Fiona - posted on 03/21/2011 ( 8 moms have responded )
My 4 year old started kindergarten this year. He is toilet trained, however, he has been have accidents at kinder. When Zach is at home or at ABC day-care (goes2 days) he goes to the potty or toilet and has no accidents.
At the moment I am not sure if he is just nervous or he is having trouble there with other kids or one of the teachers. Zach has also started to bully his little brother. So far one of the teachers (Dianne) has told him off during his interviews for not being able to wipe his own bum. In the first week she told him that he was wearing baby nappies; he was very nervous about having an accident in front of the other kids and asked if he could wear a pull up. She had a go at me so the next day I sent him in underpants. He had his first accident (poos) in his pants and they didn't change him. Dianne then embarrassed him badly by saying very loudly in front of all the kids and parents that Zach had an accident and did poos in his pants. Zach ran out of the kinder. This sent his toilet training back and between his Dad, ABC day-care and myself we got him back on track.
Last week he had another accident they didn’t even tell us and he was left in it once again. On Monday (21/3/11) I asked this other kinder teacher (Jackie) why he hadn’t been changed or nothing was said. Jackie told me that she didn't know and the other kids didn't tell her either. I think she was just making an excuse because Zach's smell was really bad. He told me also that he was in trouble. Jackie said she is going to remind Zach to go to the toilet before he goes out to play and that it won’t happen again and if it did they would change him.
Today I got a phone call from kinder saying Zach had had another accident and could I come and change him. I went around too change Zach’s pants and why I was cleaning him up he told me that Dianne had told him he was in trouble and that he was bad.
His aunty has also had problems with Dianne when she sent he son there. When Dianne told all the kids that he was a baby and they all started calling him baby. Resulting in him hating it and needing to do another year of kinder. This aunt also went to the kinder today after I told her want happened and told Dianne that she was bad and Zachs aunt.
Can you please let me know what to do or if I am just seeing too much in to it? I don’t want Zach to hate the time he is there or get picked on by a teacher. Right now I am trying to work out if I should change him, get another day at ABC day-care instead of kinder or stick it out and hope it works out. Please let me know what you would do if you were me.