Toliet Training my 3 year old boy?

Sarah - posted on 01/04/2010

I work in a day care centre also.. With the children who have accidents we take them to the toilet and clean them up then sit them on the toilet for 5-10 mins after and explain to them that this is where they need to do their poos and wees not in their pants or on the floor. Usually after a few times they learn to go on the toilet.. Another thing to take not is that most kids do their poo at around the same time of day each day. My son goes of a night just before bed time. At that time of day keep asking them do they need to go or sit them on the toilet to see if they can go.

Jessica - posted on 01/02/2010

Let him sit in his poopy undies for a little bit. I was lucky with my son who is almost 4. We just got him potty trained during the day and we put big boy undies on him and let him sit in it for a while (no more than 10 minutes) and he was pee and poop trained after putting big boy undies on him in about 2 weeks. He didn't like feeling the poop on his buttocks. We made a huge deal out of him going to the bathroom in the big potty and give him a high five and now that he is potty trained we still give him the positive praise for being dry

Eliza - posted on 01/02/2010

I have the same prob too.. my son is 3 and still won't poo in the potty. I snatched him from his hiding when he's abt to poop and left him sitting on the potty, undressed for 2 hours but he held it in. the thing is, I couldn't sit and wait for him the whole day as I have to cook & clean d house as well...

Samantha - posted on 01/01/2010

Wir hatten das selbe Problem mit meinem Sohn, aber als ich einmal gemerkt habe das er auf´s "Klo" muß hab ic h ihn einfách aufs WC gesetzt, bis etwas gekommen ist. Danach ging es dann von selbst. Es war nur die Überwindung vom ersten Mal.

Yeliz - posted on 01/01/2010

I would not clean and just leave him with his dirty pants for 5 minutes!!

Stephanie - posted on 01/01/2010

Quoting Tammy:

we used bubble gum,every time he went poo he could get a piece. I tried many many of tricks but this is the one that did it for him. I would also take him in the potty when you went in his pants and dump it down the toilet and tell him"this is where it goes". it takes time , every child is different. You just have to stick with it

That's a good idea...how old was he when he starting going all the time?

BJ - posted on 01/01/2010

I have 3 year old twins and it really wasnt' that hard for us! Thank goodness, we used Cheerios. We put the Cheerios in the toilet and told them to aim for the hole!! It was so funny to watch them aim, and also we would say "put the "alligator" back in the water and flush him" (the poo). Kinda sounds nasty but worked like a charm!!

Michelle - posted on 12/31/2009

I know the feeling. My son is 3 going on 4 and still stinks in his underwear. The doc said he will learn and be patient. He has been using the potty for a year and still only does #1 in it but not #2.

Paige - posted on 12/31/2009

with my son he KNEW what he was doing because he would hide to poop. I finally reached my breaking point and spanked him and put him in a time out. The following day he had held it all day so after his bath I left him with NO CLOTHES sitting on his potty in his room in front of a movie. Eventually he pooped in his potty, I made a HUGE deal out of it with chocolate candy, singing, dancing and lots of hugs and kisses to let him know how proud of him I was. He hasn't pooped anywhere but on the toilet since. This was right after he turned 3. I had to wait him out until almost 10:30 at night to get that first potty poop, but it worked.

Joanne - posted on 12/31/2009

It makes me feel so much better to know that loads of other parents are having the same prob. Its so frustrating!!!! As Stacey says, if anyone has any ideas, pls pls let me know. In the meantime, good luck girls! xx

Stacy - posted on 12/30/2009

I am having the same problem with my daughter! We have tried to bribe, but it doesnt work. so if anyone has any suggestions, please help!

Joanne - posted on 12/30/2009

Hi. I'm having a similar prob with my 3 yr old daughter. Most of the time when she needs to poo, she'll stand with her legs so tightly crossed so she stops herself from going, Originally we thought she was constipated so went to our GP who prescribed some medication to help 'get things moving'. Unfortunately, we've discovered that the prob isn't that she can't go, its that she won't go. Very frustrating!! I'm being v patient with her and praising her when she does go, but most days she goes through 3 or 4 pairs of knickers. Its a v tough situation cos i know that if i'm not careful i can end up making things worse.
I agree with all of the other mums though, the little munchkins are all different and it does take time, patience is most definately the key, even though it seems to be taking forever lol

Fatima - posted on 12/30/2009

Try putting on big boy undies for him like his Daddy. They just love doing what their Dad's do. My one used to mess his undies too, until he just couldn't handle the uncomfortable feeling. I used to tell him that he is a baby and can't go outside to play or watch TV or even go and play with his cousins because babies don't do these things. Only big boys and big boys go to toilet. Just remember each child is different and he will go in his own time. Just remember that you were not alone in this battle. Good Luck, I hope this helps a bit.

Jessica - posted on 12/28/2009

Does he do it in big boy undies? My son I had the hardest time getting my son interested in going and finally just put him in big boy undies so he could feel he was wet and feel he was poopy and after a couple times going poop in his undies he didn't like it one bit and he's starting to go poop in the potty and I didn't use sticker charts or candy as a reward just big boy undies and A LOT of positive praise when he does his duty and I still do the positive praise when he goes potty

Jodie - posted on 12/28/2009

My daughter did exactly the same thing. I just stuck at it and after a few weeks she just got the hang of it on her own. Now we have no accidents at all.

Amanda - posted on 12/26/2009

Mine had the same issue, he would hide everytime he had to go poo. So with the help form a family member we tried their suggestion. As soon as your child poos in his pants take him and clean him up, explain to him wear he needs to go then make him go sit on the toilet for 5-10min with the door open. Don't let him see you but stay close by to make sure he doesnt get off the toliet. Within 3 days my son started going on his own and we havent had an accident since, that was about 3mo ago. Hope it helps cause it worked wonders for me.

Tammy - posted on 12/26/2009

we used bubble gum,every time he went poo he could get a piece. I tried many many of tricks but this is the one that did it for him. I would also take him in the potty when you went in his pants and dump it down the toilet and tell him"this is where it goes". it takes time , every child is different. You just have to stick with it

Angie - posted on 12/26/2009

ok this happened with one of mine guess what it was my first my daughter she would go and hide whenever she needed a poo.... Just be patient with him. Have you ever like a lot of mums do when having changed his nappy whilst being a bay go your stinky or your bum stinky ? I found that it gives children a complex and they go and hide when they need number 2 especially. Maybe he is just shy. This may sound disgusting but take him to the toilet with you when you go to do your business so he sees that its nothing to be ashamed of. Thats about all I can say because its a tricky one. Good luck hope it helps X