My child is pee peeing in toilet but still poops in pants - what to do?

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Samantha - posted on 01/08/2010

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There are some kids that it just takes longer to poop on the toilet. They just need to get comfortable with it. Try giving him a book or toy when having him try, to get him more comfortable. It will happen in time.

Maricela - posted on 01/02/2010

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I have finally truy realized that at their own time they will be ready all on their own to use the potty..My daughter turned 3 dec. 8th and she was being potty trained in day care way back early 09 and then she got traumatized by a lot of things we've been through and she stopped..on top of that i was expecting so when baby was born she was on a mission so mommy could change her n baby sisters diaper..a few weeks ago she started using the toilet and I made her a potty chart to put stickers everytime she went..I thought that helped, but now shes going more often n she has forgotte the potty chart exists, but shes doing great and i keep on telling her how proud i am of her..she loves it..sure once in a while she wears undies n has accidents, but we r still learning...

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Alyssa - posted on 01/06/2010

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show the poo to your child and then take the underwear and dump the poo in the toilet to show your child that that's where it goes have them flush it themselves so they kinda get the idea. hop this helps

Michelle - posted on 01/02/2010

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My son did the same, everytime he disappeared into a little corner and had the guilty face I knew i had to grab him and race to the toilet, I started making up little stories ( why u should poo in toilet and not in pants) and praised him everytime he went to the loo. When I say praise I mean PRAISE..

Aubrey - posted on 12/31/2009

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Don't worry - my son is 3 yrs 10 mos old and had the same exact problem until just a couple of weeks ago! We tried EVERYTHING anyone ever suggested to us, from the time he was about 2 until now, and NOTHING helped. The only time he's ever worn pull-ups in the last year or so has been at night, too - during the day, he always wears underwear. Having the poop in his undies just didn't bother him! But finally, one day, it was like a switch went off somewhere in his head, and he went into the bathroom and did his first-ever poop in the potty, all by himself! After that first time, he has not had another single accident, and is doing great! We were so excited! LOL! So don't worry about it - just keep reminding your child that they need to go pee-pee AND poo-poo in the potty, not in their pants, and ask them frequently throughout the day if they need to go. It will happen eventually!

Alicia - posted on 12/30/2009

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i had the same problem with my daughter but no matter what i did she wouldnt go do #2 in the potty i try everything but she wouldnt go she would go stand in acorner by herself and do it ad when i caight and took her to the potty to do it suddenly she woldnt have to go but how she finally did it was she had to go one day at school and couldnt hold it or get in a corner by herself that she had to go in the potty at school and she being going to the potty every since i then i dont know how her teachers did it but im forever thankful for it but i the only advice i can give u is just be patience and he'll get

Rebecca - posted on 12/24/2009

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Okay, it may sound cruel but it works..... when the concept has been instilled that you go on the potty and not in your pants.

When you do go in your pants, you have to get cleaned up, but rather than using a nice warm bath go for the stand up and get rinsed off with not so warm water.

Julie - posted on 12/20/2009

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Lol, I haven't had that problem. When A.J re-started toilet training once he turned 3yo, he had wee wee accidents on the floor, but...got the hang of lettin us know he neede to go to toilet. He never pooed in his undies, just nappy and toilet. It's a bit more daunting for kids to do their 1st poo in toilet or potty. They get hang of it eventually. Keep ur kid in undies whilst home all day, so he/she gets used to lil accidents. They know then how uncomfortable it feels and will do in toilet. Takes a lil time sometimes...

Krystal - posted on 12/19/2009

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My son just turned 3 and we went through the very same thing. He would tell you he had to go pee pee and he'd stay dry all day but, when it was time to go poop he'd tell me when it was too late. He'd go as far as to tell me to change him. I'd tried time out because I felt like he knew he was about to go potty and was being defiant but, that made the situation worst. He just started going but, for some reason now he doesnt' want anyone in there when he goes and he says no one can see his private which I'm sure stems from daycare telling him to keep the door closed for privacy because they have other kids but, once he got the handle on going to the bathroom for both #1 and #2 it was much easier on me. He does still have accidents most definitely but only urinating. He started pooping on the potty when we'd make a big deal about it when he would go to the potty.

