Is it hard to have your second child?

Candace - posted on 01/30/2010 ( 26 moms have responded )

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I've been trying for over 6 months and still no baby.

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Melissa - posted on 02/01/2010

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It took us 12 months for number two and 13 months for number three. Frustrating as it was . . . I wouldn't change it nor can you control it. Even when you time it all right you have . . . what a 20% chance to become pregnant at any particular time. So when you look at it that way it is a real miracle to even become pregnant. Good luck, and don't lose heart.

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Its different for every women... For me it wasnt hard at all... With Ashley i got pregnant within 2 months, and the same with Ayden.... Good luck...

Tanisha - posted on 05/05/2010

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It is different for everyone. My second was my surprise.

I was told i could have any children now I have 2.

Flow with it

and my babies are 22 months apart

Corrine - posted on 05/05/2010

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with me it took around the same time with my second as it did with my first (around 1 1/2 months), we bedded every couple of days and if your too worried about any problems go see your doctor, the ovulation kits aren't cheap so maybe also just take note of your bodies signs of ovulation too so you know when you are more likely to conceive, good luck!

Donna - posted on 02/18/2010

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It took us 2 1/2 years to conceive our second child it happens when you begin thinking that it will never happen. I honestly believed that my oldest would be an only child and now I have 3!!

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Seriously, just don't stress over it. That is exactly what worked for us. Good luck and try not to stress out over the situation. (I know, easier said than done!)
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Jennifer - posted on 02/12/2010

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i also tried the ovulation sticks and they worked really well-got pregnant 2nd month of trying once we started using them..but they are really sensitive so read directions well

Jennifer - posted on 02/12/2010

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there are some really good websited that help you pinpoint exactly when your ovulation is, and when you should ttc, and also how to tell when you are the best fertile from your discharge. Getting prego my first and second were no problem the 3rd was a whole other story! It took us about 6 months also, until I found these really easy tips. I think there is also something about taking a kind of robitisson that makes you more fertile-souns stupid but if you look it up it will make sense. Try the website mymonthlycycle.com. Hope it helps!!!

Naralie - posted on 02/11/2010

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Try not to think about it to much! 6 months is not along time! When u relax trust me on the day less expected you'll be pregnant!

Tracy - posted on 02/06/2010

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Everybody is different It can happen quick for some people and longer for others just remember to have fun and it will happen the more you stress about it the hard it becomes to get pregnant. I was lucky there is only 18 months between my first and seconded child. But I know that stressing about it dose make a big difference. We we decide to try for our third child I thought I would just happen the same way as my seconded child but I was wrong It took us years to have another and that was only when we decided to give up and just enjoy our time together the child where at school now and we had more time to spend with each other. Then I ended up really unwell had been to the doctors and had about half a dozen pregnant tests done and they all came back say i was not pregnant so know one new what was wrong it was just before christmas 2005 when I was taking in to hospital because I could not keep anything down. They ran more tests and again they said that i was not pregnant so they decide to give me a scan just to see if there was a blockage that was causing the problem. that is when I found out that I was pregnant after all and that I was due in August 2006 but ended up have my daughter in June 2006 she will now be 4 in June and there is a 10 year gap between my oldest and my youngest and 9 year gap between my second and my youngest so don't worry it will happen just have fun

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God gives you what you can handle. When you are ready for another baby, another baby will come. I have 7 and when I got pregnant with twins after the 1st five, my friend told me this saying and it really rings true.

Sarah - posted on 02/05/2010

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I have 3 children it took me over 18 months to fall pregnant with each of them, enjoy the practicing as you might not get a chance once baby is here lol

Quineisha - posted on 02/04/2010

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At first i was saying the same thing is it hard to have your second child.. But i noticed the more you think about it and want it, its not going to happen. As soon as you may not be thinking about havign another child as much it will come.. Im wanting my second but i cant stress it or wait on it everytime i think it should happen.. God will let it happen when the right time comes..

Moana - posted on 02/04/2010

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I agree with everyone, my first it took 13 months, then our second took about 4 months. Don't stress, relax, have fun, and enjoy and then when your thinking about it you'll be prego again!

Mary - posted on 02/02/2010

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We tried for 6 months for our 2nd... I felt like it would take forever! I read somewhere that most of the time it takes longer to get pregnant the second time than the first.

Karyn - posted on 02/02/2010

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with my 1st son it took 12 months my second son it only took 3 months but with my third i put too much pressure on both myself and my husband and took about 7 months before i started to relax and thats when i finally fell pregnant so just relax it will happen when it happens

Dawn - posted on 02/01/2010

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It just depends on so many things! With my first we tried for 18 months, with my second 16 months. My third somehow happened when I was still breastfeeding #2 and the month we were selling our house and moving across the country and we weren't trying. My 4th (current) I got pregnant within 3-4 months of not preventing, but still breastfeeding #3.

I think (if I remember correctly) that if you are over 35 they recommend checking in with your doctor if it has been 6 months. If under 35, after a year. I do have friends that got pregnant fine with #1 and then had fertility issues after that and needed help to conceive #2 (which turned out to be TRIPLETS with fertility treatment).

Good luck!

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Have you just come off birth control? Because with my third baby and fourth it took a year for me to get pregnant because i was having the pill injection and it takes a while to wear off. On my second baby i wasnt using any birth control just breastfeeding so i caught pretty quick. But dont worry it will happen eventually.

Susan - posted on 01/31/2010

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yes dont put pressure on yourself, try to forget that you are trying and just let it happen, your body knows if you are stressing. i had alot of problems falling with my first because of that reason. ..... JUST TRY TO CHILL OUT AND ENJOY YOURSELF AND IT WILL HAPPEN.

Leslie - posted on 01/31/2010

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I actually was so nervous about the second child and I was pleasantly surprised how I got back into the swing of things with a baby again. I think it is not much different!

Natalie - posted on 01/31/2010

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I'm the same way Kristy. My husband's getting fixed after we have our 3rd so it won't happen by accident. We both seem to be extremely fertile.

Kirsty - posted on 01/30/2010

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Like the other ladies say it will happen when it happens.....Relax and have fun...

..With my first i got pregnant about the 2 month of trying...when our son was 4 we decided to try for another....Went of the pill and within a week i was pregnant....Lucky i guess but also obviously fertile so need to be very careful it doesn't happen by accident....

Natalie - posted on 01/30/2010

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It takes the average couple 12 months to conceive! So don't worry! It will happen when you least expect it!
Are you stressing yourself out? Are you thinking about "are we gonna make a baby this time?" when you make love to your husband?
If you are stop thinking about it, let nature take it's course.
I got pregnant with our son the first month, then with my daughter it took 3 months b/c the first 2 months i was TRYING to get pregnant. It was always on my mind. Then i was like, oh, it'll happen when it'll happen. And then it happened.

Also, maybe you're not having sex on your most fertile days..... you can calculate that on parents.com. That's what i did and i'm pregnant with our 3rd now.
You're also not supposed to have sex everyday b/c that'll make the sperm count go down. Every other day will do the trick as well as long as you're fertile.

Kerri-Ann - posted on 01/30/2010

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It will happen when it is meant to be. I was lucky within two months of trying I was pregnant! Stop trying and just have fun, don't put pressure on yourself.

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