My son is 5 years old and he rather be with his father rather than me.

Yaritza - posted on 10/22/2011 ( 4 moms have responded )




I let my son make his decision, but I am really missing him n I try to tell him, but he refuses and mentions his dads girlfriend all the time like he rather be with her than me. His dad has many video games and things we cant afford at my house, maybe I thought that could b the issue but than I started noticing his fathers comment how he wants custody and I will never give my child away. I have raised him this far and I will never seperate him and his sister , but it seems like he doesnt want to come back home. Any suggestions? What should I do?


Denikka - posted on 10/22/2011




Your son is five. Of course he wants to be with the *fun* parent who has all the cool toys. I wouldn't worry too much. It's normal. He'll be avoiding both of you soon enough.
As for custody, there is no reason for you to give it up. And unless the courts find something seriously wrong, they won't take him away.
I know it hurts, but it's normal. I wouldn't worry about it too much :)

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Jo - posted on 04/22/2012




I agree about the custody thing! You are not a bad mother! Im also having probs with my 5 year old girl :( of course she wants to be with the fun parent he lets her get away with murder!!! Im sick and tired of hearing how she wants to leave me and go live with him, in fact to be absolutely honest it kills me, Ive been in tears all day and I know exactly how you feel :( I keep telling myself if she actually lived there it would be a different story but he also has all the gadgets she wants to play with that I dont have. Sometimes she is so loving with me and others its like she hates me! I also dont know how to handle it.

Juleen - posted on 11/01/2011




My son is 5 and some days he loves me & other days daddy is his favourite. I think its just a phase they go through. As for custody unless you're doing something seriously wrong you won't lose him. I would try not to worry if i were you.

Cindy - posted on 10/24/2011




As Denikka said, your son is five and will want to be with the "fun" parent or the parent who lets him do what he wants. But your son is only 5 and is not old enough to decide which parent he wants to be with and when. If you want him back home with you, he has to come whether he wants to or not. You just need to explain to him that he needs to be with both mom and dad. You could show him on a calendar which days he is with each parent.

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