Tami - posted on 02/06/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )
I definitely need some women of God to give me some words of encouragement and even some advice. My husband and I have been separated for a year now. Our story has been rough and we separated once before for almost a year. We ended up getting back together to try to make it work, but in the end even after moving to a new state (North Carolina) it just wasn't able to work out for us. He then left to go back to Florida and I stayed in NC to try to take care of myself and my son. He tried to get me to move back to Florida, not to get back together but so that he wouldn't be so far away from his son. I had a job and was in a lease and I told him it was his choice to move away from his son so he would have to do his best and that I would work with him. Of course, he never even tried to see his son nor did he ever send any money to help take care of some of the expenses for our son. I wanted a divorce quickly but I didn't have the money so I waited to save up money. In the meantime, he did his own thing barely talking to his son and I did mine and took care of my son and worked. I ended up meeting a guy and I straight up told him my situation. I'm not gonna lie though, I wasn't walking the path I should have been and my walk with God was non-existent. The guy that I met ended up being everything I never had. He took care of me and my son when money got tight and was a good male role model for my son when he didn't have one. In December, my boyfriend and I, along with my son, moved to Virginia. He still cares of us and is great. Our divorce has to wait because I have to be in the state for 6 months before I can file here. We have a separation agreement until then. However, my boyfriend and I just found out that we are pregnant. I've been attending church since we moved here and I've been working on my faith and walk with God, but this has put a huge worry on my mind. My biggest worry is telling my parents. Yes, I know. I am 26 years old and an adult but my father is a preacher and my mother is even more strict than he. Not to mention, when I was pregnant with my son I was 22 and not married at the time. I just don't want to disappoint them and I know they will worry my husband will find out and try to take our son. I have talked to a lawyer who has told me he can't do that, but I know it's still a worry of theirs. I just need some advice and help!