2 different religions and one child

Jennifer - posted on 02/19/2010 ( 28 moms have responded )

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okay help me. i think i know the answer but it is always good to hear what others have to say in most cases>>...
okay here is my issue im a christian and my childs father is a muslim.. i know already there is an issue but we thought we could work it out in a relationship. then we got pregnant and then all things changed he wants me to raise our child as a muslim cover up and all no christmas no teachings of jesus non of that and im just not with it although christmas isnt the most inportant thing in the world i want my daughter to experience these things>> and now the father is really starting to desprespt me as a christian saying im taking my daughter to church teaching her liesl. so this is really bothering me and i wanna leave him but thats her dad>..if anyone is outthere reading this tell me what should i do?

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Yenly - posted on 02/25/2010

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You already know the answer. There is only one path, the right path. Do not allow anyone to deviate you from the Lord Almighty. He has strengthened and loved you always, do not turn your back just to satisfy your baby's father. Lord I pray that your daughter Jennifer may find her answer in your purpose. May her baby's father be touched and turned into a born again man. May this beautiful baby serve as a blessing that changes both the mother's and father's ways. May this family be blessed and strengthen in your love for all. Speak to the Lord and ask him for the correct answer for your family, he is the wisest. May you find your blessing on this night. Amen. I would like to add that children are not by coincidence, maybe the Lord is opening a door for this baby's father to find him.

Linda - posted on 02/25/2010

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Hi, Jennifer...boy it is quite by chance that I happened to see your post....I don't usually log on to this site, never in fact. But I did today to change something about my post. Then I tried to exit but couldn't...and before I just threw my hands up in exasperation and just happened to see your post. Am so glad that I did.
First, are you married to this muslim man? I just happened (soo many coincidences...hmmm...maybe God is up to something???) to have watched a program on Christian television last night. This woman told her story of having been married to a muslim man. She had been Christian but left her faith and became a practicing muslim for 15 years while married to this man. She said the longer you are with a muslim who is fundamental in his faith, as your husband/boyfriend appears to be, the more abusive he bacame to her. She said that their intent is to dominate you and it is common practice to beat the wife for even burning the rice! Jennifer, if you stay with this man,, from what you tell me and from what I know, you will regret it. He is attempting to take the truth of the Gospel from you and from your child, without which there is no salvation. He will not only take your faith from you but he will take your dignity. It is common place for muslim men who are strong believers in the koran to secretly marry other wives. Get out while you can. God may not like divorce but He also does NOT condone anyone messing with your relationship with Him. Even in the bible, God told Moses to have those Israelite men who had married pagan wives to get rid of the wives. We are not to be unequally yoked with an unbelieving spouse. This man is a threat to your eternal salvation and that of your child. I believe that God will condone your leaving and divocing this man...speak to a pastor about this issue to be sure....but get away from him before he inflicts bodily damage to you or your child. He may be a "good guy" right now, but I tell you the truth, a muslim's religion comes before any loyalty they may have to any thing or person. Their loyalty to their religion is the only assurance they have for salvation, according to their beliefs. They not only die for their religion, they are not afraid to sacrifice their children for their religion. Their religion is so contrary to Christianity....their god demands they die for him; Christianity's God required that He, Himself die for His creation. There is no similarity betweent the two faiths. And as a muslim, he will NOT relent. Believe me. The choice you make will determine whether you and your child live in peace or whether the two of you live under a gradual dictatorship. God bless and strengthen you on this journey. Please do some research on former muslim wives....Rev. W.L. Cati PHd...check this woman's testimony out...she is the former muslim wife who converted to islam for 15 years....was abused by her muslim husband for that time and then came back to Christ. She now holds seminars and speaks to woman about islam and the horrors of it. Please get informed and protect yourself and your precious little one.

Tah - posted on 02/25/2010

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We are not to be unequally yoked for sure, and you are not married so you have no obligation to stay....sometimes we chose the person we are to be with instead of letting God do this because there is someone for us that he has chosen, when you meet this person, i am so sure this won't be your issue..Now we must trian up a child in the way they should go and when they are old they won't depart from it, so if he doesn't know the way, then it is up to you to show it to her....People will marry others and say, o he is a good guy and a good dad, but we differ on religion, that is a huge point...as one of the posters said, IF you were married, this wouldn;t grounds to leave unless it was interrupting your walk with God...since you are not married, it is best you decide now...

