we all have 3YO w/attitudes, but what do you DO about the attitude?

ALMA - posted on 02/22/2010

I RECENTLY TOOK SOME "LOVE AND LOGIC" CLASSES OFFERED AT MY OLDER SON'S SCHOOL... YOU SHOULD LOOK INTO THAT AS YOU WILL FIND THEM VERY, VERY HELPFUL FOR THESE LITTLE ATTITUDE SITUATIONS! I'VE LEARNED TO MANAGE WITH MY THREE YEAR OLDS ATTITUDE WITHOUT GETTING AS FRUSTRATED.

Amanda - posted on 02/22/2010

tabitha does the same thing to me and she has the habbit of throwing her self on the floor tell me im making her mad etc i send her to her room and she always goes up there and slams her door i cant stand when i go up there to talk to her she does the same thing yell at me and the im making her mad and im mean to her if she dont settle down i then take away things she likes like her tv or favorit toy she throws a fit but learns not to do that ... but we go over and over this routine shes good for like a week and then finds something else to yell about and throw a fit the said thing is her younger sister is starting to do it to and with me being pregnant i just wanna freak and leave the house so i hope the attitudes go away in time

Alexandria - posted on 02/22/2010

My son used to have a terrible attitude, he is going to be 4 on Monday (March 1st) and things have improved greatly over the last little while. When my son doesnt listen to me or answers me back rudely i simply say Mummy is not going to be speaking to you anymore if you are going to talk to me like that. Then when i dont listen to what he is trying to tell me it upsets him and he then realized that when he does not listen to me it upsets me. Kids are smart and they know things, they are just trying to see what you are going to tollerate and what they can get away with. When my son, yells back at me or refuses to do something that i have asked him to do, he goes for a time out. Sometimes it is not just a regular time out either, like there is a landing half way up our stairs where he goes for a him out and sometimes it does not bother him at all to go there so we through in little jobs to make it a punishment, for instance we get him to wash the walls going up the stairs as they are always dirty with finger prints lol. My son now knows that i do not tollerate his poor attitude, so when he is behaving he knows that Mummy will listen to him and play with him (or whatever it is he wants) but as soon as the poor attitude comes out again i quickly remind him that it is not going to be tollerated. It seems that now he knows what the boundaries are of his behavior he is a completely different little boy ....... hope this helps you a little bit. Good luck i know it can be frustrating!!

Anastasia - posted on 02/20/2010

i have that problem as well and dont know how to get that attitude out of my almost 4yr daughter its crazy