potty training troubles

Laurie - posted on 01/17/2010

Pull ups are glorified diapers! We went cold turkey with the thick training pants and plastic pants over them. It only took about 2 weeks and about 5 wet pairs in the first 8 hours for her to realize that she didn't like that feeling and that maybe trying to hold it would be better. Then, we just took her every hour and a half or so when we thought she would need to go. We didn't sit there for long - nobody sits on the potty for hours and hours! Good luck...

Laurel - posted on 01/17/2010

When my daughter was 18 mos, she was almost all the way potty trained. Then she started a new daycare where the other kids were younger and didn't go potty. She started going backwards. So I brought out the M&M's. When she went pee, she got one M&M, when she went poo she got two. But she only got the reward if she really went potty, not just for trying. Good luck!

Nicole - posted on 01/16/2010

this may sound stupid but my little girl did the same thing when she was 2yrs. Just leave her be. She will let you know when she is ready to get potty train. If you keep pushes it you are going to get her scaried of being potty trained. My little girl is 3yrs old and total potty trained and all I did was let her do it at her own speed and time.

Noreen - posted on 01/15/2010

We put the boys in undies when I felt that they were ready and understood the concept. Which it sounds like your daughter is ready.

Jamie - posted on 01/15/2010

Put her in panties , No Pullups, they are a waste of money. One of my girls was potty trained at 18months and the other at 2yrs and my son right before he turned 3yrs. I'm also a toddler teacher, and I've been doing it for 9years, we always encourage parents to go straight to underwear. Yes she will have lots of accidents but I find that it's more effective that way. Pullups just confuses them.

Jessica - posted on 01/06/2010

My daughter is 3yrs old too, and she started telling me that she had to go potty when she was about 2 1/2 yrs and to me that was a sign that she was ready to potty train... so I started to put her on the toilet and we would sit there for 20-30 minutes sometimes and it just didn't seem to be working. My older daughter did so well with the pull ups but my 3 yr old just used them as a diaper so they didn't work so well with her. I finally decided to just put her in panties and see what happens... she did really well, she peed her pants about 3-4 times before she caught on, and now she doesn't even sleep with a pull up anymore... One thing to remember is: 1/2 hour after - waking up, eating or drinking anything - they will need to use the bathroom. But My suggestion is to just put her in panties and let her figure it out on her own. She WILL have accidents so make sure you have lots of changes of clothes and a floor shampooer if needed. I think with just watching they don't really understand what is happening, but when they pee and it runs down their legs, they realize there is something going on down there, and they start to recognize the sensation before it happens, that might take a couple days or even weeks... if and when you decide to put her in panties make sure you are ready to "stick to your guns" and follow through... don't give up or your efforts will be for nothing.

Michelle - posted on 01/06/2010

My son is 3 he just turned 3 and he will sit there for 30 min. and I will sit with him and he will not pee but the second I put the underwear on him he will pee. He asks for a pull up to be put back on. Everyone tells me to let him go at his own pace so I know how you feel. I just want to not have to buy pull ups anymore. So you are not alone. LOL!

Tara - posted on 01/04/2010

Let her wet in her pants without the diaper on, she wont like it and it will help her understand when she needs to go to the potty. My daughter wet in her pants one time and has gone on the potty ever since.

Dana - posted on 01/03/2010

Pull Ups are a WASTE of money. They know that they can pee and poop in them just like a diaper. The only way to train them is to put them in big girl/boy panties!!!! Yes they are going to have lots of accidents and yes you will be doing alot of laundry. You will have to get over it. Eventually they will go to the potty when they get tired of having wet and dirty pants.

Sheryl - posted on 12/23/2009

i understand what your going through! my son was the same way! so finally i just got some underwear! i put them on him! and he found out really fast that he didn't not like it. he had an addt. and he never did it again! sure every once in while! but those are few are fear in between! plus i think it helps when they see other kids going on the potty too. think that help my son to. cause he didn't want to seem like the baby of the group! good luck!

Lynda - posted on 12/22/2009

I let my daughter do it in her own time and I do not believe in discipline for potty training. Try getting the panties but also use a reward system.

