bottles,older kids and special needs

Cherish - posted on 02/28/2010 ( 15 moms have responded )

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Ok,
So let me first say I am looking for some people in similar situations.
NOT somebody is is going to be critical.

My son will be 8 in 3 months and he is still drinking a bottle at night.
LONG story short he has classic autism,MR,hypotonia,dysarthia,apraxia....etc.
His soft palette touches his tongue(making it hard to swallow sitting up) and he could not chew food until he was 4.
He laid down flat to drink because his tone problems made him a bad sucker.

He started drinking out of a cup this year and uses it most of the day,but I put his meds in his milk and he wants a bottle at night and in the morning....

Any one have any advice about maybe getting him off the bottle?
Again,please do not be critical,unless your kid has had the same issues.

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Tammy - posted on 01/16/2014

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Though I was alone in this.My son is 5 and still can't chew he gets all nutrients via a bottle.And yes my son has autism and hypotonia and food sensitivities and a lot of other things won't bore you with the list.And just giving you a pat on the back for not going for that feeding tube.Its a hard place to be providing everything thru a bottle.Good luck keep you head up and glad to know I'm not the only mom dealing with this even though it's a hard road to walk.

Angie - posted on 03/24/2010

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Have you tried a sippy cup with a soft silicone spout? They are pretty similar to bottles but may help him transition.

Claire - posted on 03/20/2010

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our 4year old still has bottles and pureed food and will not drink out of a cup either we did manage to change him from the avent bottles to the bottles with the handles from a supermarket but then they stopped doing them we have tried giving him a soft spout but he just throws them on the floor, going back to the feeding i have tried taking a 1/4 of the pureed jarred food out and putting the same amount of homemade food in but he refuses to eat out of it so i then have to go and get another jar of food for him to eat hope this helps

Cherish - posted on 03/20/2010

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Hi,
Thanks.
I am glad he is not the only older child (almost 8) on a bottle.
People often comment on it,but they all have "typical" kids...lol

He did start using a nosey cup when he was 61/2 or 7 tho...
So if your son is only 5,he has a few years to get there :)

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Sarah - posted on 04/03/2017

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IMO that article was about a lot more than just a child having a bottle at 5. Perhaps more about the mother's choice to bottle feed (and that was likely the best and only choice for her) and not feeling confident about her choice. The author states she nursed her sons until two, not five. At 5 there are lots of ways to bond and snuggle that don't involve a bottle. The mother even says the child is no longer being held when she consumes the bottle. Is it s comforting ritual? Probably, but I have to wonder if mom is waking her 5 yo to brush her teeth after that nightly bottle.
To say that giving a 4yo with the skills of a 18 month old a bottle is a cultural reason is not accurate. That would be a prime example of a medical need to give an older child a bottle.

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There are many reasons including cultural reasons why some take a bottle longer than others just as reasoning behind a child that is tube fed. First, when you have a child with special needs one must first reconize the childs devlopmental age vs the childs chronological age typically by developmental testing. Say you have a 4 year old that is developmentally an 18 month old, it's socially appropriate to give a bottle or breast to the 18 month old, however when one gives a bottle to a 4 year old the world falls apart. There are many factors that go into breast and or bottle feeding beyond a certin age, sensory is one of them. An article that may be of some interest to your readers is at www.brainchildmag.com/2003/07/my-five-year-old-daughter-still-has-a-bottle

My best to all the mom's who place their childs needs above the opinions of others. A Peditrician, Gastroenterologist and an RD would best make nutritional recommendations.

Sarah - posted on 04/02/2017

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There is a vast span between "need(ing) to do what is best for our children and not listen to American society/culture" and dealing with a child who has special needs. Nursing a child beyond age 2-3 has not proven beneficial for the child. Unless medically indicated, there would be no reason to give a child over 2 a bottle.

Ev - posted on 04/02/2017

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If your child is able to use a cup with a lid or without a lid, then Jo Anna he needs to do that. Bottles are only meant for kids up to about age 2 if that.

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I see this is an older post but want to address your question anyway. My son is five and a half years old, was born with special needs and still takes a bottle. He is also on a medical formula to meet his dietary needs. He eats many different foods but needs the soy formula to get all the nutrients he requires. I took a bottle until I was nearly six and it certainly didn't harm me. My paternal grandmother nursed my auntie until she was nearly 8-didn't want more babies I guess. Nursing via breast or bottle has never hurt anyone. We need to do what is best for our children and not listen to American society/culture.

Cherish - posted on 03/26/2010

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Hi,
The sippy cups w/soft spouts make him mad.
He just chews the tops off and pours out the liquid.

When you drink you have to tip your head back a little and the feeding therapist said he feels like he is going to choke,that's why he won't use them

Claire - posted on 03/20/2010

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our eldest has slight cerebral palsy and he will drink out of a cup but when we are travelling it is easier for us to give him a bottle as it won't spill over the back seat of the car

Dannielle - posted on 03/14/2010

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my son is 5 this may and he is still on a bottle day and night he is not able to drink from a training cup yet he has a lot of feeding problems also he is stilll on puree food but we keep trying and just waiting he will move on when hes ready ...good luck

Julie - posted on 03/01/2010

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Hi - I can't really offer that much advice, but my son has just turned 5 and still has a bottle at night and if/when he needs a nap. He hasn't had anything like the issues that your son has had with food (I count my blessings that he has always eaten well), but he seems like he needs that comfort to go to sleep. I keep thinking that I am going to have to try and get him off it and have tried giving him soft spouted cups etc at night, but he just tends to choke on them because the milk comes out too fast, I really don't know how I am going to get him off them, especially since my son's level of understanding is so low that I can't do the "you're a big boy now" thing, so I'll be watching this post with interest to see if anyone has any ideas to help us both!!! Good luck!

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