afraid at night..even when I know the Lord is with us...

Ms. Annette - posted on 02/21/2010

Wendi I hope my suggestions were of some help. let me know ok?

Cynthia - posted on 02/19/2010

dear sister
God is good , he will let no harm come to his children. Before you sleep ask him for his divine protection over your home and family and read psalm 91 out loud and meditate on all the promises found in there. claim these promises in Jesus' name and you' ll have peacefull nights.God bless sister.

Ms. Annette - posted on 02/19/2010

Wendi I will be praying for your and your daughter. I have a couple of suggestions. l. Get a guard dog. 2. Get a house Alarm. 3. Move in a male close relative. 4. Depending on the kind of job your husband has ask him if he could either change his work shift or change his job so that he can be home at night. This has always been one of my rules. My husband is to be home at night . We were not to be apart at night. We tried it once and it did not work after two nights. It was not good for our marriage. We never sleep apart and we never travel apart. If I can't go He can't go . If he can't go I can't go. That's the way it works for us. Talk to him! Talk to him!

Tah - posted on 02/15/2010

i will absolutely pray for you and your family, but you may want to take some precautions, a sensor alarm is a good idea, it can go off when there is movement. I would drf. look into it...praying for you

Catherine - posted on 02/14/2010

When Ezra took his trip with the Israelites to return to set up the temple of the Lord He decided to take no gaurds lest the people in the lands think that he feared them more than he trusted God. God granted him safe travels and to all those who travelled with him. Also, when Elisha was surrounded by an army seeking to destroy him, his servant feared. Elisha asked that God opened his eyes. Immediately the servant saw the Arny of the Lord greater in power and might than the enemy, surrounding them. I do not know why God allowed that to happen, but trusting God is always right, and he can give you peace. He will give perfect peace to those whose minds are stayed on Him. Give it to God, keep it there. He will be faithful.

Catherine - posted on 02/14/2010

Dear Jesus, You are God of the whole earth and have walls of protection around Your saints. I do not know why the burglur was allowed within. Please help the people of the house to have the peace that only You can give. Be with them as You were with those in the Bible. Let them walk in a courage and faith that will be a light to this world so filled with fear and confusion. In Your awesome Name, Amen.

Rebekah - posted on 02/13/2010

I encourage you to speak this verse into your heart (it is found in Psalm) "You will lie down and sleep in peace; and you will have pleasant dreams." That is a PROMISE from God to YOU. Yes, a scary situation, but you need to realize God's protection was upon your home that night - no one got hurt, no one actually entered. Start praying with your daughter every night before bed and asking God to guard every window and doorway, to flood your home with HIS peace, and then pray that Scripture over yourselves reminding God of His promise to you for sleep and pleasant dreams. Prayer is what you need here to combat the fear that has invaded your home - it's a spiritual battle. I will keep your family covered in prayer.

Rebecca - posted on 02/13/2010

Wendi- How scarey! My husband is a police officer and works nights, so I know what it is to be home alone at night and know what evil is outside (though in my case, "outside" isn't RIGHT outside). It may help to know that most people out to burglarize a home don't do it at night since people are at home, and most won't come back once they know someone IS at the home. I'm glad to hear that you do have some safety precautions in place.

When I was young and went through a phase where I couldn't sleep in the dark, my godmother (who is Catholic) spoke with me about gaurdian angels and how we all have angels that watch over us. She brought me a picture--you've probably seen it--with the gaurdian angel looking over two children who are out in a storm. While I am not Catholic the visual worked better for me. When I got scared at looked at the picture and remembered that God was watching out for me.

Some sort of visual in your daughter's room--a special cross, a picture, a prayer printed on the wall, etc may help your daughter have a focal point when she is scared. Something to look at that will remind her that God is watching out for her and she shouldn't be frightened. For that matter, it may help you as well. In the mean time, I will pray for your safety, but mostly for your peace of mind. God Bless.

Tomilola - posted on 02/12/2010

THE LORD WILL KEEP YOU. HE THAT WATCHES OVER ISRAEL NEVER SLEEPS NOR SLUMBER. DON'T BE AFRAID, FEAR IS NOT FROM HIM. NO EVIL SHALL BEFORE YOU AND YOUR DAUGHTER IN JESUS NAME. PEACE.

