The book Out of Sync Child

Cynthia - posted on 02/05/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )

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Has anyone read this book yet? I have been looking for answers to all of my son's behavioral/developmental issues and nobody can find medical reasons why he acts the way he does. I've had every lab and urine test done on him. He's had MRIs done to check for CP. Autism has been ruled out (too social). So I read the introduction to Out of Sync Child and it sounded like it might fit. He doesn't like his head or neck to be touched. This includes washing/brushing/drying hair and still screams when brushing teeth. He chews on everything from toys to books, his clothes and his own hands. He is an extremely loving and social little boy and I'm just trying to find the right answers. His doctors, teachers, and therapists are all stumped. Next step for me is to get a psych eval done and to have him see a urologist to make sure his inability to potty train isn't physical. Hopefully this book will help me identify how to deal with some of his sensitivities to touch and sound.

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Jennifer - posted on 02/18/2010

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could be sensory processing disorder like my son def. has.. Sensory Processing Disorders..the Answers is a great book.

Sheryl - posted on 02/15/2010

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i read it! its help me with my child! we got my son in early intervation. they help with a number of things. they also teach tips and things you can do too make things easer for them and you. i didn't do alot of testing. my son has a speech delays so that the first place i thought of to go. place my son would not set or just handle being in a doc. very well! i am starting potty train with mine her soon. his two! i am just going to take my time with it. i think the big thing is not to push them to hard sometimes. but that just my point of view. good luck with everything.

Peggy - posted on 02/12/2010

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i dont want to be crude but the second book is called the out of sync child has fun.. i bought both when they told me my son had sensory processing disorder. now we found out offically that he is autisic but beingt they go hand in hand im still glad i bought both the out of sync books. id really suggest getting both books for anyone who is thinking about getting them. they are awsome reads. the first one goes into explaining the disorder what it is and how it is diagnosied and what not. the second one goes in to explain how you can help with a sensory diet with those children and how you can make their day a little easier by just using some very simple activies.

Shontelle - posted on 02/07/2009

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Cynthia,
Well what I give my son "Yummi Bears" multi-vitamin & mineral , Omega 3 -Liquid, and Liquid vitamin b-12(you can buy these at GNC) he likes these and they have worked for him. so has the diet... I really don't want to medicate my child either and it will be the last thing I do... Keep in touch

Cynthia - posted on 02/07/2009

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Thank you so much.  I relate to you and your son on so many levels.  Your words have touched me in a way I can't explain.  In these special children you do cherish the small things and you have to know that they get their will from your strength and consistency.  My son has been fortunate enough to have OT, PT, and Speech since he was a little over one year old.  He has never seen a behavioral therapist, but I would like him to.  His vocabulary has recently exploded.  His speech is somewhat repetitive, but he is still talking and that is HUGE.  I actually am worried about his self-esteem because he has a younger brother who will be 3 in June and is already passing him up on things.  I do give him vitamins daily, but can you tell me the vitamins you have your son on?  I've never heard of those.  My so has also tested at least 18 months behind where he should be across intelligence tests.  His learning is slow and he can't focus for very long.  I think he has a touch of ADD.  Medicating him for that is a last resort for me, so I need alternative strategies to help him combat that.  Even with all his issues I have recently put him in a 3-4 yr old Karate class.  The instructor understands his problems and told me she would work with him.  He loves it!  I thank God for him daily.  He is so loving and sweet and I just want to do all the right things for him.  He deserves that.  I have scheduled a 2nd opinion for a neurologist (the last one I saw was extremely arrogant), and a psych eval.  Thank you for your kind words.  It's nice to know other people have been where I am and that is very comforting.

Shontelle - posted on 02/06/2009

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I have.. I have both books... Read it cover to cover and take the test inside... They are telling me my son is Autistic , but I have still found answer to some of my questions in this book. You should also get the Out of Sync Child at Play.. it give you ideals on how to play with your child ... it is a great book!

Catherine - posted on 02/05/2009

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Boys can potty train late...someone should have told you that.  My son didn't finish until 6.   You should have added how old he was.  If you are talking about your 4 year old...don't stress!  Chewing could be a combo of things like teething and possibly he is deficient in some minerals.  My son struggled with tags in his cloths, touching things or tasting things when he was younger...I just kept consistent and kept at it.  He sounds like he has a lot of sensory issues.  Go see an occupational therapist.  My son received various therapies that helped his sensory issues as well as listening therapy.  Actually your son could have a slight form of Autism... a very mild one.  Some doctors don't acknowledge the mild forms depending on what state you are in.  It is important for you to not stress around him...he will pick up on things and if he is your middle child then they always need extra attention because they can feel like they aren't the baby and they tend to act out to get attention.  My son was very social and loving and yet definitely has characteristics of Autism...I don't like the word myself but he is classified as A-typical Autistic so the school would receive more money and it allowed me to get services for him through the school...OT, speech, behavirist, etc.   One thing I have learned is consistency with requirements.  If he knows what to expect and has boundaries my son is very happy.  Transitions were and sometimes are still very difficult for him so I have to give multiple warnings about changes to a schedule or the beginning of a new event...even if it is a fun one.  I give and have given my son specialized liquid vitamins and minerals that have a detox effect as well as give him an extra boost to his immune system.  Special kids need extra nutrients... don't let a doctor tell you differently...most doctors have only 8 hours of nutrition to get their degree.  That doesn't cover all the basics!  Look into testing for things that shouldn't be in him like, lead, mercury, etc.  If he has fillings -get the almagams out and put in porcelian.   Don't let the dentist convince you otherwise.   My son has an amazing memory, has a gift for music and a large vocabulary but he did terrible on tests....Psych tests will only tell you the parameters that the doctor can put in for.  Our children live outside the box so you need to find his strengths and focus on those.  My son won't ever be a wiz at math...he has dyscalculia (math dyslexia) which most experts don't even acknowledge yet...so I don't focus on what they say negatively but on all the things he can do.  I focus on what does he need to know and learn so that he is a good citizen as an adult and how to help him function on his own.  It is almost better to not have a label to place him in...kids are mean with labels and labels affect self-esteem.  I wish you God's best... He is the one I look to for my strength and direction.  Fondly, Catherine

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