i need help on bed time routine... any advice???

Kim - posted on 09/15/2009 ( 23 moms have responded )

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i have a 3 yo, and i want him to take a nap.. but he just isnt tired until 5 or 6. and advice????



Also i have a 4 month old and i want to cut out the 3am feeding.. any advice???

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Shayna - posted on 09/16/2009

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My son is going on 3 years old and he rarely naps anymore. Unless he is cranky I don't bother putting him down for one at all anymore. It really depends on the child, some will nap right up until their in school others stop earlier on. Mind you they should be getting their recommended amount of sleep at night.



Your 4 month old is a different story, she/he is a little young yet to control that aspect, but by 6 months I would definitely start working a bedtime routine in. By that age she/he will be able to be eating solid foods and will be more satisfied with their hunger for longer periods of time. Hang in there!!

Chasity - posted on 09/16/2009

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Im not sure what about putting him in there and seeing if he falls asleep, maybe an earlier bedtime might help also more around 7 ish.Nevaeh does the same things. Or if your willing wake him up earlier throw his time off a bit lol they dont know what time it is so just get him up 2 hrs earlier and see if hes not pooped by noon. Also watch for the sugary, colored foods they can hype our kiddos up and have them all over the place. Good luck!

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Amy - posted on 10/22/2009

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I try to keep my 3yo up and then goes to bed early for the night. She is in bed some nights by 6 and doesn't wake until 6 the next morning.

Jessica - posted on 10/21/2009

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My daughter is 3 1/2 and doesn't always take a nap, like others have said, I tell her she doesn't have to sleep but at least stay in her bed quietly for a little while. At this age some kids quit taking naps altogether. 9pm seems late for bed time. try putting him to bed earlier and/or waking him up earlier. As for your 4mo old, when my daughter was that old, I would wake her up about half hour before I went to bed (10pm or so) and feed her, then she would sleep through the night, most of the time. It didn't take long for her to sleep 10 hours. I wouldn't give her water or cut her formula with water. Try to start giving her solids, baby food, or pureed fresh fruit and veggies. good luck.

Brittany - posted on 10/19/2009

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is your 4 month old in his/her own room? seemed to help with my daughter, we gave her cereal befor bed( dont know how you feel about that but it helped for me) then put her in her own room with waterfall noise cd and she slept all night.

Erica - posted on 10/04/2009

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my 3 1/2 year old still takes his nap he still needs it..He dosn't like it but onese hes in bed i read to him he likes that and in notime hes asleep. I poot him down around 1 or 2 . hes up by 7 am and gos to sleep by 8 pm.

as for your little one . I don't know. My 4 month old still eats 2 or 3 times a nihgt but thats not a problem for me, I brest feed and so nether one of use has to wakeup all the way, she just starts wigling around and just give her a brest and go back to sleep. Its like terning over in the mild of the night, no bigy.

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Amy - posted on 09/27/2009

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On the days where my 3 yr. old will not take a nap, I still put her in for one, and it is basically up to her wether or not she sleeps or has "Quiet time". Even just the quiet time is a good way for them to wind down, relax, and is a lot less stimulating for them. Is your 3 yr. old in a bed or crib still? If still in a crib then no need to worry at all about him/her getting into anything, if not in a crib, make sure to double check, then recheck again that you have everything child proofed in their room. Good Luck!

Cheri - posted on 09/23/2009

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well you could try dinner tv time bath reading a book then bed... if you get them into a rutine they body gets use to it but you gotta stick with it. and for the baby try baby cereal in the bottle a tablespoon to 4 oz and it helps fill the belly.

Tanya - posted on 09/23/2009

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Hi there Kim,,,,,i can relate to the 3yo not taking naps, mine cut his out when he didn't have a nappy and bottle or dummy anymore at age 2,,,,(due to severe case of chicken pox),,, so some of these re[plys may help me too, as i find he falls asleep when i drive to school to pick up my eldest, so my 9yo now has to meet me out the gate and i drive past and pick him up, but i also have a 4yo who doesnt help me trying to get him to take a nap,,
when i just had the one i would give him lunch then sit with him to watch a cartoon quietly. Then i would read him a short story while i had some relaxing music playing quietly. then i would take him and lay him in bed while the relaxation music was still playing and this worked a treat.