Darcel - posted on 02/23/2010

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I never thought I'd say this but...
In regards to marriage if you want to abide by the holy bible everything Victoria MacPherson said is 100% correct.

Nothing against Victoria I love her strong walk with Christ; I am usually the waffler with the marriage issue.

Usually I am all for inter-whatever hetrosexual marriages, but not when it comes to compromising your faith. Remember outlandish women caused wise Solomon to sin and lose is salvation with the Lord. God forbid the children of Iseral to marry outside the camp in the old testament. Thousand of people died repeatly in the old testament over this very issue. In the New testament Paul said marry whom you will but ONLY IN THE LORD! This means that we are to only marry of like faith.

As you can see your boyfriend is not compromising his faith with your relationship, why should you?

Victoria - posted on 02/23/2010

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Hi Carly Harlow,



To answer you question, when you study the root words in this potion scripture from the Greek origins,



1 Co 7:12 To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her.

13 And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him.



When it comes down to live with him or live with her, it explains that as being



-allowing one to worship God unhindered. If the spouse is trying to hinder the other persons relationship with God, then they really are NOT willing to live with them as far as them being a Christian.



I hope this helps.

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i am both my mother is Christian and my father is a Muslim and trust me as a child to parents of different religion it was not easy for me growing up I contradicted everything. And then there came a point in my life where I stopped believing because I said how could there be a god if he's making my parents fight over him in different views. The Muslim religion is not bad I as a child was forced to wear the robes and I was embarrassed it made me rebel in my teenage years. Also the not eating pork omg when my ex first introduced me to a McDonald's burger at 18 year old I fell in love my dad hated me after that. He haven't spoken to me since I turned 13 and told him I did not wanna wear a robe he had my mother remove his last name and him from my birth certificate because I got a boyfriend at 18. I think you should talk to him and share it teach her both but have her choose which one she wants don't enforce a religion because is just going to make her rebel. I'm a full Christian now and I just had a baby and yes due to my fathers Muslim religion I circumcised him. Also I Christian him. I suggest you pray to god and sit down with your man from experience in the Muslim community woman have no say so if you want him to hear you and understand where you coming from point out what's going in the world now and how would his daughter feel. Play to his heart desire of seeing his daughter happy.

Rosa - posted on 03/10/2011

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Ok, there will alway be an issues between you too for the differences in religion. And I completely believe that a common religion in a home is required; however, I have seen it work too. My mom is Seventh-day Adventist Christian and my dad was Rastafirian, so we went to which even church we like. She didnt want us to grow up hating church cause we are push to go. Now, im going to be honest I was completely ok until disrespect started. You both knew u were different religion so for him to start saying this now is an issue for me. But Im more worried about your daughter and the way he will treat her in the future if she chooses Christianity. How she dress, wear her hair, short etc. If he is going to become aggressive toward her I would say leave. Sorry, I dont believe in divorce but when a child may be affected then yes. Daughters love their father and if he is going to look at her in a different light becasue she doesnt cover up Im telling you it will affect her in the future. I wanted to go to my father religion cuz I would connect with him more, but I didnt and now my husband is Christian he isnt happy.

Cynthia - posted on 03/03/2010

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continue to pray sister our God is one who is able . He will deliver you n show u the way.Abide to the truth i.e his words, the bilbe. Listen to him.Do not grieve the Holy spirit. God bless!

Diane - posted on 03/03/2010

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The Best advise That I have for you if you are a Christian, and you do truely believe in The Lord Jesus Christ, get on your knees, and PRAY, the Bible sez ASK and you shall recieve!! I Believe the Bible from cover to cover, I have stayed on my knees alot, I have a 25 yr old son, married and trying to have a child now, and a 19 yr old son, married and a wife that is 7 mo. preg., they we're both raised in Church but now go only every once in a while, I pray from them and there families ALL the time, and Now God is doing Miracles!!!!

