he will do it agan when he wonts nappy on x

Melanie - posted on 10/22/2009

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hi i have the same problem my daughter turned 3 last week she doesnt care about being wet or dirty i have tried stickers bought 2 differant pottys even let her sit on the toilet she will sit but never does a thing i bought the potty movie i let her wear panties nothing works and people are always asking is she potty trained yet i hate it my other 2 daughters were easy help

Jessica - posted on 10/21/2009

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my youngest just didnt want to use the potty hae you tried just using the toilet you an by seats that are small enough for children that just go over the normal toilet seat

Danielle - posted on 10/21/2009

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hi, i tried he bare method with my son (Very messy mind) it did work the only thing is now he thinks a nappy and big boy underpants are the same thing so he goes in his underpants thinkin its a nappy it took me a while bt 1 day it will jst click 4 them.

Melissa - posted on 10/14/2009

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My daughter is 3 1/2 she is just now fully potty trained. She was wearing pull-ups. I would put her in panties to come home and find out daddy put her in pull ups I stopped buying them and told him to stop too put her in panties. (make sure you have at least a dozen pairs) She had some accidents but kids don't like to be wet so they learn pretty quick how to tell they need to go. When I first started I would give her a treat like a dum dum lolli pop or popsicle or a couple m&ms so they know they are doing something good. Make sure everyone who is around him knows you are trying and make sure they are going to help. Good luck!!!!

Anna - posted on 10/05/2009

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If hes getting attention for not going he not going to go. My boy never used a potty he went stright on a toilet seat. I took him out of nappies put him in undies and used a sticker chart. He was trained in a week and a half. However after he had beed trained for nealy a year he does sometimes forget to geo because he gets so busy and boys I think are alittle lazy. So maybe your boy is to busy to be bothered. Wait if you have to till hes ready again. Which means totally ignoring it for a while. Good luck

Monica - posted on 10/05/2009

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My son who was three in Feb. was the same way and I wasn't gonna have him and the new baby in diapers or pull up so I just kept telling my son every day that he was a big boy whenever he did something. Praise is the key. If your are excited about him doing big boy stuff then he will want to do it more. Getting him to pee in the potty was simply but the other was a little harder. And I just kept inforcing that he was a big boy and that big boys used the potty for both. When he stinkied as he calls it that he had to do that in the potty like a big boy like daddy. He still was stinkying in his pull ups til he got sick of the feeling of that on his butt. And told him that I was gonna need a big boy to help me with his sister. (He wanted to help anyways but just inforced that babies can't help they are to little and big boys could do more stuff.) That worked great and he only wears a pull up during the night but he is learning to get up in the middle of the night sometimes to go to the bathroom. I have a two month old so when I up feeding her I see him. I forced my first son to early he was 1 and half but caught a bad stomach virus and went back in diapers till he was almost three and he did it again so this time with my second son I said when he was ready but that was before I got pregnant again. And I was not having two in diaper or pull ups. but it was up to him. He had to think he was doing something really amazing before he would even go to the potty or the big potty. And boght big boy undies that he liked not the ones he wanted but he like them any ways and put them on him every day and no diaper or pull-ups til night. Hope that helps best of luck.

Monica

Jessica - posted on 10/04/2009

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My son REFUSED to sit on the little potty chair.. So we got him a stool and the seat attachment for the big toilet.. After his naptime one day he was still dry so i made him stand on the stool til he pottied and when he did i made a huge deal about it.. he would not sit to pee.. he had to go naked around the house for a couple days cuz he didn't give himself enough time to pull down his pants but we wanted him to know the feeling.. then we added the underwear.. then the whole outfit. he had a couple of accidents but realized that he didn't like that feeling. When it came to pooping he went in his pants a few time and finally i made him stand there and watch me dump it in the toilet and made him flush it and made a big deal about it so he would realize that was where it was supposed to go.. From there it only got better. When we first started he was only in underwear and he would just pee in them.. when i took the underwear off and made him run around naked he realized when he started to pee on the floor and didn't like that idea. So i think that helped alot. He only peed on the floor once tho. :)

Aoife - posted on 10/04/2009

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reward chart and lots of praise n cinsistency worked for me.my girl is 3 in december and is trained since june.my mam started training her one day when she was out dere visiting so she stayed overnite and kept it up the next day then when she came home she was really excited to show me what her granny had taut her and kept it up.i had to keep asking every hour did she need to go n dere were a few accidents but she soon got the hang of it and now will proudly announce no matter where she is when she has to go.she wont use the potty though anymore and only did for a few days she prefers to be a Big Girl n use the toilet so i got her a step to help her climb up.

