Allison - posted on 02/12/2011 ( 2 moms have responded )
Hello, I am pretty new to this site and have never posted I am in definite need of support and feedback and any given would be helpful. I was married for 11 years to my ex husband we have 2 girls and twin boys. Our divorce was final July 29,2010. It still hard to say it and see it in writing. We divorced due to infedility. He met someone at work. The first time I found out I just wanted him back, he said it would be different and just wanted his family back, I tried several things thinking this was my fault. I even went to the doctor and had a full work up just to find out I was severly depressed. A little over a year later he cheated again with the same women. We divorced and the new women and her husband just finalized their divorce Jan 2011. I am in counseling now but how do I move on. Some days I feel like I can beat the sadness and just move on and other days its just so sad. Not to mention he is extremely selfish. The kids and I suffered from his selfishness during the marriage and I just didnt see it or didnt want to. I want happiness again. I see him moving on with this women without a care in the world and wonder how he does it? What was the 11 years we were together. I dont want him back I have healed enough to know that it would not be good for me or the kids either one, I just want to where I am going and how to get there!!!!!