Karyl - posted on 02/25/2010

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First I need to ask is your relationship with God solid. It seems to me that you need to work on knowing Him better. God is a jealous God He does not share His children. If you truly want His will for your life you would seek His face for a closer walk yourself. You need to seek counsel from a pastor and maybe one that is not your dad. There has to be another pastor in your community that you could talk to. You should never marry an unbeliever unless you are an unbeliever yourself. It is a SIN. It is in Scripture. God will not bless SIN. Get right with Him and then raise your child to know Him as well.

Carol - posted on 02/25/2010

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I totally agree that a relationship can work out with two different beliefs with prayer. Also listening to God when he answers.

Angel - posted on 02/23/2010

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i am sorry your Boyfriend. It could work out if you want it to and it is Gods will

Angel - posted on 02/23/2010

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My husband and I are kinda the same just not to that extreme. But maybe you all can agree to teach your child and respect BOTH religions and let the child experience both and when he gets old enough he can then make the decision of what he wants to know and learn. Religion i don't think is mean or reason for divorce I think that only extreme cases call for divorce, I think you can work it out. My opinion

Terri - posted on 02/23/2010

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My daughter is Christain and her fiance is Muslim. My granddaughter he wishes her to be raised with both religions...BUT.....he doesn't want her to open gifts on Christmas its ok the day before, and she can celebrate Easter just not about CHRIST. And of course no pork. I am a Born AGAIN PROUD Christian and I am teaching her of Jesus and when she is older she can choose her own path. My daughter stays out of it, probably to keep peace in the house. I hope all goes well with you...

Heather - posted on 02/23/2010

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When I posted my first comment I was under the impression that you were married. Please, please do not stay together for the sake of the child. That never turns out well. As you are not married you need to do what is best for your baby, and I personally think that would be makeing your home centered on Christ. You can still be friends and on good terms with the baby's dad, but just let him know that Jesus is important for the salvation of your child, and for him. You want to raise your baby to know that. I will continue praying for your situation.

Jennifer - posted on 02/22/2010

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thank you evelyn you are speaking it.....but once again we are not married .....thank u for your comment..i will pray on it ...but this is the reason y i would never marry; him because of his religion and to be honest we were just chilling together and a baby just happened to come in the mix....which just made things a little harder ...i know jesus as the son of god....i know my beliefs...i have the bible and he has the quran....which only believes jesus to be a prophet...thats crazy..but thank you ....yall have a good eve.

Evelyn - posted on 02/22/2010

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It still doesn't matter about these different cultures. Jesus is the only way. 1 culture, 1 religion, 1 God-Jesus. People wake up and smell Jesus. Jesus Jesus Jesus. He is the beginning and the end of all things. 1 Lord 1 Faith 1 baptism 11111111111 JJJJEEEESSSUUUSSSSS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!HHHHHEEEELLLPPP your people to know you. Without the Holy Spirit your lost to a certain degree receive the holy spirit and allow Jesus to lead you to truth which is in Him... Acts 2:38

Evelyn - posted on 02/22/2010

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Jesus is the son of God which means he (Jesus) is God the one and only. How can someone believe in part of the bible and whole bible, there is one bible how can u have a bible about Jesus and your husband has his bible 1/2 of Jesus. He is denying Jesus. Muhummand can't save him only Jesus can save. Maybe you should of thought before you married him, 2 can't walk together unless they agree. Jesus help your people, help them to know the truth which is you

Evelyn - posted on 02/22/2010

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I disagree the muslim don't have have the full truth because if so this will not be a discussion, and you know the truth and Jesus is the truth, stick with what the bible says the apostle doctrine. Don't ever deney Jesus, and you can't serve 2 Gods or 2 reglion. 1 Cor 7:12-15. That's why the bible speaks of unequally yoke. just my opinion I think you both need to talk and try working things out and as for your walk with Jesus it shouldn't be any question, just pray and ask God(Jesus) what to do. I do not want to judge you that's not my place, but I know of a God who can answer all questions and solve all problems and This God name is Jesus. I know Jesus is the way the truth and the light of all things. I pray many blessings upon you and your family. I pray your marraige will be saved. God bless in Jesus name.

Anne - posted on 02/21/2010

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I can not tell you what to do, but I can tell you I will be Praying for you.

