Stopped using potty

Sharon - posted on 04/19/2010 ( 11 moms have responded )

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My son is 4 yrs old now, he was doing great with the potty now he just shows no interest! Occasionally he tries at school, Grandma's and Mommom's, but not at home. I've tried just underwear and he's been going in those still, so I do pull-ups and diapers at night. How do I get him interested again? I don't want to do diapers at night that much and pull-ups are getting expensive. What can I do? Where do a start? Help!! I don't want him to be that 5 yr old that still wears pull-ups if he keeps this up!

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Samantha - posted on 04/24/2010

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Hi ya,
My son will be 4 in september, we have been dry at night and in the day for quite a while now. we had a period of wetting at home but nowhere else, he would even hold it if we were out til i got him to a toilet. so i had to get strict with him. every accident he had i made him remove his dirty clothes and put them in the wash basket and then go get himself clean ones and put them on. he soon got bored of doing the hard work himself. the key is not to make too much fuss over the accidents, any attention he gets for it will be welcomed.
going back to pull ups and nappies isn't the answer as he has to have your attention and affection in the way of a nappy change, he will just be lapping it up.
Hope you work it out son, i know its frustrating but stay strong.

Sara - posted on 04/19/2010

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A friend of mine reccomended a wrist watch set for every 20-30 minutes and let him know everytime it goes off to use the potty. I haven't gotten to that point yet with my daughter, even though it seems to vary every week. Sometimes we make progress and do well every time, then other days we're blowing through pull ups like you would diapers. I put a diaper on her the other day to make a point because she loves her pull ups, she was so upset that i told her she couldnt have her pretty panties back until she assured me that she would use the bathroom.

try treats or a treat board, an accumulation of stars leads to doing something fun, like the zoo or whatever- I'm not sure what he enjoys. Good luck, i hope it was at least a little help...

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Sherri - posted on 05/03/2010

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Zaklina in the states we call the toilet a potty a lot we don't necessarily mean a potty chair. I tell my kids to go potty all the time and they have never had a potty chair as I personally think they are gross.

Sherri - posted on 05/03/2010

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Seriously get rid of the diapers and pull ups!!!! Do it a weekend when you are not going anywhere no matter how many times they have an accident make them stay in it for a little bit and put them right back into big boy & girl underwear. Also set the timer for every 15-20mins make them sit there for at least 5mins by the time the weekend is over you should be good. It takes a lot of patience and work on your part but you need to let him know he is way to old and it is no longer an option (by actions not necessarily words)

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My 3.5 year old sounds like a few others posted here....phew! I'm not alone! She's been trained for a few months now and for the past few days is wetting herself several times a day. I am making a big deal of it...have even spanked her over it. I get so frustrated, as i know she can do better. Anytime I suggest it's time for her to go...It's "No! I don't need to go! " Then she'll wet herself moments later...not completely, but enough to wet her panties, sometimes her pants too. Now I've taken away her "big girl" toys like barbies and princess stuff...will give them back if she does better. Tomorrow will be the first day of this. This is completely for attention..or to drive me nuts....not genuine accidents. Lord give me strength!!!

Allison - posted on 05/02/2010

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im in australia, in the supermarkets they sell bullseyes for toilets, u throw the round paper bullseye into the loo, show your son how to aim into the toilet and it makes going to the toilet a fun experience.. i personally liked sara browns solution i may even try that with my son when he is ready for toilet training... my daughter who is 4 in june has never used a potty even though i did get one for her, she was always walking into the bathroom when i was in there and wanted to know what i was doing so i put her on the big toilet as she calls it and have never looked back, however she took a long time to want to do wees in the loo only wanted to use the toilet for poos. i rewarded her every time she went to wee in the toilet by buying her a pretty pair of undies either with cats or fairys something she would hate to get dirty, she still has an occasional accident but nothing to worrie about... as for your son being toilet trained and going backwards just use positive encouragement to go back to the toilet if u were using an actual potty for him this is the perfect time to teach him to use the big toilet as he needs to be using the toilet not a potty when he goes to kindergarden. good luck mate

Sharon - posted on 04/24/2010

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How can I get him reinterested in using the toliet and be excited about it?

Julie - posted on 04/23/2010

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Hi, I have a 3 and 1/2 year old girl who i have just toilet trained. She has done well. What i did was set up a star chart system where even if she sat on the toilet she got a star then she got one when she did something on the toilet. I found that she loved this and within two weeks she is taking herself to the bathroom wiping her bottom when she does a poo. Out of the three girls she has been the easiest. Hope this helps.

Emily - posted on 04/22/2010

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Hi Sharon - I share your pain. My daughter is 3.5 - she will be 4 in september and today i put a diaper back on her when her friend was over because she peed 3x in 10 min all over the house - she clearly is defying me. I guess she was tired because I put her down for a nap and i fell asleep and then she did - this has been her first nap in a long time - she refuses to take naps. she is independent and strong willed. I don't know what to tell you. Some kids jus decide to do what they want. It's easy for some moms to say you just need to _____ and it will work. Parents can't control all aspects of their kids lives and if they think they can then they are in for a world of hurt when their kid hits teenager life and says NO to them. let me know if you figure it out. :)

Zaklina - posted on 04/19/2010

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Hi Sharon. Why are you still using potty. Your son is 4 years old and he should use the toilet instead of potty. Going back on diapers or pull ups is one step back and big confusion for your son. I have 2 sons on age 2 and 3 1/2 and both of them are using the toilet. I am waking up twice per night to take my boys to the toilet and I am not using diapers. Your son is 4, old enough to talk with and find out the reason of his reactions. Give him a good explanation on a nice way, it looks like he wants your attention. Good luck

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