My 5 year old son just doesn't listen..

Briana - posted on 06/20/2012 ( 9 moms have responded )

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I don't know what to do anymore. Noah is 5 and he is great some times. It's like he's two separate children. I don't know how to punish him. Spanking doesn't work. He refuses to "stand" in the corner. He runs away from time out chair/couch. I've tried the taking toys approach and that's not working either.

But like I said, sometimes he's great and really well behaved. But lately it's all " I don't want to" "I don't have to" "no" even to his kindergarten teacher, he was constantly getting notes sent him about not listening. Does any one else have this problem? He just will not listen

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Amanda - posted on 01/18/2013

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This is my son exactly. He is 6 years old, one of the older kids in class, his grades are excellent except for behavior. He is in trouble everyday for excessive talking and not listening to the teacher but not only at school but home also. He will look straight at me and do something I just told him not to. We have done the reward system, timeouts, spankings, removing everything from his room. He has not been able to watch tv or play with toys for weeks now. I just don't know what else to do, I feel like he is missing everything because he is punished everyday, but I don't want him thinking it is ok to act up in class.

Cyndi - posted on 01/22/2013

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My 7 year old does that somettimes too. What helped him was a chart, for example one was make bed then please thank you, no yelling stuff like that. He earned stickers every day and if he got all his stickers for one week it was a small thing like movie night and he picked, if he got 2 weeks something bigger and for the whole month it was taking him out for pizza. Which for my kids it is a big deal. Good luck!

Lindsey - posted on 07/24/2012

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Every child is different, but my 5year old daughter is similar to your son.mshe can be a perfect, easy going kid and at times she just yells no at the top of her lungs, or screams about things that should not be anything to get upset about. I have been putting her on a reward/strike system. She gets to pick out five small dollar toys, than one big toy. She try's to earn each little toy, but three strikes and she doesn't earn the reward, she can try for the next week. If she earns all her rewards through the week, than she can work the whole weekend to earn the big prize on Sunday. On the days she earns three strikes she also earns timeouts in her room. She can't play, just sit on her bed. The increments start at five minutes, and increase by five minutes each subsequent timeout. Last weekend she was the worst behaved my husband and I had ever seen her, so she lost her privilege to earn her big reward on Sunday and stayed in timeout for five, than ten minutes and so on, until the child was in her room for 11/2 hours...needless to say, her behavior has been near perfect since Saturday evening. Every time her timeout period ends with the beep of the timer, we sit down and talk to her about why she was in timeout and what our expectations of her behavior is once she leaves, plus we state what the consequences are for specific behavior issues, like screaming No or yelling at the top of her lungs, etc. your son needs to know your expectations at all times, remind him often, plus he needs to know the specific behaviors that are either tolerated and appreciated and those that are not and why!! Good luck, hope our plan works for you like its worked for us. I'll be happy to share many more ideas or elaborate on this one if your interested!

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AMY - posted on 01/25/2013

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Sounds like my now 6 year old son he is naughty at home and school sorry I can't give any advise. If anyone has advise plz give sincerely hopeless mom

Hina - posted on 11/29/2012

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It's great to hear that someone else also have child like i do. My son Abdullah also behaves like this sometimes amazing and most of the time he just don't listen to anyone. It's my advise to just let him do whatever he wants to. Don't force him to study or eating, just let him do.You.ll sure get positive results not in one day for sure.Appreciate him for his good bahaviour. And very important is to pray to God for him.

Adrianne - posted on 09/10/2012

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the more i talk to other mums the more i realise it's not just my daughter, it's the age, so may of my daughters pre primary friends are exactly the same. She's disrepectful, rude, full of attitude, thinks she knows it all and isnt afraid to let you know, i keep hoping that as she's so full of attitide now by the time she's a teenager she'll have grown out of it, ahh we can but dream :-)

and at the other end of the scale she can be very helpful and the sweetest politest little thing you'll ever meet, kids!!

Debra - posted on 09/08/2012

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I am having such a problem with my 5 almost 6 yr old daughter, she is just soo bad. she is mean , attitude, fits, you name it she is there. Today i tookd EVERYTHING out of her room. Her toy box, books, dolls, everything. I swear i was i am in tears more than not.

Barbara - posted on 09/07/2012

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I am having the same issue. My son is 5 and he just started kindergarten and I have done everything: I tried time out, taking toys, and spanking doesn't work. I know he's a good boy but he is having such a hard time and I don't know what else to do either

Sherrey - posted on 06/21/2012

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My son will be 6 in August and I have a hard time getting him to listen. That was his biggest problem in preschool. To get him ready for kindergarten I am trying to enforce listening the 1st time. I am tired of counting to 3 :) If I have to ask him to do something twice and he doesn't comply I put him in the corner. I wish I could give advice, but I feel like I'm at my wits end too. I'm thinking this is common for 5 year old boys. I dread getting notes sent home this fall.
You are not alone. Good luck!

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