Emilie - posted on 02/21/2010

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My husband is Muslim and I am a Christian. I have 2 kids from a previous marriage, we don't have any kids of our own yet but I do want to have kids with him. We have been married almost a year. So far everything is great. He has no problem with me sending the kids to church, or celebrating christmas. He beleive in Jesus and he has his own bible.

I did have a problem though with my ex husband, he is a Jehovah Wittness. That was a big problem. I didn't think it would be but it turned out to be bad. I guess we should have talked more about that before we got married.

I don't think you and your husband should get divorced. Maybe you should try counsiling or talking to him calmly with other people present.

Where is he from?

My current husband is muslim, he believes in Jesus, but he does not believe Jesus is the son of GOD, to them Muhammed was the misiah and they belive that he was sent by God to tell people about God and lead the people.

Different Muslims beleive different it depends on their culture and where they are from.

If you need to you can message me, I can talk to my husband and ask what he recommends.

Jennifer - posted on 02/21/2010

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no i never bash him and his beliefs...and seeing as thought my pastor is my dad......(i may give it a try)....thank u ....so how should i feel about the situation as far as my daughter ..because right now its about me and how i feel what about how my daughter will feel she will still be able to see her father but should i be concerned with her feelings as well?

Suzanne - posted on 02/21/2010

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the bible also state to not be unevenly yoked. you have a great challenge. you need to seek your pastor for help, you need to also be open with your husband and tell him HOW HE MAKES YOU FEEL, WHEN HE SPEAKS BAD ABOUT THE TEACHINGS OF BEING A CHRISTAIN, I'M SURE YOU DON'T BEAT HIS BELIEFS ? RIGHT?
I WILL BE PRAYING FOR YOU AND YOUR CHILD, BUT SEEK YOUR PASTOR... GOOD LUCK.

Carly - posted on 02/21/2010

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Victoria: You said "It also says that if you are a believer to stay with your unbelieving spouse unless they are trying to stop you living out your christian walk", but where is that in the Bible?

I am almost positive that is not in the Bible at all. The Bible says to stay with your unbelieving spouse unless they commit adultery, or unless they leave you. This is found in 1 Cor 7.

Seeing as you have not married him, the Bible does not say that you must stay with him at all.

Jennifer - posted on 02/20/2010

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thank you all for your replies i really needed that.....but no where not married and no he does not believe in jesus as the son of god and that really bugs me.....i wanna leave like i said but he is a really good guy really good but the religion is our only issue......and right now i stay for our daughter and for that fact that he is a good man just ...i dont know....but i do know that i must go....thank you all once again...your the best....

Victoria - posted on 02/20/2010

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The word says do Not be unequally yoked. It also says that if you are a believer to stay with your unbelieving spouse unless they are trying to stop you living out your christian walk. However if you are not married (you never said) then you are not bound to stay just because of your daughter, God would be more pleased to see you return fully to him. God must come first, Always. There is a reason God set out in his word that we shouldn't intermarry with the nations, which has nothing to do with ethnic background or country of origin as some say, it's has to do with believers and unbelievers or followers of a different religion or god/gods which are no god at all (as God sets out in His Word). He said that when we intermarry, yoke ourselves with the nations they will lead us astray and try to make us follow their god and traditions. Once again put God first & seek him and go from there, if He's leading you to do something....DO IT!!!

Cynthia - posted on 02/19/2010

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dear sister

i dont know much about muslim but one thing am sure is that they don't believe in Jesus but as christian we know that Jesus is the only way the only saviour there is. so what i would advise you to do is to pray, ask God to show you the way , he knows what is best for you and your child and when you got the answer do his will , don,t fight. i know that as a chistian the holy spirit would have already convict you of the right way,that is why you said you know the answer obey what god lays on your heart sister. Do what is right. thks God bless.

Heather - posted on 02/19/2010

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I can't tell you what to do. I can tell you that the Bible talks about divorce very seriously. I would recommend reading 1 Corinthians 7. Also, the Bible talks about subitting to your husband, that does NOT include on religious matters that effect the soul. Live your faith. He knows you are a Christian, tell him that because you are a Christian certain things are important to you (in a kind loving manner of course).



I would also recommend learning about the muslim faith, see what the similarities and differences are to Christianity. That way you know what issues you face before they are brought up by him. It might help you be a little more prepared. (Even if you get divorced, you will still have to face these issues.)

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