APRIL - posted on 12/16/2009

IM HAVING THE SAME TROUBLE WITH MY SON BUT HE GOES WHEN HE WANTS. I THINK U SHOULD JUST LET HER GO WHEN SHE IS READY TO USE THE POTTY. I HAVE A 3 YEAR OLD MYSELF . SO JUST LET HER DO IT ON HER OWN.I HERE IT TAKES A BOY LONGER THEN A GIRL.

Justine - posted on 12/15/2009

At age three they know. If you push the issue too much they wont do it. If you take them every hour your only training yourself. My son was almost 18 months when he was potty trained. Then he went into the hospital for a bacterial infection in his stomach. Wouldnt go on the potty until he was 2 1/2. He knew when he had to go. My daughter was 2 when she was completly trained. Got her those "big girl undies" and she loved it. Wanted to be a big girl. Tell her you wear them and she can be just like you. They know when they have to go. If they have an accident let them know that its okay. If they have a bad experience one time with the potty it takes longer and longer. Ask her if she has to go, take her with you when you go and tell her shes a big girl. She will catch on soon.

Noa - posted on 12/14/2009

I potty trained my son the week before he turned 2 and a half . First i put him on the toilet but he was screaming his head off, i realised that he was scared. Scared to fall in the toilet.So i learned him first to go potty. I explained to him that he was a big boy now and that big boys go to the batroom and that big boys get nice underwear with cars on them:) So i put a potty in the room, in a corner and repeated to him, if u have to go potty tell mummy. i showed him the potty were it was.He didnt like the feeling of wetting himself so he knew he had to go potty.1 week later he was potty trained. He was 2 and a half . It takes discipline. I didn't have to wear him diapers in bed anymore.And i rewarded him with stickers.Everytime he sat on the potty he got a sticker even if he didnt do anything and that helps alot.

Christina - posted on 12/12/2009

im sure its different with a boy than a girl but i have a 3 year old boy who im fighting with to potty. he will pee on the potty which was challenging enough as is but now we're working on the poo thing hes haveing a lot of trouble he'll sit on the potty and as soon as he gets a diapey on he will poo. i had trouble with when i would send him somewhere they wouldnt take him to the potty so he would get confused and not wanna go in the toilet anymore. but when everyone got on the same page basis about his pottying he started to do great. its gona take some time but i wish u all the luck with it.

Joana - posted on 12/12/2009

Hey Lee Ann there is nothing wrong with spoiling your precious baby!! But when it comes to potty training you dont want to wait to long because the longer you wait the harder it will be. I wish you the best of luck and keep us posted and let us know how it goes

Lee Ann - posted on 12/11/2009

thank you ladies. i have been meaning to do that but i just have no back bone lol. i let my daughter do what she wants to make her happy. i guess i spoil her too. thanks again.

Joana - posted on 12/11/2009

Julia and Sherri-Ann have it right i had the same problem with my daughter until i finally bought her some princess panties and ta da potty training troubles over!

Sherri-Ann - posted on 12/11/2009

I agree. Just dont buy them. Buy some lovely underwear with princesses or something in them and tell her what a big girl she is. It will be hard at times but you have to stick to your guns. Unless of course there are developemental issues, a 3 year old shouldnt really be in nappies. But remember they are all different xx

Julia - posted on 12/11/2009

DO NOT BUY DIAPERS, DO NOT BUY PULLUPS!!!!!! Don't allow your mom to put them on her and don't put them on her yourself. Big girl panties are the way to go. My daughter was the same way with my ex husband when I got there (I was deployed) I put her immediately in big girl panties and she would get in trouble if she peed on herself. You might have to clean up a couple of messes. However she will get the hang of it quickly that way, she won't like the feeling of being wet or dirty. Also when you put her in the panties take her every hour to the bathroom and make her sit no matter what. My daughter got potty trained within 2 weeks (once my ex got on board with putting her in big girl panties and keeping on top of things) she still had a couple of accidents here and there (like maybe one or two a month) for a few months but we were great after that.