I have a 3yr old boy who every night comes into my bed. Any suggestions to get him in his own bed???

Ellie - posted on 04/15/2010

My son was the same way. I finally asked him why he didnt want to sleep in his own bed and he said it was because he was afraid of the dark. So now i leave the light on in his room until he falls asleep. he's been sleeping in his own bed for 3 months now.

Claudelle - posted on 04/12/2010

You have to keep putting him back into his bed. Don't lie down in the bed with him, he'll expect you to do that every night and a new habit will form. Don't leave the room straight away, sit next to him for a few minutes (maybe start off with 10 minutes and slowly decrease it). Then get up and stand outside the room for another few minutes, but don't let him see you. If he gets up, you pick him up and put him back in, don't say a word to him. I know it sounds like a lot of work, but it worked for my 3 year old.

Sharleen - posted on 04/12/2010

ok 4 options when he comes into ur bed just wait for him to fall asleep and then pick him up carefully without waking him and putting back in his bed. 2. say no u have to sleep in ur bed take him back and give him a comfort toy to hold on to to go to sleep with. but if he keeps doing it just keep putting him back in his bed and only say no u have to sleep in ur bed and turn the lights off. i know its a pain but u keep doing it he will get the msg through. 3. turn lights off and shut the door so its dark lay down with him until he ffall asleep and sneak ou of the room . i always made sure the room is dark for my little one if they cry or scream and want to come out of there room say no u have to got nitenite and keep putting them back to bed untill they get the msg. its ok if they cry while there crying leave a night light on or a tv with a really boring movie till they go to sleep and shut the door. then go back in and turn everything off. i know its a pain but it works.

Lee - posted on 04/08/2010

Well believe it or not I had that problem with my now 8 yr old until he was 5. All I did was keep telling him no and that he needs to show what a "big kid" does to show his sister and always always made sure his concerns addressed as to why he came into my room; usually it was a nightmare or a noise but after he was calmed he went back to sleep in his bed.

Lighann - posted on 04/06/2010

my 3 year old has been in a "big girl" bed since she was a little over a year. She and her sister are just 11 months apart so she never wants to get left behind :) When my middle daughter Ella started getting up in the middle of the night it was because she wanted me to hold her till she fell back asleep. So for a few months I did this and eventually she stopped.
Now my youngest, Kyra was the best night sleeper!! Until about her 2 1/2 yr mark. Then she decided that she had to sleep with me and daddy. I let her do it (I know) because I was just too tired to deal with it. Then it started becoming a problem with her sister so I had to put a stop to it. We let her pick a night light for her room, some new stuffed animals that were all hers and new blankets to help make her bed, well hers. It worked like nothing else!!! Every night she gets all her "babies" and turns on her light and gets snuggled into her blankets that she chose and I think this helped her feel good about sleeping in her own bed. It's nice to finally be able to sleep again :)

Natasha - posted on 04/06/2010

thanks ill have to get him a light for his room because he wont sleep in the dark. thanks again...hopefully with time he'll be able to sleep in his own bed.

Kim - posted on 04/06/2010

Totally normal kids feel the need of security sometimes so if they wake up in the mid of the night and they want security and the smell of mommy and daddy they crawls into your bed.



Been through this stage with my son



Put a mattress at the base of your bed, tell them if they come in the middle of the night, you can sleep down there, and NOT in our bed because then parents can't sleep. My son compromised with that, and actually loved it.

This phase DOES go away.... eventually.



Good luck !

Sharleen - posted on 04/05/2010

when he comes into ur bed does he go straight back to sleep. if so try not to wake him by moving him back to his bed. If not say no you have to sleep in your bed and take him to his room put him back in his bed lay down with him untill he falls back to sleep and sneak out of the room. i had to do that with my liltle one she is also 3 but i turned the lights off in her room when i layed down with her in her own bed.so she doesnt get out of bed and try to play with her toys. and might take a while but it works. Or there is say no u have to go back to ur room and by putting him into bed so goodnight and so back to bed he might get up a dozen time but keep doing it with patience and saying the same thing ike no u have to sleep in ur bed goodnight he will get the message through but it will take time. And try giving him a nightlight or a toy he can cuddle up to so he can feel sucure

Natasha - posted on 04/05/2010

yeah iv tried laying down in his bed, it is hard but i think if i do it long enough he'll get use to it. zachary has a hard time falling asleep on his own as well, thankyou for the suggestions hopefuly it will work over time :)

Kristen - posted on 04/05/2010

You just have to keep putting him back in his bed. I had the same problem with my daughter. She has a hard time falling asleep on her own and so she would come in our bed if she woke up. Now we just put her back in her bed and sometimes get no sleep ourselves but it has worked

Alison - posted on 04/05/2010

I'm having a similar problem with my almost 4 year old. Have you tried laying down in his bed?