Stressing about daycare

Mandy - posted on 06/17/2010 ( 7 moms have responded )

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HELP!!!!! My 3 1/2yr old started daycare 4wks ago. Before this he went to an in-home sitter and loved it. The first daycare he went to he hated. He would not play or eat. We moved him to his current one. The daycare teachers tell me he does ok when he is there, but it is a struggle at home. He starts crying about going the night before. He only goes M-W-F. He cries when he goes to bed, when he gets up, on the way, and during drop off. This is his 2nd wk at this current daycare and he does not seem to be getting any better. What do I do???????

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Kelley - posted on 01/20/2011

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Give him time, he may get over it. If after awhile he still is crying about going I would check into seeing if maybe someone (child or adult) is scaring him or hurting him. You never know!

Jane - posted on 01/13/2011

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my kids have all cried at day care, but love C@K centres I believe it's the structure of C@K that makes it less stressful same teachers same children same routine they love it

Deborah - posted on 06/30/2010

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First I would sit down with him and talk about daycare, what he likes and dislikes. I would find out if you can stay and watch him from a distance (so he can't see you) at the daycare. Maybe there is something that he doesn't like and that is ruining the whole day. I used to work at a daycamp every summer and there were kids that came one year but didn't come the next because they didn't want to go swimming and thought they had to, but they never said anything to the counselors about not wanting to swim, once we found out we reassured them that they didn't have to swim and they came back and had a blast doing all the other activites. It could be something simple. But also talk to the other parents about how their kids were when they started. it will give you some insight. Also remember that it is a big transition going from home daycare to a daycare setting, more kids, more formal setting, it can be overwhelming, it will take time, and you might have to see about him keeping something with him to make him feel a little more comfortable in this new environment. My son never goes to daycare without his stuffed monkey, it's his best friend and has been for almost 2 years. Good luck and remember just be patient and don't stress out, kids can pick up your anxiety.

Jane - posted on 06/30/2010

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Take the day off work or use your non work day and ask rhem for a trial day (a free one) so that you can observe him and the staff during the day. I know time is sparse for working mums but it worked for me. I made myself stay there all day (i was so wanting to be anywhere else doing jobs that were piling up) but was able to se he was left to his own devicies all day with minimal adult interaction, as the staff stood around in packs chatting.I then asked for a meeting with the Director and told her as the new child I had an expectation the my child would be helped to intergrate into the system as many chidren have been coming since they were babies and have strong bonds with each other, And we needed help from staff to be able to stay enroled. My child needed to be made feel welcome. It worked.

Lizamalia - posted on 06/18/2010

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I'd take him out. IDK my daugher loves daycare but sometimes she comes in with an attitude and comes out with scrapes and it pisses me off. But maybe thier mistreating him or something is going on that he doesnt like.

Marcy - posted on 06/18/2010

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Its so hard isn't it? For my son its all about routine. Change something and it just rocks his little world. My son (now almost 4) was at an in home daycare until he was 2 1/2. At that point I moved him to a new school to start nursery (his school goes up to 6th grade). He cried and clung to me like he was being tortured everyday when I dropped him off and sometimes at night as well. it took a good 2 months before things got better. Here is what helped for us. I went and got a cheapo photo album and a ton of really cool stickers. I cut them up and filled the sticker album with them. Everyday when I dropped him offa t school I let him pick two stickers (1 for each hand) and I called them "No Crying Stickers" because only big boys get them. This helped out a lot. I think its toihg for him since he goes to daycare 3 days a week. I find that even now after the weekend its hard to do a drop off. Are there other kids at the daycare his age? Once he makes friends with them it will be easier. Good luck....

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