User - posted on 05/28/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )
My 8 yr old has many different issues and I'm not sure about any of it.
1. He just doesn't work with school. He has thrown tantrums, destroyed his supplies, his desk, thrown rocks at cars, stuff at other kids, back-talked the teacher, refused to do work, and is continually isolated in office or walled desks or halls, gets bad reports BUT can memorize his entire spelling list, read a chapter book, complete a page of math flawlessly. He is extremely smart but has meltdowns about things he did perfectly the previous day.
2. He lies. He lies about tiny things. When confronted about his behavior, we are guaranteed 30 min of blank faced, no comment, maybe mumbling, seemingly no remorse most of the time.
3. We discovered he has been throwing away his lunch for at least two months. And now he has been sneaking snack food into his room. Caught once mid sneak and today I found one under his pillow. He's very thin and we do not deny him food unless he's refused to finish a recent meal. Food has always been an issue, even fun stuff like hamburgers, fruit etc, can cause him to sit at the table for hours, pushing it around and not responding to any coaxing etc.
***Honestly it's the inability to get through to him, to change anything, or see remorse that I find the hardest. I don't trust him at all :(