Jennifer - posted on 01/11/2009 ( 8 moms have responded )
I was just going through the post about spanking. I try not to spank my 3 year old son, but sometimes I do feel a spanking in necessary. I'm doing the best I can, and the comments i read were really helpful, especially since a very close friend of mine has been telling me we need to spank him... nip his unacceptable behavior in the bud before it gets out fo control. The thing is, I was starting to get into the habit of spanking habitually, and when it gets to that point, it's nolonger punishment, but just an expected part of life, and I don't want that for my boy.
I'm having trouble with my husband's role in this as well. My husband will tolerate my son's behavior to the point where he gets so frustrated that he will spank him, then put him in time out, and the est of the day is pretty much getting after him some more. I admit, I've been through this same process myself, and I don't like it.
Then I start to turn my anger towards my husband. We have such a great marriage (6, almost 7 years). We've had our share of disagreements, but we've always been good to eachother. Now, with all this going on with my son doing things he shouldn't and refusing to do what he should, I find myslef angry at my husband because I feel he's leaving all the disciplining to me.
I can't change my husband, but I can change myself..... but I don't know what I can change to improve our situation. I know my husband is trying, and I love him very much. I have 2 friends I've talked to and both said they spanked their sons maybe 5 times in their lives and that was it. I don't even know how many times I've spanked my son, and nothing seems to have changed. I want to homeschool my son, but how can I do that if I can't get passed this?
Thank you in advance for your help, I have a feeling I'll be getting some really good Godly advice and encouragement:) God bless, and thank you again.