my 3 yearold refuses to poo in the toilet

Anna - posted on 06/03/2012

My son was nearly 5 before he would poo on the loo. I bought a special toilet seat that has much smaller ring, this lifts up and has a normal seat underneath for everyone else to use. He did a poo on it on the first day I got and has never worn a nappy again. They have this fear that they might fall down but if they can see that this could not possibly happen it will help. Good luck

Audrey - posted on 10/08/2011

We tried putting my son on underwear and he pooped on himself. We made him dump it in the toilet and wash them out but that didnt work because he turned around and flushed the underwear down the toilet.

Lyndsey - posted on 10/30/2009

im hoping with xmas coming up will have to use santa as a bribe it worked with birthday presents we took away his dummy.

Shelly - posted on 10/28/2009

Thank you

Keri - posted on 10/28/2009

i have exactly the same problem pees fine in the toilet but asks for a nappy to do a poo and if not she does it in her pants. she has also had trouble with constipation. The doctor gave me lactose for her n i give her pure orange juice that tends to help and wholemeal bread. She has now started going to the toilet i think it was just the fact it was a bit much on the toilet because she was constipated. hope this helps you x

Shelly - posted on 10/27/2009

My little girl has the same problem sometimes. She always says sorry though if she poos her knickers which is now a rare occasion

Fatima - posted on 10/27/2009

I have exactly the same problem. My son is 3 and half and refuses to poo. He only wees in the toilet. It seems to be a boy thing. I've tried stickers, rewards and even bribed him with presents, but nothing seems to work. He just poops in his underpants and hides under the bed or behind the couch. Any other advise would also be appreciated.

Beth - posted on 10/19/2009

Im in the same boat too. I ahve a 3 year old little boy wjo wont go poop either. He screams everytime we put him on there. When I am in there with him he wont go but then I bring Dad in an he goes. Whts up with tht. But he just holds it in and wont let it come out. An when it finally comes out it is huge. That cant be good.

Lyndsey - posted on 10/19/2009

i try that but he just cries and wont do it i tried for 4 days saying we didnt have any nappies or pull ups and he held it in for the whole time until he eventually done it in his pants

ANNELIZE - posted on 10/19/2009

My daughter was potty drained at 2 and a half. but also pooped in her panties and not in the toilet. We use to rush her to the toilet as soon as we realised she was going to poo!, and then she didn't have a problem. We kept on being patient and then all of a sudden she stopped and went to the toilet. Don't lose hope.

Lyndsey - posted on 10/18/2009

thanks sounds good xx

Stephanie - posted on 10/18/2009

Hey,the rewards box is a great idea, I think Im going to try it,thanks..( Even though I wasn't the one asking for the advice, Im definitely using it haha!)

Misti - posted on 10/18/2009

I made a potty box and let my daughter choose the toys/rewards in it and everytime she went she chose from the box. We dance, sing, jump and and down, make it a big deal. I found when I got excited about it she did too so we went with it and have been golden since. I keep the box where she can see but not reach it as a constant reminder and since she chose all the stuf in it she really wants it. Hope it is an idea that will work for you. Good luck!

Laura - posted on 10/17/2009

I am surprised reading everyones comments here because my daughter has been pooping on the potty since she was about one and a half. She was completely out of nappies shortly after her second birthday. Other mums I know say there children can do number twos on the potty but not wee weees, I have a baby boy now so I hope he isn't going to be trouble!

I found that a chart that you can stick stickers on every time you have a successful day helped her to understand what she was meant to be doing.

Lyndsey - posted on 10/17/2009

iv got a five month baby girl too fingers crossed she will be good so far so good not got the constpation troubles my son had but she was breastfed makes me feel so guilty.

Stephanie - posted on 10/17/2009

Yea i'd definitely say a boy thing! My son Jacob was a pain to even try out the idea on him! We'd wait 3-4 months and try agian. Fully potty trained just not quite poo! Its frustrating bc he will get rashes on his tooshie and i feel so bad. All I tell myself is eventually he will stop! Hopefully when my 6month old daughter trains,she'll be easier. I hear girls potty train better

Lyndsey - posted on 10/17/2009

well thats better than mine he hasnt pee'd his pants ever. and only pooped once in the toilet but that was by accident didnt realise he was doing it he was so pleased he done it but think we overplayed it and put him off. seems to be a boy thing by the sounds of it

Stephanie - posted on 10/16/2009

Mine wont either! Maybe 40% of the time! The rest is in his undies are we see him start to push and we rush him to the potty! He has been potty trained for about 6 months,rarely has accidents but cant master poop! I guess in time he'll grow out of it. We just majorly praise him for the RARE times he goes in the potty!!

Marcy - posted on 10/16/2009

Happy Friday! Hey, at least you can get him to go pee. I have a 3 year old (3 yrs, 3 months) who won't do any of it. I asked him when he thought he might be ready to use the potty and he replied "Someday Mommy". Nice right? I'm really casual about the whole thing though...I guess I just figured that at some point he would be ready.

Emily - posted on 10/16/2009

Quoting stephanie:

I'm on the same boat my Son will not poo in the potty and it crazy cause he will hold it till we go some where and I put a pull up on him . It never fails as soon as I do he poo's in it . My mom told me to leave him in under wear and if he poops in it oh well he will feel uncomfortable and go in the potty but i'm afraid he will hold it he is a very stubburn little guy. Sorry I can't help much just thought it be nice to know someone is on the same boat as you ...Good luck

he can only hold it for so long until he gets a tummy ache he will eventually go

Stephanie - posted on 10/16/2009

I'm on the same boat my Son will not poo in the potty and it crazy cause he will hold it till we go some where and I put a pull up on him . It never fails as soon as I do he poo's in it . My mom told me to leave him in under wear and if he poops in it oh well he will feel uncomfortable and go in the potty but i'm afraid he will hold it he is a very stubburn little guy. Sorry I can't help much just thought it be nice to know someone is on the same boat as you ...Good luck

Emily - posted on 10/16/2009

The last thing that children learn to do when potty training is pooping in the toilet. It is a scary thing when all you know is pooping in your pants. Thats just like someone telling you to poop in your pants instead of on the potty that would be a strange and new sensation. so like any new thing you have to give it time when he/she poops in the diaper take the poop (i know this sound gross) and dump it in the toilet rite in front of the child. let them flush the toilet and let them know the next time they need to go to try it on the potty and then the poop magically disappears when you pull the lever. A child is only potty trained when they are ready do not force them or they will just go backwards on what they have already learned. good luck.