As for trying to cut the 3am feeds.there are several things you could try,,, try feeding a bit longer or giving a bit more,,,,if that doesn't work then you could wake ur baby b4 you go to bed and feed him/her even if it is only an hour or so,,, the other thing is to give water at that feed until he/she realises that it isn't worth waking for!
Hope this is somewhat helpful!

Monique - posted on 09/22/2009

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for the 3year old rest(lay with him)he will enjoy the company. may read abook with him.set a schedule and stick to it. don't give it only gets better.

Kristina - posted on 09/17/2009

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Yes my little one are 5 and 3 and my children sleep great through the night. Our routine is always the same every night. We always sit down and read a book before bed brush our teeth go potty, do airplane ride to our bed, daddy usually does that then we say our prayers and tuck in and hugs and kissed and I love you's and it is off to sleep they go. They go to bed at about 7:30 and are usually asleep with in 10 to 15 min. I hope I helped and remember routine routine routine kids love routine.

Jacolene - posted on 09/16/2009

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I have a 2.9mnth old DD, she is not napping at all anymore but betime is 7pm, i just keep her awake till then, dinner at 5.30, bath time(I let her play for some time), a little bit of play and the cuddle with mommy or daddy in her bed while we read a story, she happely sleeps trough the nite and gets up around 7-7.30 the next morning. IN New zealand they start kindergarden at 3yrs in the afternoon and the won't have time for a nap in anyway. Hope you get it rite.

Leah - posted on 09/16/2009

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I don't know what time your son get up in the morning, but if he is a late sleeper in the morning that could be your problem. If he gets up in the morning around 9 or later he just may not be tired by naptime. If this is his routine simply wake him up earlier. If he is already an early riser than it may be that you'll have the just lay him down and tell him that he has to relax and rest his body, if he sleeps great it not at least he laid down (this is what I do with my 3 yr. old son). If he is falling asleep on the couch at 5 or 6 only let him sleep for 30 min. It will be a pain to wake him, but he'll get that short power nap and still be ready for bed at 9.

Kim - posted on 09/16/2009

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Melissa- yes jj watches tv...

but where i went wrong is i never had a steady routine with him at all... so now w/ 2 kids i need it so im tryin to do it..

thanks

Kim - posted on 09/16/2009

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thanks... my son hasnt takin a nap really in a long time... it would just be nice if he did....

with my daughter.. someone told be if i put more water and less formula every 3 or 4 days at her 3 am feeding, she will stop waking up for water..

Melissa - posted on 09/16/2009

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I have a steady routine with my 3 yo. He has lunch, then I tell him it's time to lay still and relax awhile before laying him down for his nap at around 1 pm. Usually his relaxation time is watching a cartoon, though I'm not sure if you are okay with your kiddos watching any tv. That's how I do it and it has worked like clockwork since he's been old enough to protest napping! =)

Chasity - posted on 09/16/2009

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lmo mine too girl...thank god tho she is in preschool already. Kids can drive us crazy and its funny how much they can get under our skin! I think my girls know me better then I know myself!

Kim - posted on 09/16/2009

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thats the thing tho... she wont eat a lot before bed... i cant even get her to stay a wake pass 8...

but thank you

Kim - posted on 09/16/2009

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well i want him to sleep... she is sooo crabby if he doesnt.. but he wants to nap around 5,, but thats dinner time then bed time at 9....

Chasity - posted on 09/16/2009

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I missed the last question ......about that try to feed a lil more befor the 3am feeding and if they wake up let them cry for a few min see if they dont drift back to sleep! If all else fails it might just be to early but he/she should sleep through the night soon.

Chasity - posted on 09/16/2009

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My daughter is also 3 and I have a 1 yr old. I know exactly what yur talking about cause she is the same way. What I do is I tell my daughter that shes going to have some relax time in her room, it doesnt matter if she sleeps or not just as long as weget a relax time. She has tv and toys and books so she can keep herself busy, now when i first started to do this I did have to tie a ribbon around her door knob cause she kept coming out but she soon got the picture and now her and her sister have relax time with the door open . It works and is the only reason im sane!Good luck!!

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