Sheryl - posted on 12/17/2009

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my son was too. finally i just put him in underwear, when he pooped he hated it. he never did it again. someone even told me that they did when there kids was peeing in there paint and pooping on the potty! i didn't think it would work but it did my son! know if very rare for him to have any problem's. when i did this i was at the end i ran out of ideas and to my suprise it worked. it was massy but he learned. hope that helps!

Amber - posted on 12/16/2009

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I am having a similar issue... my son knows he has to go but he will wait until bed time (we still do a diaper at night) and as soon as we put it on him and he goes to bed he will poop in it. He knows when it is coming so he will hold it all day if he has to.

Lis - posted on 12/16/2009

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My Son had the same problem, what I did was made a chart, He would place a sticker on the chart for everytime he went potty in the potty. After the first week he did good, he got to pick a prize, then the next week he was ready to try for an even bigger prize.

Michael - posted on 12/12/2009

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this is kind of gross, but worked for my daughter.... when he poops in his pants right after he does it be dramatic "Oh my what is that smell" ugh.. take his diaper or underwear off and show him what he did let him get a little wiff..(dont shove it in his face) but just let him see and explain to him what he is carrying around in his underwear and that its gross and belongs in the potty. after a couple smells and seeing how disgusting it is he wont want to poo his pants.

Mussarat - posted on 12/12/2009

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Don't worry dear, my son who's 3 yrs and 10 months recently stopped pooing in his pants... it's jus a matter of time n lil bit of patience from yr side but always encourage your child to try using the toilet, some day the child will get used to!!! cheers!

Michelle - posted on 12/09/2009

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Well with 2 toddlers at home, and spending many years in childcare training other people's kids to potty train I have seen it all! Many kids don't like the feeling of doing a number 2. With doing a wee it doesn't take up so much time, and usually isn't an effort and doesn't smell much (sorry probably too much info, but you all know what I mean lol). Some kids even at a young age get embarassed and hide and maybe think that adults will get mad at them. Some kids get too engrossed in what they are doing and forget. And before they know it it is tooooo late! Just constantly remind your child if he needs to go to the toilet. It is about being persistant and consistant. My 3 year old twins have just got the whole we do poos in the toilet and not in our pants light bulb over their heads, just in the last couple of months. I used to get so frustrated as I had my oldest daughter totally toilet trained at 2 years and 2 months. I spent years toilet training other people's kids, so I was concerned that with all my experience my kids were still not getting it. But I wasn't taking my own advice that I used to give to parents. Be patient it doesn't last forever, even though it feels like it at the time. Be understanding as it is all a learning process, cause getting mad or embarassing them can make them regress. All kids develop at their own rate, so you may be surprised that your child's light bulb might go over his head sooner than you expected. Sometimes setting a sticker or stamp chart up next to the toilet helps and encourages them to do poos in the toilet. I never suggest bribery with toys, food or junk food as a good idea though. Good luck, this time will pass. Excuse the pun lol.

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I actually have the opposite problem... my 3 year old is pooping in the potty but peeing in her pull-ups... I switched her to the big girl underwear, which helps increase her urge to pee in the toilet rather than just the pull-ups... but it's even harder with my two-year old. I can't get her to use the potty hardly at all... she might go if we leave her on their for half an hour, but not on her own and not when she actually has to go... Any advice?

Rasha - posted on 12/07/2009

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am a kg teacher and i see this like every day..its kinda normall, t have some reasons..as there is some kids who dose t for more attention , and others they doop in there pants cause they are afraid of the way the poop comes out as if ts they fall that a part of there behinds ate comin down with t..t might take u some time 2 comfort him and try to explain to him how un healthy it is to him to keep the poop cause t will hurt the tummy, and try to tell him that t is very un clean and bring germs pooping in pants, and try explaing why is'nt he wearing daippers any more,cause he is a big boy who can control his pooping needs and his peepeing needs.. hope any of these ways works !

Kylie - posted on 12/06/2009

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I am going through the same thing with my 3 year old son! It is doing my head in but every one i have spoken with about it says "keep trying and he'll get it", I would love any advice from other mothers aswell before it sends me round the twist!

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