Glory - posted on 02/11/2010

what a coincidence. during bible study yesterday we were talking and i brought up the fact that i'm really scared of the dark and can't sleep by myself with just the baby, as soon as i'm sleeping in the same bed with my fiance i'm completely settled. that sounds completely harmless right? wrong! as you've probably heard anything that doesn't have to do with God is the Devil, i'm not saying my fiance is the devil but the fact that i rely on my fiance for security or like a security blanket is the devil. the devil doesn't want us to focus on God when really in situations like this what we should do is ask the Lord to take away our fear or we can turn on the light, open up a bible, and read some passages and see what the Lord directs us to. the fear could also mean that there is a part of your self that you aren't fully giving to the Lord, for example; we're basically saying Lord you can have this 80% but the other 20% is mine. the devil can't touch the 80% the Lord has because not a hair on our head will perish (Luke 21: 18) but he'll take advantage of that 20% and use it to take our focus off the Lord and more on the fear and our security blankets (aka husbands/fiances) instead of the Lord. at times like this all the Lord really wants is for us to call on him and ask him, what part of us are we not surrending to him? what are we still holding on to? a couple of verses that are truly helpful is Daniel 3, Luke 21:10-19 and Romans 8. Daniel 3 talks about 3 men that were thrown into a sort of furnace to burn because they wouldn't worship the kings golden image of a "god" and didn't bow to him when he blew his horns and his instruments played. BUT when the king confronted them and ordered them to bow the 3 men told him that they wouldn't bow and that they would be protected by God and the king turned the heat up 7 times higher then normal and threw them in. he threw in their garments and clothes and they incinerated but when they were thrown in by his strongest men they just stood in the fire and the king asked his men "did i not throw the men in? here i see four men standing in the fire and the fourth has an appearence like the son of gods." so he ordered them out and saw that not a single hair was burnt none of their clothes were burnt or even had a trace that the fire touched them. this is a very interesting chapter, check it out.

Wendi - posted on 02/11/2010

Cynthia, thank you....My mom was a single mother of two girls...boy did we give her a time...She was scared too I remember...i think that is where some of my fears come from....I will pray pray pray and believe me I do....I will be praying for you too..thanks...

Cynthia - posted on 02/11/2010

it must be hard to be there alone with your daughter, it's hard, i ve always been a single mom 14 and 4 , and i have felt scarred at night , even though i know god is watching over us always, (he doesnt take breaks or sleeps,) and i have felt sometimes scared just because but just pray pray pray and tell our lord to take those feeling away and help you and your baby girl feel safe.i will pray for you as well and god bless you , your home and your family always. remember god's protection is always with us as long as we are with him.

Wendi - posted on 02/10/2010

Linda, no problem, I did not take your coments as meaning I needed a gun that is why I said I felt I should not. I got something from all of you ladies. I have enjoyed learning things I can do to keep my daughter and myself feeling safea night...thanks you very much to all of you....

Heather - posted on 02/09/2010

It sounds scary, but God is always in control. Praise God that he didn't get into the house and that you are safe. I don't have any advice, but I will pray.

Linda - posted on 02/09/2010

Sorry, I did not intend to say you should have a gun...quite the opposite. I had a gun because we had guns at the time and I kept it with me because I knew how to use it. You should not have a gun just for the purpose of stopping an intruder....no way. Sorry I might have been misunderstood. God is able to keep you safe, above everything else. My daughters pit bull would lick an intruder and want to be his friend, so I understand about dogs as well. Mine happens to be a good one who scares most people, even when he shouldn't!