Jenni - posted on 10/03/2009

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i know we got rid of diapers when it was MORE than noticeable that she was ready (and capable of holding her bladder) Forcing underwear on and carrying a lot of change of clothes only took 1bm accident and a few wet ones. Within a week we were good to go potty!

Celina - posted on 10/02/2009

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my son will be 3 in november and still wont have anything to do with the potty. Its very frustrating but he may just not be ready. dont push him to hard. You can try a sticker chart it may work. Keep in mind that boys take longer than girls. and every child does things at his/her own pace. like i said he may not be ready yet.

Shaguufta - posted on 10/02/2009

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Well i too faced te same problem with my son who will trun 3 n december... what i did was everyday i use to make him sit on te potty with a potty book .I use to tell him that te boy in te potty book is him, u can try giving him his favourite toy with te potty book ,Now he is fully trained and for te last 2 days he do convey me by saying mamma potty...so all te best susie hope this might help u...

Hanna - posted on 09/28/2009

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I got the Potty Scotty system, it comes with a Potty training doll (anatomically correct for a boy or a girl, and 'wets on command'). My son trained at 2years 1 month with this system. It's $50, but well worth the money. Just Google 'Potty Scotty'. The system is based on the idea that teaching is the highest form of learning. The child teaches the doll to potty train, and you use the doll to demonstrate consequences, and rewards. It worked for me!

Barbara - posted on 09/27/2009

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Quoting Susie:

how do i get my three year old potty trained.

my first son was a walk in the park to get him potty trained. my second son is completely different, he is going on three next month and he will not use the potty for anything. we have tried every idea that my husband and i know of, but he still will not do it!


i used cherrie O's in the toilet for my hard to potty train boy's. Just put them in toilet and tell them to try and hit em! ounds silly but it relly worked

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My son was the most stubborn thing when it came to try to potty train him. He wouldn't go for anything in the world. Not candy, not stickers, just outright defiant about it. Then I started sitting him on the potty and reading him books. I would sit there for hours and read to him to try to wait it out where he would go by accident and as smart as he was, he would wait until I just couldn't sit there anymore and go in the floor as soon as I let him up. I completely know what you are going through. The only thing that helped was we started telling him that only babies wear diapers, but babies can't do anything fun. When he would want to go outside and play, we would tell him that babies can't go outside and play so you have to be a big boy and potty in the potty if you want to go outside. When we had treats in the house like cake and icecream, he couldn't have any because babies don't eat cake and icecream, so he would have to go potty in the potty before he could have any. It took him 3 days to break down and decide that he didn't want to be a baby, but he has been doing great ever since. We still gave him candy after every time that he went in the potty for a while to make sure that he would stick with it and after 2 weeks of no accidents on his chart, we through him a potty party and invited all the family just so he knew that he was doing a great job and everyone was proud of him. He has now been potty trained, with very few accidents, for about 4 months now. You just have to stick with it and it will happen. Have to be more stubborn than they are and out smart them. They are smarter than you think you know. Good luck to you and hope to hear that he is doing great on the potty soon.

Rachael - posted on 09/26/2009

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I Susie, we just went through this with my son at the beginning of the summer( he was 3 yr 4 mo). This way might seem messy, but it was a quick way to potty train, after trying unsuccessfully for MONTHS. I don't know if you work or not, but I was off of work for a week, so i stripped him down to just a shirt and kept a potty seat in the living room. he made a few messes the first two days, but was going on the little potty by the third day, so i started moving the potty closer to the bathroom. By the fifth day he was going on the big potty in the bathroom. He was still only in underwear and a shirt all day cause he couldn't get it all down in time. He was potty trained in a week, and back in clothes. I also offered a treat after every successful BM in the toilet. Good Luck

Bernadette - posted on 09/25/2009

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Hi Susie, the first time I tried my daughter she just wasn't getting it so I just left her for a month or so and tried again, she clicked in straight away then, she was more ready. One great thing she loved was the reward chart, one star sticker at a time. Good luck

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