Wendi - posted on 02/09/2010

I agree about the curtain the one she has is obviously not good enough...that past two nights have been better for her and me as well. I ma sure some of her reaction is feeling my sence of unease right now at bed time...so far tonight she is in her bed being quiet so we shall see thanks to all you ladies for your sugestions and prayers...I got something out of all of them...thanks Again Wendi

Sheryl - posted on 02/09/2010

i am sorry but i don't agree with linda but that ok not to agree. cause i belive that a bat is a good back up. i feel as long as you know how to hit with it and where to hit it works. i feel its better than a gun and better than a knife. specially when there are kids in the house. plus, it easer to use when it not to heavy for you. yes dog are good to have in something like that. but they may need training. then again some dogs are just scared dogs. one thing if you don't want to do any of those i just thought about that i did was i got a heavy curtain for my kids room to where at night time no one can see in and no was can see out. there also great for day time naps. hope that helps some. it may help your lil girl along with all the prayers and songs too. the curtain are almost like jean m. hope that helps some. god bless you and your family.

Wendi - posted on 02/09/2010

Linda, I love my husband, but I am afraid with his temper havinga gun would not be good in our home. I love the Lord, and do my best to be a good Christian, but I am logical too and sometimes we just know when a situation would not be good. I do have extra locks on all the doors, and on tomp of the windows being locked, we here in Iowa need plastic up right now. I do have a dog believe it or not, and all he could do was hide in the corner never even barked once...my toe cats were at the door growling. GO figure...I appreciate the suggestions about singing songs to her, and the mace...thanks so much....

Linda - posted on 02/09/2010

I'm sorry that happened to you. It is very scary. My house was broken into when my two oldest were babies. I am not anti-gun and slept with one next to me on the couch the next night when my husband was working. However, I don't blame you for not wanting to have a gun. If you don't know how to use it, you shouldn't have one in the house. A bat is easily taken from you so I wouldn't count on it too much. Mace or something like it might be better. Make sure you have dead bolts with extra long screws into the door frame so they are not easily broken. Make sure you have all the windows locked, and that your motion lights are working. How about a dog? I have a Rottweiler and a yellow lab...both bark, but the Rott is who scares everyone, and rightly so! Also, when my children were scared at night I always sang Jesus Loves Me to them and taught them to sing songs from Sunday School when they had a bad dream and were frightened. When my son was afraid of the wind in preschool his teacher taught him the verse: Fear not for I am with thee. That helped him.

Wendi - posted on 02/09/2010

Thank you Tina I will write it down and each night I will read it to my daughter before we go to bed so she can learn it as she grows up too....

Tina - posted on 02/09/2010

I have gone through that fear at night as a single mom of two living in a rural area... what has helped me the most is praying for God's protection each evening before we go to bed, it helps our faith and also teaches our little ones to learn who to rely on... their heavenly Father. Read Ps. 91... it is filled with promise of protection.
Keeping you both in prayer~

Marisa - posted on 02/09/2010

Praying for the both of you!

Wendi - posted on 02/09/2010

Tiffany, the guy did not get in the house...Thank God...And yes Evil does sneak in andsometime bad things happen to use even though we are Christians...I appreciate the prayers....God bless you too...

Wendi - posted on 02/09/2010

Sheryl, THANKS FOR THE INPUT. We actually do have motion lights and three security cameras..the motion light for some reason did not click on until the person was at the back door for a few minutes. When it finally did kick o that scared him to the side of the house. our security cameras were on, but the two vcrs that are hooked up to tehm had a power surge when the power went out the week before go figure...At least the person did not get in, but I keep worrying that they will try and come back. I will try and get a bat. as I am anti gun....thanks again and may God bless you and yours...

Tiffany - posted on 02/08/2010

That is really scarey, I am so sorry you had to go thru that! Did the guy get in the house and did you get hurt? I will be praying for God to watch over you from now on...not that he wasn't before but Evil sneaks in.
God Bless Tiffany :)

Sheryl - posted on 02/08/2010

i feel for you. my husbend used to work nights too. i hated it, even though i know the lord was with us. the only time i slept good was when he was home. what i would do is get a alarm system or even just alarm that can got on windows and doors. plus they got those light that turn on when someone is walking by it. plus camras. if that would help you sleep and fell safe then i would go for it. what my husbend even did was get me and bat a all mental. cause i did play softball and got a girls softball award for hitting. but that what worked for me. i would take to your husbend for some ideas. one thing too that you may want to do is always keep the phone near you. hope that helps you. the lord is always with you and your child. but the lord never said that you can't take steps to feel even safe along with having him. but that just the way i feel. it may help your lil girl feel better. but that just my point of view.